Effective communication between parents and children plays an extremely important role in promoting the healthy growth of children's body and mind. Learning to communicate well with children can fully convey parents' expectations and care to children and provide them with the best growing environment and happy living space. However, the lack of communication time and poor quality with children have troubled many families. Therefore, in order to establish a good communication relationship, parents also need to master the correct ways and means, so as to make communication easy and harmonious.
1. Communication between parents and children should be equal.
The most important premise of parent-child communication is equality. Many parents always like to be above themselves and think that "I am the parent, I have the final say, and the children must listen to me", thus ignoring the children's spiritual feelings, killing the children's right to speak and making the communication between parents and children "centralized". This kind of communication not only makes children have rebellious psychology, but also makes communication become a "form" and loses its due significance and function. Therefore, in communication, parents should put themselves on the same level as their children and discuss with them like friends to avoid turning communication into instructions and preaching. At the same time, parents should also conduct democratic consultation and equal dialogue with their children in view of the difficulties and problems they face; And fully respect children's personality, treat children equally, convince people by reasoning, thus enhancing children's self-confidence and trust in their parents, and finally achieving effective communication.
The communication between parents and children should be mutual trust.
Parents' trust in their children is the greatest encouragement to them. Only communication based on trust is the most acceptable communication, thus producing the effect of "knowing everything and saying everything".
If parents want to be fully trusted, they must let their children feel that they are trusted. Parents can convey their parents' trust and affirmation to their children through positive language, appreciative eyes and reward measures, so as to build a bridge of trust between the two sides. In this way, children are more willing to open their hearts to their parents and voluntarily accept their parents' teaching, thus making the parent-child relationship more harmonious.
3. communication should be kept regular.
Parents should arrange the content and time of communication reasonably according to the ever-changing situation of their children. Don't take communication as a task, treat it as a routine like a meeting. In fact, the communication between parents and children is a kind of spiritual communication and emotional interaction. Parents know their children better through communication, and children are more considerate of their parents through communication. Therefore, parents should regard communication as a common thing like caring for their children to eat and sleep, rather than making surprises and temporary.
At the same time, communication must not be based on parents' mood. You can communicate when you are happy, and you can wait until you are in a good mood when you are unhappy. In the final analysis, communication is to understand the development and changes of children more timely and accurately, and to make full preparations for solving the problems existing in children. Communication once a month, or even once every six months, has little effect on family education. For children of different ages, we should adjust the frequency and time of communication in time, especially when we find that children have changed, we should communicate and understand in time to find and solve problems in time.
4. In communication, we should grasp the proportion of language use, praise more and criticize less.
In parent-child communication, we must pay attention to the use of language and grasp the proportion from the aspects of words, speech speed and intonation, because different expressions will have completely different communication effects. Appropriate praise is the lubricant for parents to communicate with their children. Parents give their children proper affirmation and appreciation, which will enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence, increase their goodwill towards their parents, and make them more willing to communicate with their parents. Civil servant's home
At the same time, don't exaggerate the children who made mistakes, but calmly point out the reasons for the mistakes and how to correct them in the future.
Parents should communicate in the way their children like.
In the process of communicating with children, we should not only consider whether children can understand, but also choose communication methods that children can easily accept. Preaching, ordering and coercion will only make children rebellious and fail to achieve the purpose of education. Chatting, telling stories and playing games are more suitable for children's psychological characteristics, so as to achieve the expected communication effect. Parents should put themselves in others' shoes. Before communicating with children, we should choose a more suitable communication method according to their personality and age, so as to get rid of traditional and didactic communication methods and let children know more about life in their favorite communication methods.
It can be said that the importance of communication has been realized by more and more parents and families. Therefore, how to truly achieve effective communication so that every parent can establish a good communication relationship with their children is a subject that we need to explore and think about for a long time to come. But we believe that as long as we master the correct communication methods, it will be no longer difficult to establish a harmonious communication relationship. We expect every family to establish a good communication relationship, and hope that all children in the world can grow up healthily in a harmonious family atmosphere.