I think it is the best arrangement for parents to take care of their children themselves. It is important for parents to help their children establish basic rules, but more importantly, children's childhood life is only once, and it is short. If they miss the rescue, they will never make up for it. After all, human life is long and short. As parents, every day that we can accompany our children is a unique day. Maybe one day when you want to spend more time with your children, they have grown up and don't need you anymore. Most importantly, as parents, only we have the responsibility to take care of our children.
Because of the great social pressure now, who will take care of the children has become a big problem. Of course, it is best for parents to take care of children before they are 3 years old. After all, children's early education is more important.
There are three reasons:
Parent-child love
Parenting education, I still remember Zhezhe's grandfather in his 80 s said to me after I gave birth to the only princess in my husband's family for three generations, "XX, we miss our children. She is our granddaughter, so leave her to us! " I said, "Dad, I know you miss children, but you should know that I miss children more. She is my daughter first, and then your granddaughter, right? Hehe, besides, mothers miss their children more. As a father, you should understand me. Hey, we will come back often. "
Escape from contradictions
I still remember my second sister-in-law said to me after my nephew was 2 years old: "XX, you will know when you have children. When there are many contradictions, we must add one more word. " For example, the controversy over eating: Young parents advocate eating well and being full, and this feeling of fullness is based on the children's own wishes. Snacks should definitely not be given to children. However, on the one hand, most elderly people are still spoon-feeding their children to eat more. According to their own experience and consistent ideas, they basically can't control their children's habit of eating snacks.
Show filial piety
Seriously, this is from the heart. Our parents have worked hard all their lives. When they are old, I think it's time to have a rest and enjoy themselves. Why let them take care of our children again? Maybe even they themselves say, "We don't feel tired, we like children, and we are willing to take care of them ..." But if we are old, it will be an insurmountable mountain. However, I think, if I am filial, I would rather let them rest more, travel more and enjoy life more, rather than satisfy their irrational idea that they have to take their granddaughters if they love them.
Suggestions on intergenerational education;
First, it is best to bring your own, but you should always go back to see the elderly;
Second, whether you take care of yourself or the elderly, please be more tolerant and try to stick to your own principles;
Third, when you insist on your own parenting style, please express your views skillfully and directly to convince the elderly.
abstract
Parents bring up their children, and the parent-child relationship will be more harmonious in the future, which is also more conducive to the development of some educational work. I hope every parent can understand that raising children still needs their own dominant position. After all, maternal love and fatherly love are irreplaceable!
situation
Let me talk about my family first. I have been taking care of my children since they were born. I live next door to my parents. I will go to my parents' house for dinner and occasionally stay at my parents' house for half a day. When the child is eight months old, grandma comes to help take care of the child and cook. I take care of the children with my grandmother. There have been many contradictions. Grandma left a year later, and I still took care of the children alone. Now that the child is four years old, I feel lucky that my grandmother didn't come to help with the child after the child was two years old. Because my child has a really good personality now and is not clingy. When he went to the toy store, he said he wouldn't buy toys unless he bought them. The owner of the toy store was stunned when he saw us. He even went in to see if he didn't buy it and the child didn't cry.
Why are you lucky not to ask grandma for help? Because after two years old, especially after three years old, it is a crucial period for children to cultivate their character. At this time, parents need to let their children slowly understand some rules and some basic truths. However, grandparents and grandparents always give their children everything they want, which will make them confused about what is right and wrong and only know what I want. If you can't get it, you will cry until you can get it. In fact, when children do this for the first time, it is only tentative. When parents ignored him, the child got bored and gave up. After several unsuccessful attempts, this method is basically unnecessary, and it seems to have succeeded in front of all grandparents.