First, understand and respect children.

At present, the exam-oriented education in China puts great pressure on children. Parents should manage their children's learning scientifically, and fancy methods are better than temporary achievements. Never go to school, it will make children have a lot of rebellious psychology. Don't be afraid to let your child know that his parents actually love him and think that he is very hard, but life is like this, and no one is an exception. Listen to the children more about school, less criticism, more guidance and more resonance, and the children will be obedient.

Second, don't buy books according to your own ideas.

The school gave many reference books to the children. Strictly speaking, there is no need to buy extra books. If children are willing to buy more and learn more, it is naturally good. Otherwise, there is no need to force them, and the result can only be a waste of money.

Third, if the child has made a mistake, he should say it.

You can tell his parents how disappointed and angry they are about this mistake, and tell him what the consequences and seriousness of this mistake are. That's enough. Never give a child the feeling that he is useless in your mind after making a mistake. This is not good.

Fourth, don't take advantage of children's shortcomings to be longer than others.

No one is perfect, including parents. Parents should never say: Look at others! This is a very failed education, and children will feel that their parents can't see his advantages at all. Don't criticize the child in front of others, just say his good points.

Under any circumstances, don't hit the child.

If you can't convince him in reason, it only shows that the parents' reason is not complete enough. If you say you don't agree with him, you can solve it with better force than him. The result can only be that he is still dissatisfied in his heart and damages his worship of his parents.

People often say that trees are afraid of hurting their roots and people are afraid of being sad. Self-esteem and self-confidence are the spiritual pillar of children's growth, the cornerstone of children's goodness and the internal driving force of self-development. Everyone has self-esteem. Don't think that just because children are young, you can not respect them. Children's self-esteem and self-confidence need the protection and respect of parents and teachers.

If educators intentionally or unintentionally hurt children's self-esteem and self-confidence, then children's minds will be hit and destroyed, and they will lose the motivation and spiritual support for good development. In any case, it is foolish to hurt or denigrate children's self-esteem and self-confidence. ?

In real life, it is very common to ignore the protection of children's self-esteem and self-confidence and not respect their privacy. Some children don't do well, just say how stupid you are; Children are usually a little timid, just say you are a coward; When a child fails the exam, say how useless you are; The child occasionally makes a small mistake and accuses you of being so disappointing.

Some parents and teachers don't like their children, they always blame and complain, and some even beat, scold and punish them. In the long run, over time, a good boy will lose his due self-motivation and self-esteem in accusations and complaints, and eventually it will be difficult to become a useful person. ?