Today, with the rapid upgrading of science and technology and more diversified and blended knowledge, the success or failure of a child's future career and achievements in life depend not only on his IQ and EQ, but also on his adversity quotient to some extent. However, modern society is full of all kinds of challenges, and no one, including children, can avoid setbacks. Especially the children who grew up in the doting of their parents, most of them are dependent and sensitive, unwilling to bear difficulties and unable to accept criticism. As long as they encounter a little setback, it is easy for them to give up halfway or even go to extremes, leaving their parents helpless. The reason is that children have low adversity quotient and lack the ability to cope with difficulties and solve problems.
So, what is adversity quotient education? In fact, adversity quotient education is to let children face setbacks correctly in the process of growing up, to adjust their mentality and stimulate their potential, so as to achieve the purpose of letting children master skills and temper their minds. Early childhood is a critical period for children's physical and mental growth, and their quality, attitude and emotion all sprout at this moment. At this stage, parents can properly exercise their children's frustration ability in daily life, cultivate their children's adversity quotient, and lay the foundation for their children to face all kinds of disappointments and problems in life correctly and actively in the future.
At the age of 0, adversity quotient began to cultivate children's ability to bear setbacks in interpersonal relationships and daily life, which is an essential training content for children's growth, such as delaying satisfaction, undertaking housework as much as possible, and being brave in admitting mistakes. Parents can train their children's adversity quotient step by step according to their age:
0 ~ 1 year: actively establish a healthy parent-child relationship with children and cultivate children's trust.
2 ~ 3 years old: cultivate children's self-care ability and self-confidence, and migrate to their later years.
4 ~ 5 years old: Cultivate children's psychological independence, encourage children to do their own things independently, and only help them when necessary.
Over 5 years old: cultivate children's curiosity, guide children to think independently, and cultivate children's ability to solve problems.
Guide children to correctly understand and understand setbacks. For children aged 2-5, their understanding of things is concrete and vivid. Parents can provide him with some comics or picture books that have experienced setbacks and successes. Or parents can tell their children a short story about themselves or people around them who have succeeded through failure in plain language, focusing on describing the psychological change process of the protagonist. Through these real and sensible examples, children can intuitively understand the development process of things, truly perceive and understand what it is like to experience setbacks and failures, and gradually establish their initial cognition and feelings about setbacks.
Give children a chance to face reality. Children are curious, but newborn calves are not afraid of tigers. Parents can let their children participate in housework and group sports, such as cleaning up household items, making beds, participating in children's competitions, etc., and give them a chance to show themselves. And in the case of ensuring the safety of the child, encourage him to try to do what he can, whether it is happiness, disappointment or pain, let the child experience it himself. Let children realize that the joy of success is based on their own efforts, and at the same time let him know that there are many things "I can do well" and "I can do it again". Even if I encounter bumps and meet things that are different from my expectations, I am not afraid, giving my children spiritual energy and courage to start again.
There is no need to artificially set up too many obstacles. In fact, the process of children growing up is full of setbacks. If you can't do something, you need to rely on your parents' help at any time. In the group, toys are taken away by children and criticized by kindergarten teachers, which are actually good opportunities for education in adversity quotient.
But for adults and children, frustration is a negative emotional experience. Too many setbacks will make people lose self-confidence, become inferior and cowardly, produce serious frustration and fear, and finally lose interest in their goals, and even lead to some psychological diseases. Therefore, parents no longer need to artificially create opportunities for their children to endure "hardships", such as sending their children to a "frustration education training camp", which will bring too many setbacks to their children. As long as children encounter setbacks, guide them correctly and face them together.