Both father and mother are indispensable roles in family education. If there is a lack of father or mother during the child's growth, it will have a certain adverse impact on the child's growth.
Due to some subjective and objective factors, the missing subject in most families is usually the father.
With the development of the times, this phenomenon has been noticed by more and more people. They attach importance to a series of problems caused by the absence of their fathers on family education and children, and have come up with many solutions.
Although this problem still exists, I believe it will be properly solved in the near future, so that the father can return to the family and fulfill his responsibility of raising children.
On June 5438+1October 3 1, Zhang Jiguang, the principal of a primary school in Hubei Province, suggested that a "father-receiving day" be set up in primary and secondary schools to further promote fathers' return to family education and stimulate "father energy"
On the day of "Father's Pick-up Day", it is necessary to force the father of the child to be present, pick up the child from school, and hold the child's hand home.
The headmaster said that it is very important and influential for fathers to send their children to school and cultivate their independence, rationality, firmness, exploration and creativity.
President Zhang Jiguang said: "It is only a form for a father to pick up and drop off his children. It is important to tell parents through' Father's Day' that fathers play a very important role in family education and must not be absent in the process of raising children. No matter how busy the father is at work, he should spend more time with his children and better fulfill his responsibilities as a father. "
You know, when most schools go to school, they will find that the parents who come to pick up their children are usually their mothers, grandmothers or grandfathers. The role of father is rarely seen at the school gate.
"Where did Dad go?" This makes people suspect that it is normal to send children to and from school, but someone still has to appeal. It can be seen that in daily life, men rarely participate in parenting.
Some dads are too busy to pick up and drop off their children, some dads don't want to pick up and drop off their children because they are drinking and bragging with friends, and even some dads directly evade their parenting responsibilities, and even can't find a figure ... In this case, the father's parenting responsibilities are directly passed on to other family members, which increases their pressure and burden.
After the news was posted on the hot search, netizens were amazed at the setting of "Dad Pick-up Day". They should let the father of the child participate in parenting and experience the hard work of educating the child.
However, some netizens asked: "Dad is busy at work, so tired, how can he have time to pick up the children?"
However, this question was refuted by other netizens: "Working mothers can take time out to pay attention to their children's education. Why can't a working father? " This society always requires daughters to earn money to support their families, to be as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade, to take good care of their children and their in-laws ... while men just need to earn money outside. How unfair! "
The opinions of these netizens are not rough, and everyone is human. Why can they shirk their responsibilities because of their gender and pass them on to others?
This behavior is not only irresponsible, but also disgusting. Therefore, as a mother, I strongly advocate the proposal of setting up "Dad's Pick-up Day".
Moreover, I don't think there should be only "father's day", but men should be forced to take "parental leave" to welcome the arrival of a new life with their wives; It is also necessary to set up a "father's company day" by force, so that fathers can return to their families more often, accompany their children's growth, and prevent their children's childhood from being full of regrets because of their father's absence.
Boys lack "masculinity"
Recently, a proposal caused a heated discussion on the Internet-a proposal to prevent the feminization of male teenagers.
Some scholars believe that at present, boys in Chinese schools are weakening, and even some schools offer boys' classes, precisely because of the phenomenon of "feminization" of boys and teenagers.
In order to supplement the masculinity of these boys and teenagers, or to increase more "male teachers" in the field of education.
Although I don't understand what the so-called "masculinity" means, I'm sure that the reason why some boys lack masculinity comes from the absence of their fathers in the family.
Children may become "mom's baby"
Without the father's role in family education, children grow up under the care of their mothers and are likely to become "mother treasures."
Such a child lacks independent ability, is indecisive and asks his mother everything. This excessive dependence on the mother makes it impossible for the child to be completely independent, at least mentally.
Society creates favorable conditions for fathers to return to their families.
To this end, the society is also creating favorable conditions for fathers to have time to accompany their children to grow up together after busy work.
Mom should learn to let go in the process of education.
Some mothers will be nervous about their children in the process of educating them, so subconsciously people will think that all things of their children must be handled by themselves to ensure safety.
This kind of excessive tension makes the mother unwilling to help her father in parenting.
Mothers should know that parenting is not a matter for one person. It is most beneficial for children to learn to let go and give them to their fathers. Only two people can participate in their growth together.
Fathers should take the initiative to take on their own parenting tasks.
As the father of the child, no matter how favorable conditions the society and family have created for us, it is no use if we don't have the idea of raising the child actively.
As a child's father, he should take the initiative to undertake his own parenting tasks, and he should not give up the burden because the tasks are cumbersome and arduous. This behavior is irresponsible.
As long as there is a heart, the child's growth will not be absent from the father.
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