School education needs the support of family education. I believe many parents attach great importance to their children's education, because a good education is very beneficial to their children's later life, but school education is not just a school problem. Let's share that school education needs the support of family education. Let's have a look.
School education needs the support of family education. Parents cooperate with schools and teachers to lay a solid foundation for students' healthy growth, so that scientific and reasonable family education, school education and social education can become a joint force to promote students' healthy growth. Infect and encourage students to face setbacks and overcome difficulties with tolerant mind, calm mind, warm language and simple family affection.
The healthy growth of students not only needs teachers' educational guidance and training, but also needs to draw nutrition from family, school and social ecological environment, and it is also inseparable from parents' words and deeds, careful care and affection infection. These factors are the necessary conditions for students' growth. The absence of any factor will affect and hinder the healthy growth and normal development of students. However, due to various reasons, although parents attach importance to school education, and even enlarge the educational function of the school and the training function of teachers to the limit, they do not pay enough attention to the important role of other educational factors in the process of students' growth, resulting in educational imbalance. This not only increases the educational pressure and burden of the school, restricts the effective play of the educational function and role of the school, but also affects the physical and mental health and future development of students. In this regard, I would like to make some suggestions on family education.
Both family education and school education look at students' progress from a developmental perspective.
The growth of students is a long process, which is influenced, guided and nurtured by the comprehensive environment of family, school and society. Students' minds are subtly generated in the atmosphere created by family, society and school, and are perfected through constant experience and perception. Influenced and driven by the harmonious family and social environment, his studies are gradually accumulated, optimized and updated in the process of peer guidance, guidance and mutual assistance, which produces wisdom and problem-solving ability, thus realizing the comprehensive improvement of moral, intellectual, aesthetic and physical qualities. However, influenced by the eagerness for success, parents downplay other educational factors outside the school, place too high expectations on the school, over-amplify the educational function of the school, and over-pursue their children's academic performance, hoping that their children can make real progress and change every day. School education provides the necessary field and environment for students, and it is also the main carrier for the harmonious development of students' cultural study, physical exercise, aesthetic edification, success and moral shaping. However, the functions of environment and carrier can only be optimized and maximized with the comprehensive coordination and support of effective family education and harmonious social education environment.
Family education should be based on the developmental, efficient and vital growth concept of "laying the foundation for students' lifelong development, lifelong learning and lifelong happiness", with students' future development and happiness as the goal, students' healthy growth as the responsibility, and students' wisdom generation and ability improvement as the expectation. It is necessary to eliminate the impetuous mentality of quick success and instant benefit, treat students' study with a normal heart and guide their behavior. Looking at the progress and difficulties in the process of learning and growth from a developmental perspective, we should not only give timely and appropriate affirmation and encouragement to every progress or success, but also help to analyze the conditions and reasons of progress in time, accumulate experience, open wisdom and generate motivation in the process of feeling happiness and happiness. Use tolerant mind, calm mind, warm language and simple family to infect and inspire students to dare to face setbacks and overcome them, so that they can grow up healthily in an environment where success and setbacks coexist.
Treat schools and teachers with a supportive attitude.
The process of students' education is a process of cognition, accumulation and gradual development in which people resonate in a certain field and environment and real behavior resonates with social norms. The learning process includes both the process of learning and the process of learning. The process of "learning" is mainly carried out in the state of identification, identification and demand. If students lack trust and recognition in schools and teachers, even if they are eager to "learn", their effect will be affected by the lack of psychological motivation to produce cognitive resonance, thus weakening the motivation to overcome difficulties and eliminate obstacles, and also contributing to the breeding of fear and rebellious psychology in learning. The process of "learning" is the concrete manifestation of the practice, exploration and development of "learning", which is driven by the psychological support of longing for experience and the interest in exploring cognitive resonance. If students lack deep trust in schools and teachers as organizers, instructors and leaders of learning, even with the guarantee of high-quality material carriers, effective problem situations and good field atmosphere, it will be difficult to maintain lasting interest in active inquiry due to insufficient psychological support, leading to superficial cognition and difficult to reach the realm of in-depth understanding and development.
Family and school are the main fields of students' study and life, and the subjects of communication in these two fields are parents, classmates and teachers. Students are psychologically attached to their parents and are eager for their parents' approval and support. What happened at school and between classmates, he thinks, are the "strengths" and "weaknesses" of teachers, especially the people and things that touched his psychology, and he is generally willing to tell his parents with his own understanding and judgment. This kind of narration can not only help parents to know more about the school, but also help parents to gradually understand the children's mental development in the process of further narrowing the emotional distance with their children. It can also help parents to exchange views with their children based on the topic situation and resonate psychologically. This requires parents to listen carefully to their children's understanding and judgment, capture effective information, and support and affirm the views that contribute to the formation of morality; Parents should stand at the height of being responsible for their children's life development, support the school, trust teachers, tolerate others, and guide their children to learn to distinguish right from wrong, trust, tolerate and respect others with appropriate and acceptable language, thus effectively stimulating their potential for hard work, progress and healthy growth.
