Parents must master several standards of parent-child early education:
Standard 1: Child-centered.
Every child has a unique sense of rhythm of development trend. My daughter is about the same age as my neighbor's daughter. When the child is 9 months old, we can stand up with the fabric sofa. Other children 10 months, still like to climb on the ground. In those days, the next-door neighbor was very upset. She is worried that her children will leave later than others. So I often hold my children in my arms and force them to go.
After a while, the child still didn't want to go by himself, and the neighbors gave up. But I didn't expect that it didn't take long for the child to suddenly hold the table and leave by himself. Slowly, he can walk a few steps without holding the item, and walk wider and wider.
As parents, we should learn to slow ourselves down and let our children slow down and relax. Accepting children from the heart is not to ask children to satisfy men's fame and fortune. Every child has a unique personalized atmosphere. Many parents stubbornly believe that a certain type of personalization is unacceptable to social needs. They are confused and uncontrollable, and try their best to change their children.
Why do you always cultivate a perfect child in the eyes of others according to social cognitive expectations? There is an exploration on the individual differences of children, which divides children into three types: difficult-to-raise type, easy-to-raise type and slow-heat type. There are two kinds of children, the difficult-to-raise type and the slow-fever type, which always make parents feel very hard.
Refractory infant
Difficult-to-raise babies are also called high-demand babies. There have been some cases in this kind of baby. They like to sleep with their arms in their arms, refuse to cooperate with their meals, and their emotions are changeable. Many parents are restless, mentally disabled and physically and mentally exhausted.
Parents who have difficulty raising babies can do this:
1, prepare children to go outdoors and help them spend their physical strength and plenty of time and energy. 2. Wait for the children to calm down and guide the students to focus on what they are interested in. 3. Help children develop regular daily habits, and the natural environment personnel at home should not change greatly from time to time. 4. Family activities should be planned to inform children in advance.
Slow-heating baby
A slow-heating baby is what we often call a shy baby or an introverted baby. Such children are afraid of social media, and they are easily frightened. I feel uneasy when there are many people. It takes a long time to get to know each other after entering a new field. First of all, we should know that introversion is not a defect.
Parents of slow-heating babies can do this:
1. Allow children to receive moderate external stimuli to help them get rid of social phobia. If parents always stand by and take care of their maintenance, or give them too much stimulation, they will lose more than they gain.
2. In a strange environment, children are not required to integrate quickly. I gave them enough time to adapt and understand. After the children relax, I guide them to communicate and interact with others until they are integrated.
3. The whole process of shaping children to socialize alone is the whole process of parents gradually retreating. But gradually, you don't have to shrink back too thoroughly, stand in the area where the child can look back and give him perseverance and energy.
Standard 2: teach without "teaching"
Want to be a parent-child early education parent, how to do a good job of family observation? Some people say, is it not easy to observe? Yes, it turned out to be a very simple thing. But few parents are willing to focus on this. In fact, many people live so fast that they have lost good habits and the ability to observe and think.
If you want to observe your child well and get to know him again, you can also try to do this: when observing, put your mobile phone aside, turn off the automatic playback, temporarily forget the troubles and pressure at work, devote yourself to the front, calm down and get to know your child from a new angle.
Standard 3: Rich and varied teaching materials and teaching tools.
Create a child-friendly family atmosphere for parent-child early education. In addition to observation, environmental art design is the main level of parent-child early education. Before the age of 3, children spend most of their time at home, so the family atmosphere has a great influence on children. What is a child-friendly natural environment, which is integrated into children's self-development.
If you can arrange a free activity area for your child independently at home, parents should not cut off their children's spontaneous exploration in the name of love and prevent their independent development trend. Buy some toys for children to exercise their senses and operational ability.
In such a random area, there is no security risk and there is no excessive intervention by adults. Children can try everything in the way you like and feel the satisfaction of independence and self-improvement. It is very likely that many people will think that parent-child early education is far away, but it is actually a kind of self-cultivation logical thinking, which enables us to get rid of the existing concept fortress, re-recognize and accept children, conform to the law of children's development, and let children grow naturally and healthily.