Every parent has a heart that expects their children to succeed, and no one wants their children to lose at the starting line. So now more and more attention is paid to children's education, and there are more and more cram schools, such as dancing, piano painting and so on. The children's time is arranged to be full. However, for many novice parents, they don't know how to start with their children's education. Of course, children must rely on their own efforts and diligence to learn. A set of good educational methods and models is also very important, so as to better assist children's learning, and every child has a rebellious period. At this time, children are the most difficult to educate and manage, and they are also the easiest to go astray. So, how to educate children?

Method 1: Respect children's "sophistry"-feedback effect

Whenever parents point out their children's mistakes, children always find many reasons to prove their innocence. At this time, parents generally call their children's behavior "sophistry" angrily. In fact, this is not sophistry, but a kind of feedback from children to their parents' education.

Education is a two-way street. Parents should not only teach, but also accept children's feedback, so that education can achieve the most perfect effect. However, many parents are not aware of this. They just "teach" themselves and don't care about their children's information feedback. Such education often fails to achieve the purpose that parents want.

Method 2: Analyze and respect children's feedback.

When children give feedback on our education, we must first analyze this feedback. Of course, this analysis is not only aimed at children's language, but also includes children's movements and expressions.

However, it is worth parents' attention that children's feedback should be respected regardless of whether it is "sophistry". In the above-mentioned educational cases, when the children tell the reason why "the children in our class say so", the mother yells at the children without analyzing their feedback. Is this a sign of disrespect for children's feedback? Therefore, the mother doesn't know the truth of the child's feedback-she doesn't think "you are so stupid" is a dirty word.

It is conceivable that parents misunderstand and suppress their children's feedback. In the long run, children will never give positive feedback to their mothers' education. Without children's cooperation, parents can't educate their children.

Method 3: Educate children purposefully according to their feedback.

When analyzing the problems of children's feedback, parents can carry out purposeful education on children's feedback. For example, if children don't know the importance of politeness when giving feedback, parents will never do it again. We can tell children the importance of politeness through examples and reasons and guide them to be a good boy who is polite. If children's feedback is that they don't want to know the responsibility caused by their recent mistakes, parents should isolate their children and be a person who knows their mistakes, corrects them and dares to do things. ...

In short, no matter what feedback children have on their parents' education, respecting and analyzing children's feedback is the primary prerequisite for achieving educational goals.

Method 4: Family education should not be inconsistent-Watch Theorem

Psychologists have done an experiment: give a person a watch, and when someone asks him the time, he can tell it quickly and confidently; However, when the man got two different watches, the watchmaker could not know the time quickly. Because two watches can't tell a person more accurate time,

On the contrary, it will make people who look at the watch lose confidence in the accurate time. Psychologists call this phenomenon "watch phenomenon", and draw a conclusion that there can only be one guiding principle or value orientation in doing things. Later, people called this conclusion "Watch Theorem".

Do not take drastic measures.

Some parents think that "jade is not a tool" and "it is not easy for children to become talents without beating and cursing". Therefore, whenever a child makes a mistake, it is not a calm reason, but a slap in the face. Treating children rudely like this will not only make them realize their mistakes, but also leave a shadow in their hearts, and their personality will easily become extreme.

Set an example.

Children can see what parents say and do. Their imitation ability is very strong, and empty preaching is far less influential than actual action. Isn't there such a public service advertisement? The mother washed her grandmother's feet, and the younger son learned to wash his mother's feet when he saw it. Similarly, "fish begins to stink at the head", if the parents behave badly, it is hard to say that the educated children are not copies of failure. It can be seen that the words and deeds of adults are really important.

Adults should agree.

Sometimes parents need to communicate, agree on the same thing and have a unified attitude. You are forbidden to gossip. You play the white face and I play the red face. Don't scold each other in front of the children. Otherwise, children often can't agree and don't know who to listen to. Over time, the status and prestige of adults in children's minds will disappear, and it will be more difficult to discipline children.