I feel terrible, she said with relief: "In fact, there are many reasons to like someone. Attracting people is far more than appearance, but also a person's temperament, a person's personality, a person's work, a person's story and experience. On the contrary, I don't like you for one reason or another. You are not RMB, how can you please everyone? "
Instead, we mentioned the technical term "stereotype" in educational psychology when we were in school.
Stereotype mainly refers to a universal and fixed view of a thing or an object, and extends this view to think that this thing or the whole has this characteristic, ignoring individual differences. In the final analysis, stereotypes are produced by cognitive differences.
I don't know where I read a joke that I have seen young people with tattoos give their seats to old people on buses, and I have seen well-dressed scholars go to parties every night. Some people are dignified in appearance and connotation, and look like people with higher education. Their ideas may surprise you.
Just like the people and things we see with the naked eye, they are not necessarily comprehensive or perfect. Maybe what you see is just what you subjectively think you want to see or an illusion of preconceived rigid psychological imagination.
Prejudice in the corner may just be a frog in the well.
Chen Lin, my shift supervisor (I have communicated with the customer in advance, allow me to give an example. ), in the first grade, she and I formed a new partner, a new working group. I'm actually scared. Why? Although I have been in Erede for several years, because of different subjects and grades, there is almost no intersection, and my impressions of her are all from other people's mouths. She is difficult to get along with, busy, demanding, anxious, strict with people and awesome. These little labels piled up bit by bit, and her image firmly fell into my mind.
She became "Li Mochou, a devil with a whip who feels that you are too slow to eat or drink." I still remember the first day when the class working group was formed, she greeted me. I am very nervous, even trembling. I even deliberately slow down my breathing, afraid to make any noise except "hello".
Later, the story went much smoother. She doesn't have so many terrible things. With the passage of time, the little label was torn off bit by bit, and her image became lovely, lively and vivid bit by bit. She is no longer what others call her, but three-dimensional fullness!
? The so-called "difficult to get along with" means that she speaks directly, without too much rhetoric, and is not afraid of offending people. Dry language is really uncomfortable, but it reveals sincerity and frankness. The so-called "many things" and "many demands" are because she is a workaholic, meticulous, clear-cut and meticulous. If one thing is not done well, she will feel uncomfortable. I dare to call her "Chicken Blood Chen". Tired the day before, the next day she still took us forward like chicken blood! Because this nickname is careless and beautiful, it seems to be labeling her, so it is called "Da Lin Zi". Let's start by saying that she is "strict with people". There is a good saying, "You are strong when you suffer." A good partner is to urge you to grow up, stimulate your tenacity and improve your concentration. Thank you, big forest. I really feel it. (Cover your face here)
? Therefore, stereotypes are not a bad thing. It is actually a framework for us to understand the world. There is nothing wrong with the framework itself. What is wrong is that we misuse or abuse the framework. That is, the content of stereotypes.
? Please don't let the "stereotype" take root. When a strong stereotype takes root in your mind, it will become prejudice. After prejudice is formed, it will produce exclusion, and then it will become the most feared link in society-discrimination.
? Think about it, if you don't understand it more carefully, people's concerns are superficial, and the first impression is sometimes a stereotype.
? Friends, colleagues and students are all like this.
? In school, as a teacher, if you label every child casually, then the child may need to make great efforts to get rid of the label. It doesn't matter whether you can see these efforts, because at the moment of labeling, as a teacher, you have failed.
? Just as we have always advocated that "every child is precious and different", it is meaningful and energetic to be one and different, and to splash out the sparks of thinking and thought from the differences.
? If everyone tries to get rid of the stereotype of love at first sight and try to understand a person's true face, society will become simple and beautiful.
? Why don't you try to get to know everyone around you? He/she is really nice!