There is an old saying in China that a dutiful son is born under a stick, otherwise the enemy will be defeated without fighting. For educating children, every family and every parent has been learning. I think children should be educated strictly, not strictly. ? Strict refers to principles, values and basic judgment of right and wrong; ? Serious, easy to slide to anger, emotional out of control, irrational. This negative emotion comes from parents and will be passed on to children, which will bring harm to children.

Suppose a child did something wrong and was beaten by an angry parent. I was badly beaten and my ass was swollen. It took three days to reduce the swelling. After this period of time, the child's personality has undergone great changes, becoming feminine, introverted and even dull, so obviously, the child has a psychological shadow. However, unlike everyone's imagination, this psychological shadow actually does not come from the beating behavior and physical injury, but from the anger and threat conveyed to him by his parents at the same time. Therefore, you must never use too extreme methods to educate your children.

The most important thing is to cultivate children's awareness of rules. There is no need to worry about whether these normal rules will bring harm to children. What you need to worry about is whether you will carry bad emotions to children. In the education of children, we should keep calm from beginning to end, and don't produce and pass on negative emotions to him. ?

It is precisely because I know that the rules will not hurt children, but the emotions of fear, anger and anxiety will, so I support strict education. The ancients said: "Teaching is lax and teachers are lazy." If someone thinks that only by rewarding, cajoling and conniving at compromise can the relationship with children be handled well, he should actually practice self-awareness and know whether he has fear, anxiety and anger.