Parents' family education experience 202 1 A child is innocent and pure. Besides the basic genetic effect, the child's brain development is also closely related to the child's childhood life experience. If parents don't let their children realize that it takes great efforts to make contributions, and children encounter many difficulties in the process of studying hard, children will think that they can't do what their parents say, and they will feel depressed and sad, which will seriously affect their confidence in making progress and seeking knowledge. Therefore, parents should help their children to establish correct values! Let's share some ways to establish children's correct values from our own family education experience!
First, create adversity and sharpen children's perseverance.
Don't spoil children, it can create some setbacks and test their perseverance.
Second, let children start by overcoming small difficulties.
We should be strict with our children, let them overcome difficulties and gradually improve, and we must persist in achieving results.
Third, play an exemplary role and stimulate self-exercise.
According to the characteristics of children, parents can tell stories, watch movies, go to the Martyrs Memorial Hall and read books. Let children learn typical characters, inspire self-education and cultivate perseverance.
Fourth, the combination of love and strictness.
Correct love for children is the basis of cultivating children's good character. If parents want to love their children properly, they must unify love and strictness. Parents are strict with their children in behavior quality, and children will certainly suffer, but in the long run, it will help cultivate their good character. Fear of children suffering, too accommodating to children, may lead to the Japanese, their wayward and dependent personality characteristics, will not suffer in later life. In fact, whether children will be happy in the future is more influenced by their personality.
Fifth, help children set up lofty dreams.
Dreams are the core of personality. Dream is a conscious pursuit that is gradually formed in children's minds through the inspiration and guidance of parents, teachers and society. Parents can't set goals, set dreams and impose them on their children. The child is naive. They often want to be a writer when they grow up, because they read an article that deeply touched them. They want to be a scientist because they visited a natural museum. They may decide to be teachers when they grow up, because they met an amiable and lovely teacher. Don't easily deny these ideas of children, but encourage them to be enterprising and ambitious. With the growth of age, according to the emergence of different advantages of different children, we will gradually guide them to develop in the right direction.
Sixth, pay attention to training from daily chores.
Drop water to see the sun. To cultivate children's sound personality, it is not enough to talk about the director of Avenue. It is important to start from daily life.
Parents' family education experience 202 1 Two children are like flowers in spring, innocent, lively and lovely, innocent, with poor ability to distinguish right from wrong, strong curiosity and strong ability to understand and imitate. Therefore, parents should never use simple and rude methods when educating their children. We should be good at guiding, try our best to stimulate their interest and change passive learning into active learning. They should mainly do the following work:
First, cultivate children's good study habits.
Ye Shengtao said: "Education is the formation of habits." "All good attitudes and good methods should become habits. Only when proficiency becomes a habit, a good attitude can be expressed anytime and anywhere, and a good method can be applied anytime and anywhere, as if by instinct, it will never be used up in a lifetime. " Children's concentration time is short, so they must improve their learning efficiency in peacetime. For example, when writing homework, you should finish the homework assigned by the teacher within the specified time, and you can't play while doing it; Homework self-examination, self-responsibility, parents are not allowed to be teachers; Parents must pay attention to the analysis of the reasons for the wrong questions, not just staring at the scores. This makes children feel that learning is their own business, and good study habits can get twice the result with half the effort.
Second, pay attention to the ways and means of communicating with children.
As parents, we should put down our airs, make friends with children, regard children as independent subjects, communicate with children as low as possible, use less imperative tone and use more negotiating language. Use "we" more than "you should", even if it is criticism, let your child feel your love for him. Because children's hearts are very fragile, if parents often give their children classes, they will inevitably have a sense of fear and disgust. If they dare not approach you, they will often have rebellious psychology. Not only do they not like what you say, but they are afraid to go to school.
Third, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds.
As parents, we should pay special attention to our self-image. In front of children, parents should be polite and behave appropriately. Because parents are role models for children, parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on children and have a far-reaching impact on their growth. Of course, we must have great endurance and be patient with children. Don't use your child as a vent bucket when you encounter troubles at work. As parents, you can't lose your temper. You can only take pains to persuade education. At most, you can only euphemistically say "I'm really angry if you do this again", and then patiently guide and persuade.
