Situational method is used by parents to educate their children;
Give full play to the flexible advantages of family education, make full use of ready-made life scenes, educate children naturally and appropriately, feel the true colors of things, and parents (Weibo) vividly and kindly impart ideas and methods. The key is that parents should seize the opportunity of education.
Self-study introspection method:
Buy or borrow a popular science book suitable for teenagers to read, so that children can read it by themselves and inspire children. It is unwise to block this knowledge, in fact, it can't be blocked. Parents are more worried about the unscientific knowledge that their children get from abnormal channels. Choosing a good book means hiring a good teacher. It's much more scientific for children to read and think by themselves than for us to chatter. Parents should pay attention to two points: first, the choice of books must be appropriate; The second one is: no? Giving it to a child face to face is like accidentally putting it on the table, and he will read it himself without warning.
New infection methods:
A good novel is a life textbook for students whose outlook on life is forming, and its emotional shock to children is incomparable to that of ordinary parents. Let the children calmly step into the social environment where the novel unfolds, follow the ups and downs of the master's life, taste joy and pain together, and feel beauty and ugliness, good and evil, truth and falsehood with a pure heart. Children will find their lifelong idols in books. Celebrity biographies not only have this educational effect on children, but also are more authentic. This suggestion is best implemented in winter and summer vacations.
Conceptual infiltration method:
For example, watching TV, a girl rashly promised herself to someone, and our family all sighed and talked about it. We can also make up the following story under the assumption that girls politely decline. Another example is reading newspapers, at? Golden shield? 、? A cordon? Some cases published in such columns, such as those deceived girls and misguided teenagers, can be used as topics of family conversation. In the discussion, we showed the moral concept, values, code of conduct and aesthetic consciousness of adults. This is obviously better than telling children to face life.
Anti-micro duration method:
Children's interpersonal communication always has a process from quantitative change to qualitative change, from minor change to great change, from gradual change to sudden change. Parents should give priority to prevention, guide and educate early, and do a good job before their children fall into the quagmire of puppy love. So, what are the signs for children beforehand? Absenteeism, late at night: contact with off-campus personnel; Class look trance; High spirits, sudden ecstasy and madness: furtive, whispering: excessive pursuit of dressing up; Suddenly spend money lavishly: suddenly don't like to talk, eyes in a daze: academic performance dropped significantly: abnormal diet and daily life, often looking out? When these changes are discovered, parents should be vigilant. Don't be impatient when you find out. First of all, you should start with care and understanding, eliminate the child's vigilance, and get the child's active cooperation, so as to understand the real situation. Then discuss the countermeasures with the children.
Interest transfer method:
Adolescent children are full of energy and have great activity energy. Parents should not think that they can tie their hearts by studying all day. Every weekend, arrange some fun activities for the whole family to make children look forward to the weekend. For example: spring outing, hiking, People? Gourmet cooking contest, Spring Festival small family production exhibition, etc. Parents should encourage their children to learn photography, painting, playing the piano, collecting stamps, climbing mountains and swimming. The richness of family activities and the persistence of extracurricular hobbies can divert children's attention and excitement and find a place for their abundant energy.
Suggestions on family education First of all, it is suggested that fathers should devote more energy to educating their children from an early age. On the one hand, it increases the early influence on children, on the other hand, it also reduces the burden on wives. At the same time, it is also suggested that mothers don't have to take all the responsibility on themselves, so that husbands have the opportunity to display their skills.
Secondly, parents should have a division of labor and cooperation in educating their children. Parents have their own advantages and disadvantages in personality, intelligence, hobbies and behavior patterns. In educating children, everyone tries to complement each other, and the advantages of husband and wife complement each other. Children's education mainly involves learning, life, labor, sports, entertainment and other activities. Parents should divide their work according to the content of education or according to time, so that children can feel that both parents care about him and educate him, just as parents take their children to the streets to play, and children are most willing to walk in the middle, holding their father in one hand and their mother in the other, and he will move forward happily. Division of labor and cooperation, don't be afraid of trouble, you can adjust it at any time if it is not timely. When a child grows up, we should consciously discuss with him and hope that his parents can help him.
Thirdly, it is suggested that mothers should reflect and clean up their educational words and deeds when their children go to primary and secondary schools. What contents and methods should be changed to avoid children being bored. If mom doesn't know, she can discuss it with the whole family or consult a tutor. At the same time, it is suggested that father should always review his educational words and deeds and adjust them in time.
Fourth, parents often study children's education together. Constantly sum up experiences and lessons, make suggestions to each other, and formulate cooperation measures to improve the educational effect.
In a word, both parents take the responsibility of education, which is a faster progress for children? Together? It is also a kind of happiness for children.
