First, criticizing naughty children should pay attention to art.
I often hear colleagues complain: "The' naughty boy' in our class is criticized every day, but he just can't change." As soon as I heard this, I thought of "criticizing often" but it didn't work. Maybe they criticize children with the same "lines" every day, so it is natural that they are useless. Related research shows that when the same stimulus continues, it is easy to produce a kind of "insensitivity", and then it will not be felt as stimulus. Naughty children themselves are often criticized by teachers. If the teacher keeps the same criticism every time, he will turn a deaf ear. If the old teacher's criticism is changed in a different way, it may give them some fresh stimulation and let them receive unexpected results. For example, Henry likes to rob his partner's toys. Teachers often criticize him for "being rude just now and often robbing other people's toys". It's better to say, "Frank is really nice. He never steals children's toys and plays with his own. We believe that Henry can be like Frank. " After hearing these words, students feel that the teacher still trusts himself and will consciously restrain this behavior of robbing their companions' toys.
A scholar came back from an investigation in the United States and said earnestly, "American preschool teachers swear in a clever way, unlike some of our teachers who only yell." They often squat down first, flush with the child's eyes, and then slowly hold the child's hand. Start talking softly. At this time, the child will feel incredible and novel about the teacher's posture, and naturally listen to what the teacher said. "The effect of this method is mainly because' this kind of squat' not only narrows the distance between the teacher and the child in space, but also brings the child and the teacher closer psychologically. Especially for naughty children, they want to be close to their teachers. When the teacher squatted at the same height as his eye contact, they felt how kind and lovely the teacher was. Naturally, it's easy to listen to your advice.
Naughty children are particularly rebellious. When he does something wrong, if the teacher just scolds and scolds blindly, the effect can only be counterproductive. It's like a mother yelling hysterically at a crying child, which will only make the child cry louder and louder. If the child does something wrong, he knows that he will be scolded by the teacher. At this time, if the teacher doesn't scold him, or even keeps silent and ignores him, the child's psychology will be nervous and he will rethink his mistakes. In this way, give the child a period of time to calm down and talk to him later, because the child has reviewed his mistakes, so he can be calm.
Second, give naughty children more care and encouragement.
Love is an important condition for children's mental health development. Practice has proved that children who are rejected by adults often give up on themselves and form inferiority or rebellious psychology. For example, some naughty children like to make trouble and often fight in activities. This is often because we don't pay enough attention to them. Some of them want to get the teacher's attention and get the teacher's love by making trouble and fighting. Therefore, for naughty children, teachers should not be stingy with their own language and expressions, but should express our love to them through various forms. Even if it's just a knowing smile, a caring word and a few kind touches, they will feel that "the teacher still loves me, and I want to listen to the teacher."
Although children are small, they have strong self-esteem, especially naughty children. Teachers should stick to the viewpoint of dividing them into two parts, try to find out their bright spots and encourage them to make progress. There is a "naughty king" in my class, who often asks questions suddenly without raising his hand in class, interrupting the teacher's words and causing classroom confusion. Although the author has been educated in many ways, it has achieved little. After careful observation, I found that he has a strong desire to express himself, but because he is not good at controlling himself, it often backfires. So, when I talked about "a good doll with discipline" in the morning, I praised him in front of the whole class and asked him: "You are smart and witty, and the teacher likes you very much; If you can be a disciplined doll and raise your hand to ask questions after the teacher finishes speaking, the teacher will like you more. "Since then, he really got rid of this bad habit. Therefore, I asked him to work in the corner or be a "librarian" after lunch. He is serious and responsible, and perseveres to the end. The children spoke highly of his performance, which made him experience the joy of defeating himself. From then on, he stopped moving around in the corner or running around after lunch, making trouble everywhere. It can be seen that giving some encouragement to naughty children in time is easy to get twice the result with half the effort.
Third, strengthen family ties and unify educational strategies.
Children are like a mirror of a family. What kind of family is easy to raise what kind of children. Therefore, for the education of naughty children, we should pay more attention to the important link of family contact. Starting from the family, understand the children's family environment, the quality of parents [Weibo], ways and means of educating children. Through home visits, parents' questionnaires, telephone contact and other channels, we will discuss with parents the methods of educating naughty children. On this basis, we should have a clear aim and complement each other's advantages to form the best resultant force. Naughty children are full of energy and cannot fully "vent" at home, so they are particularly naughty. Some people even play with toys under the quilt when they sleep, which worries their parents. In fact, naughty children are eager to communicate with others, but now only children have no companions to play with at home. So when they are at home, they will play with all the toys to "vent" Therefore, we suggest that parents take their children outdoors more and let them have fun, which usually leads to unexpected gains. Usually at home, you can also let them do more quiet activities. Such as puzzles, painting, hand-making, listening to stories, reading books, etc. Through the combination of static and dynamic, arouse children's interest and change their bad habits.
During home visits, parents often hear their children say, "The child is so young, sometimes he is not sensible, so he must be beaten." At this time, we told parents that beating children is not a good way to discipline them. If a child is beaten once and then makes the same mistake, he will hit harder. As a result of such a vicious circle, not only will children never meet their parents' expectations, but they may also turn into children's resistance or talk back to their parents' discipline. We set up parents to adopt the method of "cold treatment" and spiritual encouragement, so as to achieve the consistency and tacit understanding of family education methods, and give timely feedback to each other's children at home and in the garden, so as to obtain good educational results. Practice has proved that after a period of family cooperative education, most "naughty" children's behavior habits and various performances have made obvious progress.
However, the education of naughty children can not be relaxed for a moment, because they have certain repetitiveness, and it is far from enough to rely solely on the above methods. We should also sum up more and better educational strategies in practice to educate naughty children well.