Fourth, stimulate children's interest in learning.
As parents, we should try our best to guide and stimulate children's interest in learning. We all know that children are active and playful by nature, but as long as they are interested in something, they will really study hard, do it seriously and do it consciously. They don't want to do things they are not interested in, and it is impossible to drive ducks to the shelves for their children. Only by being good at guiding children and stimulating their interest in learning can children be happy and actively involved in learning. Usually, you can make use of your knowledge and imagination, and make up some interesting stories or interesting games. Let the children learn while playing, and learn while playing, so as to truly "enjoy learning".
In short, for children's family education, we should learn to communicate with them attentively, help them develop good study habits, stimulate their interest in learning, and let them study happily and grow up healthily.
Parents' family education experience 202 1 Three children are the future of the motherland and the expectation of the family. Today's seedlings are tomorrow's towering trees. Therefore, every pair of parents will care and guide their children with love and responsibility during their growth. However, although it is the common expectation of every parent that the son will live forever and the daughter will live forever, not all parents can get what they want. Recently, I listened to the course broadcast of Mr. Liu from Yiqi, and gained a lot. Children's education needs humanization. If society can cultivate people, there will be "waste products". There will be a large number of talents in the school, and there will be some talents who have accomplished nothing. The final decision is family education. "Family is the first school for children, and parents are the first teachers for children!" The following is my family education experience:
First, create a warm and comfortable environment and create a strong learning atmosphere
(1) The family is the main energy source for children. Handle the relationship between husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, create a harmonious family environment for children, raise and grow a family full of books and make the family full of laughter.
(2) Parents should pay attention to words and deeds and cultivate their children's good study habits and attitudes. As parents, we should pay special attention to our self-image. In front of children, parents should be polite and behave appropriately. Because parents are the best role models for children, parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on children and have a far-reaching impact on their growth. Please put down your mobile phone and electronic products, and you can pick up the book while your child is doing his homework. You can take your children to the library to read books on weekends and forge a good learning atmosphere.
Second, cultivate children's learning fun, stimulate learning motivation and improve learning skills.
Children are like flowers in spring, innocent, lively and lovely, innocent, curious, understanding and imitating. As parents, we should try our best to be good at guiding and stimulate children's interest in learning. We all know that children are active and playful by nature, but as long as they are interested in something, she will really study hard, do it seriously and do it consciously. They don't want to do things they are not interested in, and it is impossible to drive ducks to the shelves for their children. Only by being good at guiding children and stimulating their interest in learning can children be happy and actively involved in learning. Really "enjoy learning".
Third, communicate with children diligently and effectively, encourage them more, and give them full love.
As parents, we should put down our airs, make friends with children, regard children as independent subjects, communicate with children as low as possible, use less imperative tone and use more negotiating language. Use more "we" and "what do you think" and less "you should", even if it is criticism, let the child feel your love for him. Because the child's mind is very fragile, if parents often give their children lessons, it will inevitably make them feel fear and disgust. If they dare not approach you, they will often have rebellious psychology and dislike what you say more and more. Give your child more appreciation, be good at discovering her unique advantages and strengths, watch her make little progress, encourage her, patiently guide her, and support her with words and practical actions, especially when the child encounters difficulties, not simply shouting or cynicism, but patiently enlighten and forge ahead, and provide solutions to problems.
Finally, I borrowed a sentence from Teacher X: "Cultivate one's morality, keep one's family in order, practice one's mouth (behavior) and mind (thoughts, ideas, emotions and will). Qijia (learning to help children grow up, improve life skills, learn skills, deal with relationships, control emotions, and create a family energy field) children will become more and more excellent! " I hope all children can fly to joy! Fly to success!
Parents' Family Education Experience 202 14 As parents, it can be said that everyone in inherit the wind is eager for their children to become talents. Especially in contemporary times, with the rapid development of science and technology, the expansion of knowledge economy and the increasingly fierce social competition, people have higher expectations for their children. However, there are indeed many problems in family education at present. Let me describe some practices and feelings of children in family education after entering junior high school.
