As a children's screenwriter and director, Xia Donghai not only treats his work seriously and sincerely, but also sticks to his principles.
In one episode, the producer contacted the TV station for an interview for the profit of the TV series.
In the interview questions prepared for Xia Donghai in advance, Xia Donghai's experience as a director in the United States was exaggerated, and he lied that he refused an invitation from a Hollywood director.
In front of the children, Xia Donghai honestly refused such an exaggerated interview from the TV station. "I have been educating them to be honest and upright, and what they say is what they say. If I have to tell a lie to guide me, I would rather refuse. "
Education is not only to tell children orally, but also to set an example.
"How can a child respect others if she is not respected?" Xia Donghai always trusts and respects every child.
Xiaoxue is in adolescence and has her own ideas when she meets something. Abnormal behaviors such as being in a daze at the dinner table and being in a trance have attracted the attention of family members.
Liu Mei dug out photos and greeting cards from Xiaoxue's drawer, mistaking Xiaoxue for puppy love.
When Xia Donghai knew this, he stopped this kind of behavior. "Every child has his own little secret. Sometimes, she doesn't want to be known. If a child is not respected, how can she respect others? "
In the rebellious period of youth, children are eager for private space and a small world of their own.
However, many parents will control themselves and try to cross the privacy boundary and reveal all the secrets of their children.
In the end, it will inspire children's distrust of their parents and close their minds and hearts more.
As Xia Donghai said, only by respecting children can children learn to respect others.
"When encountering setbacks,
First, calm down, second, be strong, and third. "
Xiaoxue has excellent grades and rarely encounters setbacks in doing things.
When planning a performance, Xiaoxue didn't communicate well with his classmates, so they left one after another.
Xia Donghai comforted Xiaoxue in time: "When encountering setbacks, be calm, be strong and unite." . The most important thing is optimism. When something goes wrong, adjust your mood first. "
When children have problems, some parents always blame their children first in a conditioned way. "Why can't this kind of thing be handled well?" "You see how XXX's children don't have your problems."
Among the problems, the children themselves are already very anxious and self-blaming, and parents' doubts will only add fuel to the fire.
It is the key to care about the child's state in time, first channel the child's negative emotions and actively solve the problem.
Xia Donghai's golden sentence about education is of great educational significance to children.
"An inch long, but a foot short."
There are three children at home. Xia Donghai teaches students in accordance with their aptitude and sees the strengths and weaknesses of each child.
Taking Liu Xing as his brother, Xia Donghai knows how to appreciate the bright spot of this "naughty" body.
Liu Mei always treats his son Liu Xing with repressive education.
During a meal, Liu Mei complained that Liu Xing's homework was poor, and she came last, and chemistry and Chinese were about to pass.
Xia Donghai saw the advantage of Liu Xing's performance: he got good grades in math and physics.
Moreover, Liu Xing is very popular with classmates in the class, and she is also excellent in "classmates' comments".
Besides his achievements, Xia Donghai also appreciates Liu Xing's strong communication skills and flexibility.
And this ability is what many children lack now.
Xiao Yu is still young, and Xia Donghai will protect his imagination and encourage him to "dream".
Xiaoyu picked up a stone and thought it was amazing.
Liu Xing used a stone to do magic, which made Xiaoyu firmly believe in her own ideas and never left the stone to eat and sleep.
Xiaoxue Liu Xing scoffed at the stone, but Xia Donghai always spoke for Xiaoxue, hoping to keep Xiaoxue's imagination.
Xia Donghai also specially bought a telescope to cultivate Xiaoyu's interest in astronomy.
Several children of different ages and personalities, Xia Donghai even made a bowl of water.
Really understand and care for every child, educate and guide every child with your heart.
Education is the mutual realization between parents and children. The drama "Family with Children" has been broadcast for 10 years, and many people who watched the drama at the beginning have become the parents of the post-90 s.
However, being a "Xia Donghai" parent is still outdated.
Education is actually not only nurturing, but also nurturing.
Once, because Xia Donghai didn't finish his work, the whole person was in a state of anxiety and hasty drafting.
At this moment, Liu Xing and Xiao Yu clashed when they robbed the toilet. Xiaoyu spilled urine on Liu Xing's sheets in disgust.
Xia Donghai, who was fidgeting at work, vented all his anger on Xiaoyu and asked Xiaoyu to wash the sheets.
Even the best parents make mistakes, but the best parents are better at facing mistakes and summing up experience.
Xia Donghai realized his gaffe after dealing with the finished work, and took the initiative to apologize to the children at night.
Wearing sheets that were accidentally washed by light rain during the day, wearing garlands on their heads and singing children's songs to coax children.
He seriously explained the reason why he was angry, did not shirk his responsibility, and sincerely apologized to the children: "Dad was in a bad mood this morning and shouldn't take it out on you, so I came to apologize to you. You won't blame dad. "
People always have a temper and make mistakes, so do parents. But the correct way to deal with it can make parents and children grow up together and gain patience, empathy and communication skills. ...
Educating children is also a process of self-education, and companionship is only a prerequisite for growth. After all, children only grow up once, and their absence can't make up for it.
John Balbi, a famous psychiatrist, put forward "attachment theory": early parents' companionship with their children will make their children form an "internal working model" of interpersonal relationship.
Simply put, when children feel trust and love in early education, they will think that they are also worthy of being loved; If you are not accompanied by love, you will have a negative evaluation of yourself.
The company of parents is very important.
But companionship does not mean "nanny education".
For example, there was a popular joke on the Internet called "There is a kind of coldness that makes your mother feel cold".
"Nanny-style education" is meticulous, everything clears the obstacles and paves the way for children, and its sequela is to cultivate children into "giant babies" who are difficult to live independently.
Parents should know how to leave their hands, know how to leave space for their children, let them keep their privacy, have their own ideas, and let their children form a sound character.
Companionship and blank seem to be contradictory propositions, but they complement each other.
It is accompanied by children's different growth stages and requires parents' constant control and learning.
Education is an eternal proposition, and there is no standard answer, but perhaps Xia Donghai's parenting style can be used as a reference answer for parents.