The author of this painting is Wang Ximeng. Wang Ximeng spent half a year creating this painting when 18 years old, and died shortly after painting.
Wang Ximeng is undoubtedly a talented person, even a rare genius. But if Wang Ximeng died before he wrote "A Thousand Miles of Rivers and Mountains", would anyone still think that he was a genius?
The so-called talent is actually just the result. What do you mean? In other words, no matter who a person is, as long as he has made achievements, he will be considered a talent; If you don't make achievements, you will be considered as a person without talent. Even if you have made great progress before, it can only be called progress, not talent. Therefore, when it comes to the question of "talent", people only look at the results and judge only according to the results; Whether a person has talent or not is completely result-oriented.
Actually, the difference between talent and ability is involved here. The author believes that "talent" is not equal to "ability". As far as ability is concerned, no matter who a person is, as long as he makes unremitting efforts, he can always improve. However, a person's ability has improved, which does not necessarily mean that he is talented. Only when your ability is improved to make you stand out will you be considered talented.
Because the existence of talent is completely result-oriented, people often judge whether a person has talent according to the result, so the author believes that the so-called talented person is the person who can achieve the ideal result. Then what kind of people can achieve the ideal result? He is a man of insight. Accordingly, the author believes that the essence of talents is insight. The so-called insight refers to the ability to observe things deeply and keenly, see through their essence or deep-seated things, and intuitively see through the essence that is difficult to find from external observation and make judgments.
When we think about it carefully, it is not difficult to find that those who are considered talented are basically people with keen insight, whether in study, work, scientific research or business innovation. They have either found ways to study and work, or have insight into the nature of things, or have seen through human nature.
For example. In Japan, there is an organization called Shu Foundation, which specializes in teaching methods of holding babies. As long as you hold the baby according to the method taught by Ms. Zhi Zhi, the director of this institution, the baby won't cry. Presumably, many young parents have been busy making their babies cry. I finally fell asleep with my arms around me. As a result, I woke up as soon as I put it on the bed and began to cry again. I cry every few hours at night, and I don't get enough sleep, so it's useless to coax ... But as long as I hold the beautiful woman straight, no matter which baby will stop crying and laugh through tears at once, it's like magic.
Excuse me, how did Miss Zhi Zhi do it? Is insight.
We adults don't feel uncomfortable lying upright in bed. But the baby has been shrinking in the mother's stomach before birth and is not used to lying down and sleeping. So for the baby, lying flat on the bed will only feel pain and discomfort. And the baby can't turn over, what else can I do? All he can do is cry. If you want the baby to stop crying, you have to put him in a comfortable position. Simply put, it is to make the foot into an M shape and put it in the mother's stomach. Whether you hold him or put him on the bed, keep him in this position. This will stop crying immediately, and you will smile through tears. The effect is amazing.
Well, that's the so-called talent, the essence of talent. Next, let's look at the practical factors that hinder the realization. Of course, there are many things to say, but here are two key points.
The first is the influence of parents on their children's talents.
Adults, parents and teachers often tell children to "study hard" and "don't waste", and restrict or prohibit children from doing all kinds of things. Parents, in particular, silently instill various rules or values into their children from the moment they are born. These rules and values are called "forbidden information" and "should information" in psychology. For example, "you can't put everything in your mouth." "Don't dirty the ground." "endure it." "Don't talk loudly." "You have to smile to be likable." ……
This kind of education begins in infancy, so most of it is not conveyed through language, but through expressions and gestures, and then it is firmly remembered by children. These rules and values have been rooted in the heart before children can independently distinguish "what is good and what is bad", so they will have a great impact on children's personality formation and life. The original intention of these education is to make children "adapt to society", but the result is likely to bind children and have a negative impact.
With the growth of age, teachers also join in and play the same role as parents. If there are parents or teachers around who often post "forbidden information", children will give up thinking and give up themselves when they could have improved their ability. After growing up, this relationship is further reflected in the company as a superior-subordinate relationship. For example, some bosses always ban their subordinates.
As we just said, the essence of talent is insight. The so-called insight refers to the ability to observe things deeply and keenly, see through their essence or deep things, and make judgments. But these "forbidden information" and "should information" instilled since childhood will undoubtedly hinder and destroy this insight.
In addition to the influence of parents, there is also a wrong educational concept that will stifle people's talents. Everyone should be familiar with this concept, that is, the concept of "what education should be carried out at an early age", such as "learning English from a doll!" "Learn to read as soon as you are flexible as a child."
Once you believe this wrong view of education, you will inevitably have the idea that it is too late now. If the child doesn't do well in primary school, he will say, "If only he could start learning in kindergarten"; If you don't learn math well in middle school, you should say, "If only you had studied arithmetic carefully in primary school"; The college student said, "If you work harder in high school, you will be admitted to a better university." After entering the society, he said, "If only I could read more books when I was a student." People in their thirties said, "If only they could get more certificates in their twenties." At the age of 40, he said, "Learn a skill before the age of 30 at the latest." At the age of 50, he said, "You should change jobs before you are 40." After retirement, he said, "I worked hard when I was young."
Why does this idea kill people's talents? Because once a person has this idea, his next reaction is: "Since the gap has been opened, it is too late to start working hard again." So I simply gave up my efforts, and the result was that I spent my whole life regretting it.
So, what can I do to not regret it? The only way is: make a choice you won't regret in the future now, and act immediately; Realizing that it's too late is just an excuse not to try.