Let students return to the ecological growth environment
It is necessary for parents to ask their children to study hard and give them the necessary pressure. However, this kind of pressure should be moderate, based on students' lifelong happiness and development, according to the specific situation of students' individual interests, guide students to develop harmoniously in morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor, and cooperate with schools and teachers to lay a solid foundation for students' healthy growth, so that scientific and reasonable family education, school education and social education can become a joint force to promote students' healthy growth.
At present, in order to meet the psychological needs of parents, various profit-oriented cram schools, training courses and teaching AIDS are flooding. Some parents either send their children to cram schools according to their development needs, or they need to buy teaching AIDS. These possible needs have also influenced and shaken other parents, and there has been a phenomenon of following the trend. The educational resources and services provided by the school, as well as subject teaching materials, teaching AIDS and exercises, have been able to meet the learning needs of students. However, parents buy a lot of repetitive or even low-quality teaching AIDS and exercise books for students without choice and analysis, forcing students to repeat inefficient learning, which makes students waste time, consume physical strength and energy, produce weariness of learning, and affect the normal learning effect; Forcing students to attend preparatory classes, extra-long classes, cram schools and remedial classes not only increases the financial burden of families, but also increases the learning burden of students for no reason. What is more serious is that it causes students' psychological fatigue and affects their physical and mental health.
Therefore, family education should be coordinated with school education and social education, and students should not be educated in inefficient and ineffective classes, in preschool classes, in tutors who increase their burden, or in extracurricular textbooks that do not meet their academic conditions and exceed their learning limits. Instruct students to straighten out the learning relationship, form effective learning methods, develop good study habits, adhere to school-based learning, classroom learning and autonomous learning under the guidance of teachers, and participate in some necessary social practice, extracurricular reading, extracurricular sports and other activities on the basis of achieving the goal of efficient classroom learning, so that students can realize the harmonious development of morality, intelligence, physical fitness, beauty and labor under the state of ecological learning.
School education needs the support of family education. School education needs humanization.
German education is famous for its profound cultural background and perfect system. However, for children, rigorous Germans seem to be more tolerant. They respect each child's personality, and even for those "problem" children in the eyes of ordinary people, they can find out the shining side of children.
The following is a clip of German education seen by two children's education researchers during their visit to German schools, which may serve as an example to help you understand how an excellent cultural background and tradition have permeated all aspects of education.
A quiet corner that comes in and out at will
In the classrooms of kindergartens, primary schools and middle schools in Germany, there is an independent area called the quiet corner.
The quiet corner of the kindergarten is semi-open and safe, with soft cushions and pillows and dolls. Children aged 3-6 can do somersaults in it, or hug the dolls inside to meet their skin requirements.
The quiet corner of a primary school is often closed, usually with cabinets on three sides and curtains on one side, with sofas, tables and books inside. In class, if children want to be alone, they can enter this area by themselves. The teacher won't interfere with him, but he will pay special attention to the student because his behavior exposes his psychological needs.
We once chatted with a classmate in a quiet corner, and their answer was-"I just want to be alone for a while." Other students also have normal expressions.
This system makes us feel very fresh. This design at least helps children to face their emotions and emotions positively, and at the same time provides teachers with observable external behaviors, which makes it possible for further supportive help. I remember that loneliness was mentioned in a book about the spirit of German universities. The author thinks that the outstanding achievements of German universities are related to being able to withstand loneliness, and the quiet corner design of basic education has actually rationalized the demand for solitude. Being alone is the release of the spirit, at least that's my understanding.
Christmas pony
In a special small class, 10 lovely children are having a clay sculpture class next to a teacher. Because Christmas is coming, the teacher is telling the children the story of Jesus' birth in the manger with great interest. The desktop is full of pony toys of different shapes. The theme of this lesson is to make a pony out of mud. A lovely blond boy attracted us. He was absorbed in playing with mud, but the play of other children didn't disturb him at all. He was completely immersed in his own world. I sat next to him and quietly observed his production process: kneading, kneading, patting, kneading ... skilled and full of passion. This process obviously makes boys very happy. Half an hour passed, and the pony was finally finished. The little boy smiled and proudly held it up for me to take a picture of his pony. "and." The little boy said to himself, and quickly picked up a helicopter-like wing and put it on the pony. "The pony can fly again!" I couldn't help but give the little boy a silent praise with my thumb.
After class, the teacher of this class told me that these children are all children with different types of learning disabilities, and after the test and judgment of psychologists, they have formed such a class that needs special counseling. These children have no mental problems. They are even children with extraordinary intelligence. They focus on what they are interested in and show great interest and talent in learning. But in the face of things that you are not interested in, your brain will be blank and you can't listen to the teacher normally. German teachers call this phenomenon "black box phenomenon".
In addition to normal teachers, this kind of teaching class is also equipped with special psychological counseling teachers. After one or two semesters of effective training, these children 100% can enter normal classes. The little blond boy who is a Christmas pony is a very talented child. It is a touching aspect of the humanization of German education to actively encourage children to display their talents and take early measures to correct what we call "partiality".