First, it is related to the state of life.
It has become a fixed trend for rural people to go out to work. In order to make more money when their children are young, many parents often choose to leave their children at home and give them care.
For grandparents, all they can give their children is food and clothing. For children's education, many grandparents can't do it well, resulting in some common problems of left-behind children in rural areas, such as not loving learning, playing, being obsessed with mobile phones and even puppy love.
Many children don't meet their parents all the year round, and they are emotionally alienated. At the end of each year, their parents will come back from afar with all kinds of gifts for their children. However, the children they saw were not the children they imagined.
Some people say, is it important to earn money or children? What's the point of wasting a child to earn money, no matter how much money?
Having said that, how can we raise children if there is no money in the countryside? Everything a child needs can't be satisfied without money.
The ambition of the village is such a couple. In order to let their children receive a good education, they transferred their children from rural schools to cities, rented houses for grandma to take care of, and the couple worked somewhere in Zhejiang.
Just last year, the class teacher gave an ultimatum, either you and your wife come back or let the children transfer. You can choose between them.
It turns out that grandma's education level is not high, but she is generous to her children. As long as money can solve the child's requirements, it will be satisfied immediately. Gradually, she spoiled her child as a "bully", not only being rude at home, but also bringing this habit to school and class. From an obedient and self-disciplined child to today, many people blame her grandmother, but if parents are strict with her.
Finally, Dazhi decided to let his daughter-in-law go back, while he continued to work elsewhere. He hopes that this will bring the children back in time and make up for everything he owes them for so many years. I just don't know, is it too late to do so now?
Second, it is related to psychological factors.
Some parents and children will inevitably compete with other children when they grow up, such as taking the college entrance examination or taking part in work and getting married. Many parents always secretly complain that if they discipline their children more strictly, if they give them more, if they ...
However, if only if there is no regret medicine in the world, the children have not been admitted to the university, have not found a good job, and have not married a satisfactory daughter-in-law, many parents think that it is caused by their own inaction, and thus feel that they owe their children a lot.
In fact, parents don't have to do this. Parents' education accounts for part of the factors, and children's own efforts also account for a large part of the factors. The reason why other children are excellent is the embodiment of comprehensive factors, and it is unacceptable to compare themselves with others.
For many rural parents, life is not easy. Everything you do is to make the children live better. As long as you have a clear conscience, as for the rest, let nature take its course.