"Xiong Haizi" is a label often given to naughty, unruly and disruptive children.
Because I am too young to be sensible and have no good family education, I often do things that make people laugh and cry.
For example, deleting my father's work file, damaging my brother's model, scratching my mother's mobile phone screen, making the house messy and so on.
In the face of these behaviors of children, every family should have a feasible plan to "cope".
Dr. Wei, a super-brain science judge, put forward an effective solution-to establish a sense of rules in Dr. Wei's family education collection.
Rule consciousness refers to the consciousness that comes from the heart and takes regulating one's own behavior as the criterion.
For example, you should queue up to buy things, don't tamper with other people's things, give up your seat in public travel, and don't make noise in public places.
There are four steps to establish rule awareness:
? Step 1: Change your mind.
Children are not born sensible when they grow up, so guidance is very important.
"Children are too young to understand, but they will naturally understand when they grow up", which is a wrong view.
After the child is 3 years old, he is not completely self-centered. You can start teaching them the awareness of rules.
? Step 2: Set expectations and remind behavior.
Set expectations for your child in advance, and remind him of his behavior, and don't suppress it violently.
Take dining in a restaurant as an example:
First of all, you can explain the rules of the destination in advance:
"We are going to a restaurant with grandma today. You can eat as much as you like, but you can't play, so you can't run around and talk loudly, which will affect other people, because they come to eat like you and don't want to be disturbed. "
Then, give the child specific polite language guidance: "You can order, but say thank you to the waiter."
? Step 3: Don't rush to correct your child's behavior in public.
If the child does something inappropriate in public, remember not to correct the child's behavior immediately.
You can leave directly with your child, find a quiet corner and communicate with your child calmly.
At the same time, taking him away is also a lesson for the children: "If you continue fooling around, you can't continue to eat or play."
? Step 4: Pre-training, starting from the basics.
Children's social awareness needs to be cultivated from an early age, starting from bit by bit, from saying "thank you" and waving goodbye, to queuing in an orderly manner and politely giving up their seats.
It is difficult for children to establish a sense of rules and behave well in public, which often means they have to sit still.
Children can practice meditation while eating, from 2 minutes to 15 minutes, and gradually establish a sense of rules. Examples speak louder than words.