Some parents are confused. If you don't remember for a long time and don't bear the consequences, there will be no motivation to correct. Without any parental authority, can you control your children?

But punishment is not a good education. Punishment is a common method in enterprise management, but it is best not to use it in family education. It damages children's self-esteem and deprives them of the opportunity of self-education. It is a negative example of educating people.

Educator Suhomlinski said: "In normal education, there should be no punishment. When education is based on punishment, children cannot educate themselves, because punishment frees children from the condemnation of their own conscience. "

When the stick falls, the child will feel wronged, emotionally opposed to his parents, and even resentful, but will not think about the mistakes he has made.

Educator Tao Xingzhi's story of educating students who made mistakes with "Four Sweets" is very enlightening:

A boy hit a boy in his class with mud. When the headmaster Tao Xingzhi found out, he stopped him and ordered him to go to the headmaster's office after school.

After school, Tao Xingzhi came to the principal's office, and the boys were already waiting for training. But Tao Xingzhi smiled and took out a candy for him and said, "This is for you, because you came on time and I was late."

The boy took the candy. Then Tao Xingzhi happily took out the second candy and put it in his hand, saying, "This is a reward for you, because you stopped immediately when I didn't ask you to hit someone, which shows that you respect me very much and I should reward you."

The boy looked at Tao Xingzhi in surprise. At this time, Tao Xingzhi took out the third candy, stuffed it into the boy's hand and said, "I investigated." You beat those boys with mud because they bully girls; " You hit them, which shows that you are honest and kind, and have the courage to fight the bad guys. You deserve a reward! "

The boy was moved to tears and cried regretfully: "President Tao, I was wrong. I didn't hit the bad guys, but my classmates ... "

Tao Xingzhi smiled with satisfaction. He immediately took out the fourth candy and handed it to me, saying, "I'll give you another candy so that you can correctly understand your mistakes." I have no candy, and our conversation can be over. "

Caring and reflecting light can awaken children's self-esteem and shame and let them educate themselves.