Many parents are reluctant to let grandparents take care of their children. The fundamental reason is that parents' education methods are different from those of the elderly, and their children's education methods are also different. But in the final analysis, young parents educate their children with books in order to gain professional knowledge, while the elderly care for their children more importantly from work experience, so it is easy to have differences.
However, with the progress of society, more and more elderly people are willing to explore and innovate after retirement. There is an old woman in the community who just retired at the age of 50, saying that she is helping the girls with their children. Because the girls are required to read more books by themselves, they will double the number of parenting books they buy as soon as they have time, because the grandmother is wearing diapers and barefoot. This shows that as long as the elderly want to learn and train, there is no pressure to accept them with knowledge.
Secondly, grandparents want to play with their children wholeheartedly.
It is often said that children lack companionship, which means they don't have much time to spend with them. More importantly, parents lack efficient companionship with their children. More parents either play games with their children. If you don't accompany your children at work, do your own thing.
For children, reasonable companionship in the true sense is useful. What children need more is that parents can interact with themselves in the process of companionship.
Many grandparents are not as busy as their parents. They have lived for half their lives, are cheerful and can do their best when accompanying their children. For example, the children of relatives have been brought up by their grandmothers since childhood, and they will chat with them when they are free. A 2-year-old child is naturally a gossip.
Third, grandparents have a good temper and can raise children with high emotional intelligence.
Scientific research has confirmed that the human brain is plastic, and the brain responsible for long-term management must be fully developed before the age of 23, so children are more likely to get angry and not easy to adjust their emotions.
However, in the face of children's tantrums, if parents can guide them objectively and correctly, the responsible and rational lower brain in the child's brain will take over the responsibility of the initial function. If parents lose their temper, children will react violently. For a long time, the upper brain responsible for primitive instinct will manipulate the lower brain responsible for rationality.
In other words, children's brain construction is related to the way adults raise children. Therefore, if parents want their children to have high EQ, they must treat their children's tantrums objectively. Compared with young people, grandparents will have a better temper. Especially when dealing with children, parents may yell at their children because of too much pressure, and grandparents may patiently persuade their children to cry.