Fang's father devoted a lot of effort to Fang Hung-chien and placed high hopes on his eldest son. Fang's father is a literate man who personally teaches Fang Hung-chien Chinese. Fang Hung-chien won the second place in the senior high school entrance examination. At that time, he was a good son and a good student with good grades.
After returning to China, Fang received a grand treatment. Manager Zhou and Fang Hung-chien's father felt that Fang Hung-chien had become a folk dragon and phoenix. It's a pity that Fang Hung-chien was losing ground, and he couldn't live as they wished.
Fang Hung-chien is a rich boy from a poor family. His failure was not accidental but inevitable.
Fang Hung-chien went to college, changed three departments, studied philosophy from society, and finally went to Chinese. After studying abroad for four years, I changed to three universities, listened to some classes casually and lived a lazy life.
This is in stark contrast to Fang Hung-chien's hard work in middle school.
With the ability of Fang Hung-chien's father, he should be educated to "study hard", listen to things outside the window and concentrate on reading sage books. What is the purpose of reading? Fang's father didn't teach Fang Hung-chien, because he didn't know it himself, and he indulged in his own satisfaction all day. Fang Hung-chien was used to relying on his father's teaching, and he was too lazy to think when he was an adult.
In today's society, many people don't know why they study and for whom. Before I went to college, my parents urged me to push forward. At this time, my grades were OK. However, when you go to college, no one cares. Once you lose the drive of external force, you will become a headless fly, fail the course loosely, and even fail to graduate.
Qian Zhongshu created this role decades ago, which is really sharp. This kind of person can be said to have always existed.
The reason is that there is no goal in life, no long-term planning, and eventually you will make mistakes in your life.
Seven years of precious study time is enough for young people with dreams to constantly improve and enrich themselves and learn survival skills. Fang Hung-chien had fun all day and learned nothing. In Zhou's eyes, he could neither read nor practice martial arts, and got nothing.
Fang Hung-chien is the "oblivious" Zhong Yong in "Mourning Zhong Yong", and "all ages are sad and don't work hard". Missing time, forever missing, looking back and sighing, has no meaning!
Children raised by poor parents have one characteristic: being overprotected by their families and ungrateful.
Give your children the best things by your own efforts. What is the best thing? It is to establish a child's sense of responsibility, guide him to the road of life smoothly, and his ability to survive in society.
Fang's parents gave Fang Hung-chien a rich upbringing, which enabled him to receive a high-level education and broaden his horizons. There is nothing wrong with this idea itself, but he did not let Fang Hung-chien know his responsibility, a responsibility to his family. Let Fang Hung-chien feel that the conditions at home are not bad and he doesn't need to bear anything.
When I was in college, my family should be ok. I persuaded my son not to divorce, so I scraped together a sum of money to buy nutrition to replenish my health. Fang Hung-chien didn't cherish the hard-won money, didn't think it was hard-won, didn't think it was left by his family's frugality, but took it for granted. Isn't Fang Jia short of money? Not exactly. Otherwise, Fang's father won't be glad that Fang Hung-chien didn't marry Zhou's daughter when she died three years ago, saving a sum of money.
After going to college, Fang Hung-chien learned about his family. According to the truth, as the eldest son of the family, he should assume the responsibility of the family, go to work and support the family with his parents. But he didn't. It was an unexpected surprise that Mr. Zhou was willing to sponsor him to study abroad. Neither Fang Hung-chien nor his father thought that it was natural to rely on them to satisfy their own ideas, but what virtue and ability did Fang Hung-chien have to accept this kind of funding calmly?
Don't say the Zhou family is stingy. Who doesn't want to receive the return on all investments? Or human feelings, or economy. What is Fang Hung-chien's return to the Zhou family? Respect, consideration and hard work? None of them. So Mrs. Zhou later called him heartless, and she really didn't wronged him.
After falling out with the Zhou family, Fang's father blamed the Zhou family blindly, and his kindness was written off. Why not think back? Without the Zhou family, how could Fang Hung-chien cross the ocean for four years? Under such a mentor, Fang Hung-chien is ungrateful, and even less appreciative.
Gratitude is a person's accomplishment and quality. Only with a grateful heart can we feel the beauty of the world, and the kindness of the people and beautiful flowers will bloom in this heart.
