First of all, a child's social communication ability is closely related to his language development. Therefore, in order to make children's social skills develop well in the future, we must pay attention to children's early language accumulation. We have a book called Baby Language Master, which is devoted to children's language development in this respect. If a person's language is mature, then his social skills will definitely improve. Therefore, to improve children's social skills, we should first pay attention to children's language development, and then another is to let children get along with more people, and our parents also need to provide corresponding environment.
In fact, the early education center is a very important environmental provider for our children from zero to six years old. For example, there is a group game in the lobby at 10 every day. This game is a mixed-age activity, also called the social class activity in Datang. Its design is very colorful. Every day, children sing, dance, read picture books, perform and perform sitcoms. Regardless of age, there are all kinds of members, including grandparents, uncles and aunts, and parents. There are even younger babies, so in this big environment and big family, children can fully experience all kinds of roles and people, which is very necessary for children.
Some of our children go to kindergarten and are taciturn. That must be the children's daily living environment, including its game environment, which is rather monotonous. Therefore, our parents must pay attention to the richness of children's daily living environment. Of course, enriching children's daily life does not mean taking them everywhere every day, but giving them more observation objects, giving them more opportunities to contact people, allowing him to use his own language more and think with his own little brain. What about this environment? Only in this way can he feel the interaction between others and him more. How does his behavior affect others? Then such interaction is the formation and accumulation of our children's interpersonal experience and perception.
We often don't care about children's interpersonal skills when they are young, because it doesn't seem to have much impact, but when children need to face school, work and society independently, this problem appears. Many young people are eager to find opportunities for communication, training and learning after entering the society. This is of course because they feel the pressure from this aspect, but they are far less relaxed than those who seem to be born to deal with people. Communication ability: You should understand that this is a psychological factor at the bottom.
Factors still need to be established at a minimum. Therefore, we hope that parents have a rich parenting environment and cultivate their children's cheerful and easy-going personality in this rich environment. Another thing to know is that communication between people is actually a very relaxed state. Then this relaxation does not mean that it is sloppy, slow, careless and careless. That's not true. Relaxation is a relaxed and happy state, which is brought about by having goals and directions. We hope that the child can learn to get along with more people, and he must learn to relax. Our child can have many qualities, for example, he should be confident, he should be cheerful, he may even be humorous and clever, but first he should relax, play and learn to relax. Getting along with others is the secret to improve our children's communication skills.
So how to make children have such a good state?
The key lies in the relaxation of our parents. Our parents should learn to relax during the whole parenting life. We learn a lot of knowledge, theories and practical methods, not to make us implement them nervously, but to combine these ideas, our, er, practical operations with our daily life in a relaxed state. In such a parenting state, you will get along with your children easily and happily, which is also the most fundamental purpose for us to learn these theories and methods.
So how can we really relax?
Keep studying and practicing. There are many practical cases in the theoretical practice of our course. Even if we can't do exercise once a day, it is possible to do it three times a week. After a period of time, you will begin to realize that getting along with children is a kind of fun and enjoyment, and learning is to relax us as parents. Some parents also said that I feel that the more I learn, the more I feel that I can't teach, and the more children learn, the more anxious they are.
In fact, the problem is not that you have learned more, but that you have learned but have not applied it. Use the methods and practices you know and understand to continuously give your children appropriate support. Give children all kinds of scientific guidance steadily. Once? We ... parents begin to make up their minds and continue to do it, and our parents will have a real relaxation in their hearts. Relaxation will bring parents a stable mentality, which is what our children need most.
Montessori has a famous saying. When I see it, I will forget it. Maybe I'll remember it when I hear it. When I do, I can understand that scientific method.
Our parents should use it on themselves and interact with their children. That's all that matters. Therefore, I also welcome you to join our learning and practice community. We can study together, practice together and grow together. We not only have methods and motivation, but also are easy to stick to, because only in this way can we really appreciate how helpful these methods are to children. And because we continue to do it, we will certainly receive an ideal result. This is of course one of my messages.