Hello, you said that your 13-year-old daughter has a secret crush on others and asked her how to educate her. As an online counselor in Liang Jie Psychological Counseling Room, I think this at least shows that you, as a mother, usually lack effective parent-child communication with your daughter, which makes you unable to know more about your daughter's adolescence in time and makes her more active with the help of your so-called traditional family education. Therefore, clarifying the interpersonal boundary with your daughter and learning to communicate with her is the first thing you need to improve at present.