How can we make children more independent? Let go moderately and don't be an obstacle to children's independence.
In fact, parents also grow up on the road of children's independence. There are too many things that children clumsily ask for help. How can there be parents who are really "hard-hearted" and can insist on "doing it themselves" under any circumstances? But many times, we really become obstacles to children's independence.
Parents are the guiding lights for children. As children grow up, parents should consciously cultivate their children's sense of independence. Parents can't do everything with their children. When they grow up, the quality of life depends entirely on their own care. Parents should give their children more wisdom to take care of their own lives instead of taking full responsibility. Don't let yourself be full of complaints about children.
Cultivating children's independence needs to start from an early age. Cultivate children's independent problem-solving personality and the spirit of exploration.
Therefore, we must cherish the baby's independent intention, give warm encouragement and support, and make its independence develop continuously.
Help children build awareness of managing time.
From the age of two or three, children can start practicing to help them from "making plans together" to "making plans by themselves".
Instead of jumping around like a chicken every night to put the child to sleep, sit down and talk to the baby. What are the things to do in the evening, reading picture books, playing with toys, drawing, telling stories and taking a bath? Which is the child's favorite, most wanted and willing to spend more time? How to allocate and select these projects in a limited time?
We need to integrate all these into our daily chat with our baby, and through repeated reinforcement, help children establish a sense of managing time.
If you don't let your child know the tasks that need to be completed every day and the time it takes for each task, but just urge him or remind him when to hand in his homework and when to go to bed, it is impossible for him to become the master of "time".
Cultivate children's ideological independence
In the process of learning to let go of children, we will actually discover that the highest state of independence is ideological independence.
Letting children know how to think for themselves may be the most important thing to cultivate independence. Only when a person wants to understand one thing can he have the ability to control it and know how to examine it.
When children are very young, we can guide them through picture books or every time we play with them. As long as you ask your children "why" five times on a question, you can help them understand the gist of the matter.
Cultivate children's self-confidence
(In response to this phenomenon: "Children are not timid outside. Even in a home where there are no strangers, he will get into his father's arms and tell him quietly that he wants to eat pears. Dad asked him to go to the kitchen to wash two pears for his father. At this time, the child rubbed hard in his father's arms and let his father go for him like a coquetry until the adults were entangled. " )
1. Learn to appreciate children and accept them;
2. Encourage and praise children correctly;
3. Give children love and energy;
4. Cultivate children's hobbies;
5. Cultivate children's sense of purpose;
6. Let children go out to exercise more.
Let go boldly and don't let yourself become an obstacle to children's independence.
In our daily life, there are actually all kinds of small things that children should do by themselves. For example, eat by yourself, walk by yourself, wear clothes and buttons, pack toys, pack schoolbags and so on.
Let children do what they can. Children's independence is cultivated in practice. What a child can do by himself should be done by himself, not instead of him. This is the educational principle advocated by Bian Xiao @ Dreamcatcher.
Children are independent individuals, and like adults, they need the opportunity to make their own decisions, exercise their decision-making ability and experience the happiness of independent choice. Therefore, no matter how worried parents are, they should give their children full choices and cultivate their decision-making ability from an early age.
To sum up, the core principle of cultivating children's independence is to respect their independence as independent individuals. In the concrete implementation, we should grasp two principles: one is to judge the ownership of the problem, and the other is to judge the ability of the child. Pay attention to two points in details: first, be calm and patient; Second, use descriptive praise and encouragement more, and don't abuse and accuse.