20 19. 1.20 learning sentiment: know your emotions and say hello when you meet. In the Analects of Confucius, Li has such an allusion. A gentleman asked Confucius, what do you think I look like? Confucius looked at it and said, I think you look like a Buddha. The gentleman said, I think you look like a piece of shit and burst out laughing. How pathetic. May there be a Buddha in my heart.
205438+09.438+0.20 Understanding of Pigeon Proverbs;
The feast master said: "Virtue is a blessing, no complaints and no disasters, longevity is prolonged, and wisdom is enriched."
Life is not smooth sailing, everyone will have emotions, which is normal. But emotions, like water, should be sparse and not blocked. Learn to control emotions, not too serious, and not blindly inclusive.
As the saying goes, "everyone has a temper. It is instinct to take it out and skill to hold it out."
Emotional peace is a kind of ability to digest negative emotions, which will not only make the marriage boat avoid all kinds of reefs, but also increase the happiness index of marriage.
Controlling emotions can best reflect a person's character. Everyone has emotions, and the owner of life must be someone who can control his emotions.
Emotion depends on character, as the old saying goes: a prime minister can punt in his stomach. In your mood, there is your tolerance and character.
The best way to cherish life is not to preserve health, but to manage your emotions. Robert White once said: "At any time, people should not be slaves to their emotions, but should control their emotions in turn."
Chinese medicine also often says: too much happiness and sorrow, anger hurts the liver, sadness hurts the lungs, thinking hurts the spleen, and fear hurts the kidney. This just shows that people's emotions are closely related to health.
For example, most people with high work pressure have gastrointestinal diseases; Strong and unhappy people generally have headaches; People who are overly anxious are prone to hair loss; Women who are often angry are prone to breast hyperplasia. People's health is the foundation of everything, and people with bad temper are generally in poor health.
Real health care is not living in a good house, not eating health care products, but managing your emotions.
Learn to control your emotions. Festinger, an American social psychologist, has a famous rule-10% of life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by your reaction to what happens.
He who can control his emotions can control his life.
Li Yu, a writer in the Qing Dynasty, wrote: "There is no other addiction except writing books. Worry should be eliminated and anger should be released. "
Zheng Banqiao paints. When he was squeezed by officialdom and depressed, he painted bamboo. After painting, he felt very comfortable.
At the same time, distract yourself, listen to music, run and so on. It is also a good way to adjust emotions.
So how to overcome the intrusion of bad emotions? There are several small ways to help you control negative emotions:
1, find the reason
When you are unhappy or worried, the first thing you should do is to find out the reason.
Step 2 get enough sleep
Professor Roland Dahl of the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center found that lack of sleep has a great influence on our mood. He said: "For people who don't get enough sleep, those annoying things can better control their emotions."
Step 3 get close to nature
Being close to nature has always been considered as a good way to relax and relieve emotions. The famous singer Flacaster said: "Whenever I feel depressed and depressed, I go to work in the garden, and my unhappiness disappears in contact with those flowers and trees."
4, positive and optimistic
The differences in our moods are often not caused by the things themselves, but depend on the different ways we look at things.
Although water is soft, it can drip through the stone; If people are peaceful, they will be able to turn spring breeze into rain, split mountains and cut off rivers.
Let's reinforce a dam for negative emotions, and let ourselves sublimate from the slave of emotions to the master of emotions and have a happy life.
Parents managing their emotions well can set a good example for their children, which is conducive to their self-management, self-discipline and overall mental health.
Emotional management of parents' self is the top priority of active family education. First of all, we should face up to our emotions; Secondly, when your child's behavior really makes you angry, you can do something that makes your child "unexpected"; Third, parents should give themselves some time to vent.
Emotional management is easier said than done, but it is worthwhile, because it is good for you and your children. "Your reaction to things will also be their reaction to things. If you want children to control themselves, you must first learn to control yourself. "
20 19.438+0.20 Learning Proverbs: Emotional management has been mentioned repeatedly, but managing emotions well is really a very profound topic.
Emotional guidance is Buddha to us, it can make you happy; Poor emotional management can easily destroy a child or even a family in an instant.
I want to reflect at this moment. I used to be a slave to emotions. From now on, I want to be the master of emotions and be my own master!
20 19. 1.20, think tank's testimony: Festinger's law points out that 10% of the realized facts can't be controlled and changed, but we must control the remaining 90%, learn emotional management in our daily life, change our own inherent concepts, practice our ability to perceive the arrival of emotions, and think about what the inherent harm is.
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Learning sentiment
? Stable emotions come from the ability to perceive happiness! The same thing, different people have different emotions, the same thing happens in different situations, and the same people also have different emotions! Life itself has no color, but our own emotions have given this moment a different label!
? I have my own emotional situation, the main reason is that my desire is not satisfied! What you do always has a purpose, just like loving your children, but you are not unconditional love! I always hope to see all kinds of excellent performances in my children, expecting them to be the best children!
? Only those who really have the heart of public welfare realize that the happiness they pay is to see the growth and happiness of others! In this process of helping others, you will also get real pure happiness! [happy]
Today's sentiment: people who are not self-disciplined can't control their emotions well and yell at each other at every turn. They won't talk until the problem is solved, but this kind of shouting that can't control their emotions has been completely learned by children. When I found out, I was deceived. From then on, conscious control. Sometimes you can't control yourself. Learning every day is no longer a slave to emotions. Do it yourself.
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Think tank proverb:
Life is not smooth sailing, everyone will have emotions, which is normal. Emotional stability is the best education for people. Emotions, like water, should be sparse but not blocked. Learn to control emotions, don't be too serious, and you can't just contain them, but learn to channel them. If parents are emotionally unstable, it is easier to bring emotional or psychological torture to their children, which will affect their mental health and the formation of three views, leading to their abnormal growth. Therefore, we should learn to control our emotions at any time, look at everything with a peaceful attitude, consider problems from the perspective of children, and moisten things quietly for a long time!
Feeling: As the saying goes, good parents are better than good teachers. More important than learning is the child's inner security and peace. If the child has any problems, it is mainly emotional problems. Poor learning is caused by negative emotions, rarely because of intelligence. Parents' inner anxiety and impetuousness are more terrible than children's learning problems. Only when children are calm, can they absorb, precipitate and think rationally, can they be far-sighted, insight into everything, discover and create, and can they be truly outstanding! Controlling emotions and creating a good family environment are the prerequisites for ensuring a good environment for children to grow up.
20 19. 1.20 proverbs and feelings sharing
A stable mood is the best education.
Seeing this, I began to reflect on what just happened. I bought a dress online and it turned out to be inferior. I took a photo for the merchant, but he refused to admit it, saying that I thought it was the cause. I am annoyed that he is shirking responsibility, but repeated communication is unpleasant! My husband actually wanted to help me talk to the merchants, but it backfired! It feels even more blocked! My mood has been soaring, but after changing my cognition, I will slowly adjust myself and repair myself to wear it! This is completely the same thing, because I am in a bad mood, which leads to the following things! You must manage your emotions well and don't let him succeed! It is also a good example for children, because children's personality is influenced by our parents, and it is also conducive to the development of parent-child relationship!