If one of the parents can't keep in touch with their children for some reason, they should do their duty by writing letters, making phone calls, sending tapes, giving books, giving small gifts and so on.
Teaching children what parents must know is a matter of interest.
The most primitive interest model is to see the happy feeling of adults doing this in the eyes of a baby. He aroused the child's instinctive feeling about this matter: interesting, interesting. Once you form a habit and find interest, it will be more interesting. Then you can practice the same behavior over and over again. If you do more, you will be happy and happy. It is useless to say anything if children are not interested in learning. Children learn through behavior and feeling, and interest is cultivated.
It is emotional power, not reason, that urges children to study hard.
The power of emotion: first, interest, which means you can find happiness by doing things; Second, the result of doing something can be recognized by parents, and children will do it again and again when they are happy.
A child's first day is to please, and his behavior is determined by his parents' attitude towards him. Through the efforts made by parents for themselves, parents can express a feeling of love and stimulate the child's gratitude, which will make him work hard. Reasoning can't stimulate children's interest in learning. Children study hard only for the following reasons:
(1) Learning equals happiness;
(2) Parents' benign support? Encourage and confirm;
(3) Parents' unconditional love inspires children's gratitude.
Teach children to be responsible for themselves, so studying hard is a natural choice for children.
My basic educational view is that a spiritual person should include three aspects: first, self-esteem, which is the backbone of people; The second is self-confidence; The third is responsibility. In children's eyes, the world is strange, and the best way to cultivate children's self-confidence is to encourage them. When these three aspects are established, education will be easy.
When I was educating my daughter, I asked her to record the good things that happened in the class every day and the harvest of the day, that is, to let her find happiness, be willing to go to school and attend classes, and gradually cultivate his habit of studying hard.
Parents' affirmation, praise and encouragement are the driving force for children's progress.
Without affirmation, praise and encouragement, it is like putting a seed in dry soil. Without fertilization, watering and illumination, it is impossible? Germination? , there will be no motivation.
At first, children don't know what interest is and what is good or bad. His instinct in life is to please his parents. He believes that the standard of making parents happy is parents' affirmation, praise and encouragement, which is the motivation. Conversely, parents' negation, criticism and accusation are the downward pull of children's growth. If a child grows up in this environment, he will not have self-esteem, self-confidence and responsibility. If these three aspects are not established, it is useless for parents to say anything.
What children really need is their parents themselves, not their money.
If you were given a choice, what kind of family would a child be lucky to live in? I think the happiest family is that parents have high achievements and can educate their children; Secondly, parents with low grades will educate their children. But the children of such a family must learn to surpass in order to achieve greater success.
The following are the most unfortunate children:
(1) Parents have high achievements and will not educate their children;
(2) Parents have low grades and will not educate their children.
In the eyes of children, everything may be a game.
The reason why we treat work and study as a business and play poker as a game is instilled in our children by our parents.
If we make children realize that learning is a very happy thing, then parents don't have to bother to educate. Solumensky once said:? Educating children is a simple matter? . As long as adults grow up with him and treat life as a game, children will be interested in everything.
A mother who once raised seven excellent children did this: every time she washed clothes, she prepared a small washboard, a washstand and a small washbasin for her children. She regards washing clothes as a kind of happiness, and also makes children feel happy from it. It is our parents who make children realize that learning is very painful and difficult, which causes children's tension and pressure, so that they can't study hard.
Therefore, in early education, it is necessary to stimulate children's interest in learning in games, and then stimulate children's interest and happiness in learning, so as to learn well. Man is an organism, and he strictly follows it? Escape from pain and pursue happiness? Parents must be aware of this.
There must be excellent educational methods behind excellent children.
Are the parents of the lucky children there? Unintentional? You did the right thing. So-called? Unintentional? In other words, parents have not studied any pedagogy and have not listened to parent-child lectures. Parents are unintentional. This is not a natural choice, but an unexpected choice.
I think our six brothers and sisters were brought up purely because of their parents' carelessness. Read Carl? Victor's educational theory and Steiner's natural education theory, I found that my parents did it unintentionally and basically did it. In the cultivation of children in my family, self-worth is preserved, and children's self-esteem, self-confidence and responsibility are not harmed. But in my heart, my mother loves all our children. There are six children at home. I don't remember her washing clothes for us older children. She said it was your business, making the bed, it was your business, and she did it unintentionally. It's not that she knows how to make her children have independence and self-esteem. She doesn't have this idea, but she has too many children and is too busy. After getting up in the morning, you fold the quilt yourself, which is your business; Learning is your business. So I grew up thinking that clothes should be washed by myself, but I didn't say that my parents should wash them for me. I don't have this concept.