At one time, people's education for children was probably stick education. A golden hoop gives birth to a dutiful son. You can't do that. . My parents always hold me when I beat and scold my children. I always treat children's problems simply and rudely for their good ideas.
But in fact, this effect is not good, and it may be counterproductive in many cases. If the hand is heavy, the child may be hit with problems, but the hand is light and the education is not profound. Children forget when they pass. Even in many cases, beating and scolding children makes them more rebellious.
In fact, stick education is more harmful to children's body and mind and can't solve the problem. What we should do is to listen more, be patient, guide more, respect more and encourage more children to grow up healthily. After all, this unreasonable child today may be the original you. Imagine, at the beginning, did you really want to be educated by sticks all the time?
Is bonzi education really good?
Some people regard stick education as a part of traditional culture. In fact, this view is not correct. We can learn a thing or two from Confucius' educational methods of teaching students in accordance with their aptitude. Confucius never did? No fighting, no talent? Something like that And in ancient times, more? Have you ever been near, exhorting you to make you more, please my color and soften my voice? In other words, when family members make comments, they should say it with a pleasant countenance, not with a serious expression.
In ancient times, stick education was actually more popular with the bottom of society and was the dross part of cultural tradition. Explain that the bottom people have a low level of education and little knowledge and culture, so they can only use it? Bonzi education? This incompetent, simple and rude education method.
Since childhood, many of us may have experienced stick education, but this kind of education has little positive significance for children. On the contrary, we have accumulated hatred since childhood, and then have children when we grow up, which is deeply poisoned by this kind of education. When educating children, we often unconsciously adopt this way of education. When educating children, there may be resentment accumulated in childhood.
Therefore, when educating children, please don't use the lack and incompetence of your own education methods. Bonzi education? To cover up the truth. You know, hypocrisy and rudeness are always inseparable. Often rude people, in fact, are often to cover up hypocritical human nature.
If I used to be educated with sticks when I was a child, such people are often not timid and introverted, but rebellious and rude people.
How to educate children is more conducive to their growth? Children need more company.
The alienation between children and their parents is often the lack of parental companionship. Nowadays, parents are busy with work and spend less time with their children. They may all think that this is for the good of their children and provide them with better living conditions.
But in a child's mind, all that is needed is material things? In fact, children's needs for material life are actually very few, and more spiritual needs require parents' companionship, care and care.
In this way, the relationship between parents and children will be better, parents will know their children better, and children will listen to their parents more.
Listen to the children's voices more.
Children make mistakes, but parents don't know why children make mistakes. If you only know how to beat and scold children, then children will be alienated from their parents and will not have heart-to-heart talks with them. In fact, when children make mistakes, parents should first learn to control their temper, listen to their children's thoughts and feelings, and communicate with them more. This way is more conducive to the healthy growth of children.
After all, the mistakes that children can let go are relatively minor, and parents don't need to be furious. In fact, many times parents are willing to calm down and listen to their children's voices, and children will not make mistakes in order to attract their parents' attention. Will not become more and more rebellious.
You know, when we were young, when we were scolded by our parents, in fact, we all thought that our parents didn't know themselves at all!
Make friends with children
Parents should not always be condescending. In fact, although children are small, they need to be respected. Only when parents meet their children equally can they win their hearts.
Children need friends who can spend more time with themselves, play with themselves and listen to their voices, instead of always scolding their parents. Such parents will have a higher image in their children's minds. Children are also more willing to listen to their parents.
Therefore, when parents are angry, it is best not to discipline their children. At this time, parents may lose their rationality and make the children who were a little rebellious more rebellious.
On the road of children's growth, we need friends and respect their choices and preferences, instead of deciding everything for children, making arrangements for children and being manipulated by people as puppets. Children also have their own lives and future paths, and they need to go by themselves. We need to give them the right to choose and decide for themselves. This also requires us to exercise our children from an early age so that they can go further and fly freely in the blue sky in the future. Isn't that what we want?
What do you think of educating children?
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