Children learn easily in kindergartens and primary schools, and families try their best to create a good living environment for them. Given the correct guidance, there is no problem in ideology and morality, and I have not felt the urgency and importance of family education. In junior high school, children's learning environment and learning tasks have undergone fundamental changes, and parents' mentality has completely changed, and their expectations for children are getting closer and closer. The changes of parents and children make family education not as simple as imagined, nor as easy to control as the book says.
First, authority and equal communication
Family education must be authoritative, but it is not absolute authority, otherwise it will be counterproductive, and equal exchanges and friendship with sons will also get good results. This is my first feeling.
All children are naturally fond of playing, especially boys. My children like online games in primary school. In the past, because they didn't take time off to participate in the training of the school track and field team, they went to the Internet cafe to play games and were eventually expelled from the school track and field team. I found them because they went to the internet cafe before. At that time, my father's authority had to be reflected in the case of being unable to communicate. At that time, it was easier for sons to understand authoritative education. Of course, only one spouse needs higher authority. After entering junior high school, my son is still very playful. Although he is nervous about his studies, he still has a soft spot for online games. Compulsory authoritative education is definitely not feasible. It is unrealistic not to play games at all. Communication is the best way. Of course, communication needs to be paid and unremitting efforts are needed, including correctly understanding children's mistakes and rationally educating them. When I was in the first grade, my son and I signed an agreement on an equal footing, not going to Internet cafes, and surfing the Internet for three hours at home every Friday. In fact, there is an essential difference between surfing the Internet at home and going to Internet cafes. One is that online information is controllable, and the other is that it is not exposed to bad environment. With the growth of children's age and unremitting guidance, the agreement was re-signed in the second day of junior high school, and they went online once every two weeks. Encourage him to go out and do some useful sports in his spare time, such as playing basketball and table tennis. In the past two years' study, children in junior high schools have always had good grades and healthy thoughts, although sometimes their grades fluctuate. What I feel deeply in these two years is guidance. Caring for children and communicating with them are the basis of guiding their progress. I think this is also an important part of family education for the only child to grow up in a good living environment.
Second, example is more important than words.
Children's growing environment is worthy of great attention in family education, and all aspects of family life will have a subtle influence on children, so family members always pay attention to their words and deeds. We never play online games at home, and even when our children are doing their homework, we seldom watch TV to avoid psychological imbalance. This is a lesson. When the children are doing their homework in the room, we watch TV in the living room, which seems to have no effect. In fact, he is a child after all, even an adult may not be so. He is always disturbed. He will come out to watch TV with us when he has the chance. At this time, he will not listen to what others say easily, and he will strongly refute you if he says it seriously, so example is more important than words.
Third, treat achievements and mistakes correctly.
Every child will have various problems at different stages of growth. The key is to find problems in time and treat them correctly. This is inseparable from frequent communication with children. Without communication, the problems of children can't be found. Caring for children, in addition to physical care, should pay more attention to children's feelings. When my son and I are close friends, our son's dynamics can be clearly grasped, including the situation of his classmates. At this time, he is very willing and eager to talk to his parents, so let the children have channels to talk and opportunities to communicate. If something goes wrong, such as not dreaming about your exam results, you can't blame and nag blindly, otherwise you will have conflicts with your children, get the root of the problem, and lose equal friendship. This is also a lesson. Don't try to get any information from him at this time. When you get home, you will ignore it. If you ask too many questions, he will be angry with you (this may be a common problem of only children), and the problem will naturally not be solved. Once you find a problem with your child, you must point it out and guide it in time, encourage your son's achievements and give him the necessary financial rewards. However, this economic reward is only a little pocket money to buy snacks and drinking water every day, and the effect is also very good.
In short, parents should not be too happy when children have some achievements; Don't get angry easily when you make a mistake. On the one hand, you should leave room for your children. On the other hand, you should seize the opportunity to educate him rationally when he knows his mistake. How to treat it correctly depends on the situation at that time. Parents' expectations of children are not equal to children's goals, and correct guidance and children's interest are very important.