As a parent's estimate, there are few books written by Professor jane nelsen that I don't know. Active discipline is a way to discipline children without punishment or connivance ... Only in a cordial and firm atmosphere can children cultivate self-discipline awareness, sense of responsibility, spirit of cooperation and ability to solve problems, learn social skills and life skills that will benefit them for life, and achieve good academic results ... In this book, I am most impressed by family meetings and gentle and firm principles.

This is a book I read recently, which was also completed under the guidance of Dr. Xu Guifeng. I like the part of this book where the problem lies, and I will listen actively. The first chapter mentions that parents are human beings, not gods. Parents should first take care of their emotions in order to get along better with their children. In addition, the concepts of "no loser", "I-information", "behavior window" and "false acceptance" are mentioned in the book.

Some parents are used to reading and good at writing, but they don't know how to accompany their children to learn reading and writing.

This book tells us in detail how to exercise children's reading and writing skills step by step, which is very practical. It can not only help us guide our children, but also make us gain a lot.

Of course, different children have different methods, and they can't all copy them mechanically, but it is still very enlightening and instructive. It gives us a very specific idea, telling us how to do it and why.

I recommend Home of Origin: How to Repair Your Personality Defects by internationally renowned psychotherapists Susan Forward and Craig Barker. This book is not aimed at children's education in the traditional sense. Instead, it discusses the influence of parents' negative parenting style on their children's life from the perspective of adults, and the shortage of the next generation's parenting style caused by it.

Sadly, all the cases in this book are true stories. "Only the name of the consultant and the scene with clear orientation have been partially changed, and all cases have not been dramatized." The reason why I recommend this book is to tell our parents that the way we raise our children is very similar to what we have experienced many times. When we can't do anything about our children's words and deeds, and occasionally or regularly do something to our children that we can't understand, or even subconsciously feel inappropriate, we may have been deeply poisoned by our family background, bravely feel our psychological pulse and get rid of it, and become the best ourselves first, and then become excellent parents.