Thanksgiving is very popular now. Let's learn to say "thank you" to life and people around us. Maybe you don't have to repay the kindness of dripping water, but remember that the kindness of dripping water is the life-saving water when we are in trouble, and it can still touch ourselves and others.
Fang Hung-chien's ignorance is doomed to be useless. Without a skill, no matter ancient or modern, Chinese or foreign, it is difficult to survive in any era.
We once naively thought that I would choose what I wanted. However, life asks you in turn: What can you do? Let me see if I can let you do it.
We have all had such entanglements and choices in job hunting. Without excellent ability, do novices in the workplace often complain like this, but complaining is complaining. Survival is the first. Only by studying hard can we move forward step by step. If you can't get fat in one bite, you have to be down-to-earth, do things honestly and be a leader in the industry. All walks of life have their own way of survival.
Fang Hung-chien despises the work of some gold and silver shops, muddling along all day, hanging idle posts and getting paid. In the face of disappointment, has Fang Hung-chien ever thought about changing the status quo? No, first, I didn't concentrate on learning business knowledge in some gold and silver shops, and second, I didn't actively try to find a job. It was when he was in high spirits that he chose to go with the flow. If Zhao hadn't recommended him to go to college, no one knew how long he would stay in Dianjin.
Going back to the countryside and giving a speech in a middle school should not be a problem with his eloquence. It is precisely because of his disdain and disdain for this kind of speech that he turned over a book and wrote a speech of 1000 words under the condition of drunkenness. Careless handling of it led to a big joke. I don't want to do small things, but I can't do big things. San Lv University has found many mistakes in teaching English.
Society often teaches people the most vivid lesson. What you despise is something you can't do well, because you have no intention to do it. What you like is what you can't do because you have no ability to do it.
People with low eyes and high skills are everywhere in life, which doomed him to accomplish nothing. Which of those nerds isn't? They are afraid of weight, escape from reality, and finally become parasites in the dark.
There is never a shortcut to success. Only down-to-earth, step by step, have a chance to get out of a road.
Fang Hung-chien is very headstrong. After studying abroad for several years, he squandered money and time without even getting a diploma. Needless to say.
I am also self-centered and talk about the uselessness of academic qualifications. Manager Zhou and Fang's father didn't tolerate him and asked for a diploma. This is a social rule.
Fang Hung-chien paid a heavy price for his appointment. Willful speech, loss of dignity; Intentionally offended Mrs. Zhou and lost her first job; Willful teaching, dismissed by Gao Songnian; If you are willful and lose your temper, your marriage will be in jeopardy. Every environment has its own rules of the game. If you don't think so, you have to be eliminated.
Others' tolerance is limited. Once you can, twice you may forgive. After a long time, no one will tolerate you any more. This requires personal growth. Even though he was born in a family and didn't teach himself something, when he entered the society, he must learn how to live in peace with the world, how to advance and retreat, and how to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses.
Who doesn't want to live willfully? But who can live willfully? Everyone is not only an individual, but also a part of a group. Compromise is not a sin, and principled compromise is the smartest way. Zhao did it and understood it. Even though the Monkey King has great ability, he still has to go through all the hardships under the framework of Buddhism if he wants to become a true Buddha.
Life will make Fang Hung-chien more and more willful, and he will gradually integrate into the society, but in the process, he will take more detours.
I have also met many wayward novices in the workplace, who pay attention to individuality and self, gradually lose their temperament and finally become a part of the collective. Ideal and reality are never the same. Walking out of the ideal and moving towards reality is the growth of people!
The society taught Fang Hung-chien the most important lesson, which made him experience failures again and again, and made him see this reality bit by bit. Fang Hung-chien has an intellectual's lofty, simple and kind mind, but he also has his limitations. He has a good face and doesn't cause trouble, but he can't avoid it. He didn't protect himself, was helpless about complicated interpersonal relationships, disdained his background, and couldn't escape, and was beaten to pieces by life.
Now the children raised by the poor are probably Fang Hung-chien. They have high hopes, but for various reasons, themselves, their families and society have underestimated the cruelty of reality. There is no heavy responsibility entrusted, only struggling in life, constantly wandering in contradictions, such as being trapped in a cocoon.
There is still a chance. If you can break out of the cocoon, you can become that beautiful butterfly. If you can't change it, you will only be trapped in a cocoon forever, just a pupa. Life is always going on, and nothing will change because of someone.