I think most of the older generation think that you are no different from them, and their lives are terrible, but they don't want you to be better than them and surpass them. Relatives around us are willing to tell people this and that as a "experienced person" and point fingers, and tell you this and that in a condescending tone. As long as you look at it a little, you will find that those things that they often warn you not to do this and that are all things that they have tried their best to do, but can't do for various reasons. This kind of preaching is actually that they directly admit their incompetence in this way. When they see you succeed in what they want to do but fail, they are either envious and sincerely blessed, or full of jealousy and twisted resentment, or they come to curry favor with and be snobbish. Except for the first kind of relatives, most of them are psychologically distorted and extremely self-abased. They want to drag you into the water and step on your feet extremely, keep a polite distance from your relatives, and then do things seriously, accumulate, use what I use, learn what I can, accumulate wealth and struggle with wisdom. It won't be long before those so-called relatives learn to shut up.

The reason why relatives love to educate people, or we think that relatives love to educate people, may be because such relatives are inferior and arrogant. They feel inferior before a little achievement, and after a little achievement (a bad achievement is also an achievement, but not a good one), they think they have experience and like to engage in value bundling. Stay away from this place. If relatives really get a position in a certain field, they don't have to be justices, state leaders, university professors (mathematics, economics, finance, history, philosophy, language, etc.). Except for those who teach physical education). If his/her advice is constructive and this kind of preaching is conducive to understanding things from different angles, then if the object of preaching is me, then I don't mind listening to this kind of preaching, anyway. Even if few people can give this kind of sermon, it is better than dumping spiritual garbage out of jealousy.