I think a modern headmaster should have good psychological quality: tough will, open-minded personality and stable mood.
First, strong will-perseverance and courage.
Will is the adjustment of consciousness, and it is a psychological process in which individuals consciously determine their own goals and control and adjust their behavior according to the goals in order to achieve the predetermined goals. Tough will should be manifested as firmness, decisiveness, tenacity, courage, discipline, adherence to principles and so on.
The principal responsibility system implemented in the reform of the school's internal management system makes the principal become the decision maker and commander of the school's administrative system. The greater the power, the heavier the burden and the more contradictions. Even every step forward will lead to problems and difficulties. This requires that the headmaster must have perseverance.
This will is first manifested in perseverance. Principals should have tenacious perseverance and strong self-confidence, do not go with the flow, have their own firm and clear goals, and even if the difficulties are great, they will not give up their goals, eliminate interference and move toward the established goals.
Second, courage. Decisive courage is a kind of will quality for principals to make and implement decisions independently and timely under complicated and difficult conditions. Courage is also a sign of self-confidence and daring to make decisions. In both cases, the headmaster's courage can be fully demonstrated. First, test his courage in risky situations; The second is to test his decision-making speed when time is tight.
A person who is unwilling to take risks will never become an excellent modern person. According to the survey of McKinsey & Company, one of the eight elements of success is "decisive behavior".
"If you continue to break, it will be chaotic" and "One careless move will lose the whole game". This paper discusses the importance of decision-making from two aspects. However, if you are decisive, you should be good at not only making decisions, but also waiting for opportunities. When the time is not ripe, we should be good at following the trend, creating conditions and waiting for the opportunity to appear; Make a decision as soon as the time is ripe. Here, we need not only decisive courage, but also decisive wit.
Perseverance and courage are inseparable. The combination of perseverance and courage embodies the word "gang", which is the "iron fist" as the saying goes, and is the expression of psychological energy.
Second, open-minded personality-tolerance and patience
Personality is the core of personality psychology, and tolerance and patience are the concrete manifestations of the headmaster's open-minded personality.
Among several psychological qualities, tolerance can best reflect the psychological quality of principals. It is not only a virtue, but also a skill, which embodies the rational and confident psychological quality of the principal.
Tolerance has two meanings:
One is "width". Be tolerant of those who make mistakes or those who are against themselves. Don't "kill" people who have made mistakes with one stick; Be generous to those who have opposed themselves and admitted their mistakes. The headmaster should never "put on shoes" for others. Because only when people have no worries can they give full play to their intelligence. If subordinates are always worried about their superiors' "slow shoes" and someone's "settling accounts after the fall", they will definitely fail. You know, if you mess with the wrong person, your lips are dead and your teeth are cold. In the end, you will lose the authority to be the principal. This requires the headmaster to be generous, which is "leniency".
The second is "capacity". First of all, the headmaster should not be jealous of people with strong abilities, and should not set up a shop in Wu Dalang. He would rather use mediocrity instead of talent, but "I will set as many tables as you can". Be willing to be a ladder, create opportunities for people, give full play to the talents of the almighty, and achieve "the advantages of employing people" and give full play to their talents. Secondly, people should be allowed to be "short". First, we should understand others. Some people are mean and dissatisfied. The headmaster should think that he is subjectively willing to run the school well. Although his words are not pleasant to hear, they are reasonable. It is better to say them than not to say them. Second, there is no basis. Don't think the worst of others. Everyone has emotions, and the reasons for their emotions are complicated. The headmaster should think calmly and don't jump to conclusions easily.
Tolerance is mainly manifested in people, and patience is more manifested in things.
The headmaster should know how to be patient, learn to be patient, and be good at patience; Don't be impatient when you are calm, don't give up easily, and don't pursue "all your wishes come true." For example, sometimes the headmaster thinks what should be done. If the opinions within the leadership are not unified, the masses do not understand it enough, or the conditions for implementation are not yet available, then the headmaster should not rush to conclusions, wait, think calmly, launch in many ways, and patiently do the work of cadres and the masses. All these require the headmaster to have high resilience and patience.
Tolerance and patience are summed up in a word "soft", which is also the performance of psychological energy.
Perseverance and courage, tolerance and patience, these two groups of psychological qualities should be a harmonious and organic unity. In other words, as a principal, you should be both rigid and flexible. Perseverance and courage are by no means equal to going their own way, and tolerance and patience are not blindly accommodating, which contains profound dialectical relations. Therefore, the headmaster should pay attention to grasping a "degree" between "rigidity" and "softness" and achieve the right result.
Third, stabilize emotions-self-control and adaptation.
In any case, the headmaster should always maintain an optimistic and stable mood. This stability requires two abilities: self-control ability and social adaptability.
Self-control is good at controlling one's feelings and behaviors in complex situations and restraining impulses. Principals should be good at controlling their emotions and restraining negative excitement and impulse. Any simple criticism and rude pressure are manifestations of lack of self-control. The headmaster should always treat his subordinates with a calm mind.
A self-controlled principal can not only maintain psychological balance and emotional stability under normal circumstances, but also show calmness and composure even when suffering from arbitrary and unreasonable difficulties and unreasonable troubles. Psychology believes that; If a person can judge his behavior completely with reason, then he has reached full maturity.
In order to maintain a stable mood, the principal not only needs self-control, but also needs certain social adaptability. Social adaptation includes two aspects: first, it can correctly treat external influences; The second is to be in a satisfied state of inner balance.
Principals should correctly treat external influences, correctly understand and face reality, and maintain the normal relationship between individuals and reality: accept reality, adapt to reality, constantly change the reality that needs to be changed in reality, and create new things, so as to maintain inner balance and achieve emotional stability. For example, for the following types of "external pressure", you should have certain psychological endurance:
First, the challenge to "authoritative position". With the development of society, diversification has been manifested in various fields of today's society. People are no longer so superstitious and worship authority, and subordinates are better than superiors. It is common for them to criticize their superiors and even show disrespect to their faces. It is not easy for the headmaster to be tolerant on the surface, and it is even more difficult to be calm inside. This requires a strong psychological endurance.
Second, public opinion pressure. Public opinion supervision and intervention is also a major feature of today's society. The role of public opinion is sometimes positive and sometimes negative. If you can face false words or offensive words, it is not easy and unnecessary to be "angry, full of abuse and calm before grievances"!
Third, intense work. The more challenges, the more stimulation. Principals should have the psychological endurance to face the tension correctly and learn to take some protective measures to get rid of psychological tension and promote psychological adjustment. First of all, the headmaster should be confident and not underestimate his role; Secondly, we should learn to be detached, not meticulous and hands-on. It is necessary to improve interpersonal relationships and mobilize and unite the broad masses of cadres and faculty to work together; Thirdly, we should learn to use "happiness prevention method" and "muscle happiness method" to adjust nervous psychological pressure. For example, listening to music, going to nature and taking part in certain labor or recreational sports activities can all play a role in avoiding excessive tension and fatigue. In addition, in order to adapt to the heavy workload and mental burden, we should pay attention to cultivating deep and humorous psychological quality. High-speed, fast-paced modern life may be destroyed by the tense pace of life and unexpected setbacks in life if it does not have profound and humorous psychological quality. Therefore, principals should pay more attention to humor and happiness in their own lives, so as to adjust their nervous mood and adapt to heavy work.
Of course, you should also have good physical quality, which is also one of the guarantees for people to obtain good psychological quality.
The psychological quality of principals is not innate, but can be formed through practice and self-cultivation. Every principal who is committed to education and determined to reform education should make up his mind to consciously cultivate the psychological qualities that these three modern principals should possess.