In family education, boys and girls will naturally be treated differently because of gender differences. The following aspects should be considered in educational concepts and methods:

First, father education and mother education should have their own emphasis.

1. For the education of boys, the father's education should be the first responsible person, followed by the mother. Because in the process of growing up, boys need to observe and imitate their fathers and constantly learn how to be a man. If the father is absent from his son's education, the child will lose the closest observation and imitation when he grows up. Nowadays, many boys' education focuses on the education of their mothers, who are women and cannot play the role of men. This has caused many boys to lack masculinity and become more feminine, which is a terrible thing. A mother's education of her son needs to put some energy into the teaching of life details and the demand for emotional care, but there is a limit here, that is, to teach her son to learn to give up after doing things, and never do anything too much, otherwise the child will rely heavily on his mother, and many young people who are eager to learn are trained by their mothers for a long time.

2. For girls' education, the mother's education should be the first responsible person, followed by the father. Just as a boy grew up with his father as the main observation and imitation object, so does a girl with her mother as the main observation and imitation object. Therefore, mother must be a good example of educating people, or your daughter will follow suit. Many shortcomings in you will make children accept everything. Many families are the first responsible person to raise their children because their mothers have low quality and cultivation, so it is difficult to cultivate a daughter with very good temperament. For the father, although taking the responsibility of the child is second, daily companionship and communication are essential, because this is the need of the child's psychological security and emotional enrichment. Girls who lack fatherly love from childhood will have many problems in the process of communicating with the opposite sex in the future. They can't grasp the safe distance and don't even know how to get along with boys. In the long run, this will profoundly affect the marriage and love events in adulthood.

3. intergenerational education should also be treated differently. In many families, grandma and grandma are the main responsible persons to take care of their grandchildren. From the above emphasis on father education, we should consider the appropriate participation of grandparents. However, young parents must know that intergenerational education is only a supplement to children's education and must not become the mainstream. From a realistic point of view, many children are taken care of by different generations of old people from infancy, infancy and childhood, which leads to the lack of education for parents, which is very unfavorable for children's growth. Old people's arrangement and doting on their grandchildren will greatly restrict and affect their independent development ability, while excessive care for girls will make their grandchildren weaker and less confident. Therefore, it is necessary for young parents to wake up in the concept of family education, and they must never escape the management and education of their children under any pretext.

Second, there are differences from the perspective of sex education.

1. Gender education for girls has different emphases. This father focuses on teaching his daughter how to communicate with boys from the perspective of men, how to keep a good physical distance, and how to avoid being invaded or hurt by boys because of playing games. Mothers focus on teaching their daughters how to be polite and good children, how to abide by the rules of the game, how to choose games suitable for girls, and can't let boys make way for themselves just because they are girls.

2. Gender education for boys has different emphases. The father focuses on guiding his son to understand the image differences between boys and girls, such as hair style and clothes, strength, voice and the content of the game. At the same time, we should cultivate our son's sense of responsibility and abide by the rules. In the process of interacting with girls and playing games, he is responsible for taking care of girls, which will be of great use for boys to form a family when they grow up. Many fathers do not attach importance to the education of their sons since childhood, which will lead to their sons not knowing how to get along with their wives in marriage and family when they grow up. The mother focuses on cultivating her son's awareness of obeying the rules and daring to take responsibility for the consequences.

3. Sexual physiology and sexual psychology education have their own emphases. For sexual physiology education, it is advisable for boys to be mainly involved by their fathers. With the continuous growth of the son, the boy's sexual physiology and psychological development will be different at every stage of infancy, childhood and adolescence. Similarly, the mother's sexual physiology and psychological education for her daughter should be the first responsible person to avoid the embarrassment and inconvenience caused by the father's education for her daughter. Of course, sometimes, fathers and mothers can cooperate with each other to do a good job in sex education and avoid improper or wrong education methods for either spouse.

Third, we must get rid of the misunderstanding of the concept of poor sons and rich daughters.

In the traditional family education in China, it has distinct characteristics of the times to raise sons in poverty and daughters in wealth. In the era of extreme material shortage, it is understandable to give material benefits to girls, which is nothing more than avoiding the danger that girls will be tempted by material interests when they grow up, or leading to the emergence of money worshippers.

However, with the development of the times, material security for boys and girls has been very rich. More efforts should be made to educate and guide children to learn to live independently from an early age and get rewards through honest labor. Nowadays, in many families, the father's education is missing or not in place, while the mother's education is the main one. However, if the mother's traditional concepts and values have problems, it will be difficult to correctly educate and guide the child's desire for material things and establish a reasonable sense of satisfaction.

Judging from the social atmosphere, many parents' comparison psychology and vanity also lead to excessive material security for both boys and girls in the process of their children's growth, which can easily cause the next generation to be unwilling to make progress, unwilling to pay mental and physical labor, and willing to enjoy it.

In view of the educational differences between boys and girls, Mr. Han can only talk about a few points superficially because of space reasons. Here I need to tell parents that family education is a systematic project, and there are many educational contents that you need to learn and master. You can pay attention to the book "Good Habits Family Education Rules".