This debate about "tiger mom" and "cat dad" is better or worse, extending from the Internet to the National People's Congress. ? Support: Too fierce competition?
Don't blame your parents for becoming tiger mothers, because exam-oriented education is under great pressure. ? The school competition is too cruel, and the children are naively squeezed! ?
"You can't spoil children too much, sometimes you need to be strict." Sina netizen "Spring blossoms face the sea, baby" said on Weibo. ?
Although the "tiger mother" education method seems a little harsh, there are still many such supporters on the Internet. ?
Netizen "10,000" shouted in support of strict education: "This is called bitter first and then sweet. When I was a child, I was very bitter. Once you grow up, you become a social elite, reflecting the value of a tiger mother. " ?
Netizen "silly old man" reluctantly published a self-made "doggerel": don't blame parents for being tiger mothers, and the pressure of exam-oriented education is great. The school competition is too cruel, and the children are naively squeezed! ?
Most netizens who support "tiger mom" think that children lack the ability of self-choice. Sina netizen "abuabua" thinks: "Tiger mother's education method still has some truth, and the practice of herding sheep to let it develop freely is pure nonsense. Take learning musical instruments as an example, boring technical children are almost uninterested, and Beethoven was also trained under his father's stick. " ?
Objection: Don't believe in "losing at the starting line"?
I don't approve of tiger mother education, as long as my son is happy and healthy every day. ?
Most netizens who support "Cat Dad" want to give their children room for free growth and a happy childhood. The words of Tencent netizen "tiffanyliu" represent this aspiration: "I don't approve of tiger mother's education, as long as my son is happy and healthy every day." ?
Netizen "Xue Ping" also agrees with the "cat dad" type of stocking education. As Wang Dinghua, deputy director of the First Department of Basic Education of the Ministry of Education, said: Don't lose at the starting line is a bluff to some extent?
When the netizen "Deng" opposed the "tiger mother" education, he was filled with indignation: "If you were my mother, I would have fought with you!" ?
It is an indisputable fact that children in China study hard. Wang Hongjun, a deputy to the National People's Congress, described the heavy study life of children as follows: More than 80% of children who walk on the road before 8: 30 on Saturday and Sunday morning go to various remedial classes.
Classroom guidance; More than 80% of the children who still walk on the road after 8: 30 pm on weekdays come home from remedial classes. ?
A well-known domestic website launched an online survey of "Children's Happiness Index". Among the 3 1584 netizens who participated in the survey, 44.3% netizens thought that "the study task is too heavy and the test pressure is too great" is the main reason why China children are unhappy; 23.8% of netizens chose "the educational method of parents seeking quick success and instant benefit", ranking second; "Chinese serious classroom education" ranked third, with 22.6% of netizens voting. ? Confused: Is it a headache to educate children?
"Making children happy is also making yourself happy. Think about their future, but dare not let this short happiness affect them. Very contradictory! " ? @ 丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫?
In the opinion poll jointly sponsored by Nanfang Daily and 3G portal, 34% netizens chose "Tiger Mom, PK Cat Dad, who do you support", while 40% netizens supported Cat Dad and thought that "it is important to care about growth and children's happiness". ?
About "How do you think children's ability should be cultivated?" 42% of netizens chose "lax supervision and poor self-discipline of children" and 36% chose "correct guidance, which is in line with children's nature". ? Interestingly, 20% to 30% of netizens chose "I don't know, educating children is a headache" for every question. The pros and cons of each question are roughly equally divided, which truly reflects that the educational method is indeed an ambiguous problem. ?
The netizen "put the wine under the fence" said: "The baby is practicing the piano. Although still reluctant, I took the initiative to practice. After reading' Tiger Mother', I felt that I was a tiger mother and felt ashamed. Making children happy is also making yourself happy. Think about your child's future, but don't dare to let this short happiness affect it. Very contradictory! " ? Core: growing up with children?
The cultivation of children should cultivate children's autonomy. Give children a space, a time, a condition, a problem and a difficulty. ? @ user candy?
Sun Yunxiao, an expert on adolescence, made a survey and found that China's parents often ask three questions: Have you finished your homework? Why did you come home so late? Who are you going out with, a man and a woman? These seemingly caring problems just reflect the lack of care for children's spiritual level. ?
Han Deyun, a deputy to the National People's Congress, said: "Although I don't quite agree with the' tiger mother' education, it reflects that families and parents should still play an important role in the whole education. Our education system should leave room for the education of families and parents, rather than simply asking and directing. " ?
Netizen candy listed several experiences in educating children: "For the cultivation of children, we should cultivate his autonomy: give children a space to play by themselves; Give your child a time of his own arrangement; Give the child a condition and let him experience it himself; Give the child a question and let him find the answer by himself; Give the child a difficulty and let him solve it himself. " ?
"Cat Dad" has often said frankly that respecting children and growing up with them, regardless of their mother and tiger, is the core of family education. ?
Tiger mother, professor of Chinese at Yale University, USA. Originally named Chua Meier, she recently published a book called Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother, which caused a sensation in the United States. This book introduces how she disciplined her two daughters with China's educational methods. She called her daughter rubbish, demanded an A in every subject, and was not allowed to watch TV. She was not allowed to eat if she didn't practice the piano well. Tiger mother's educational method has caused a sensation in American education, which has caused a great discussion about Chinese and American educational methods. Later, with the participation of Time magazine, the discussion almost reached a climax. The story of tiger mother appeared on the cover of Time magazine. ?
Cat dad, as opposed to tiger mom, is a general term for fathers who educate their children individually and teach them in accordance with their aptitude. They are tolerant and good at communicating with children. They use a combination of Chinese and western education to guide their daughters to choose the life they want. ? The truth about parenting?
Isn't music painting fun? ?
Mei Kai (pseudonym) is 4 years old this year. Besides going to kindergarten every day, he also has weekends. His mother took him to various training courses. Mother Zhou Li (pseudonym), 33 years old, is now studying for a doctorate in a university. She said: "I am not a tiger mother, but I just hope that my children will be respected by everyone from an early age." ?
"In the past, the kindergarten tuition fee for children was 3,500 yuan per month, bilingual teaching. Now, for the convenience of transportation, the tuition fee for attending community kindergartens is monthly 1800 yuan. Although the current kindergarten is also bilingual, I think it may not be solid enough. I gave my children an English class outside, which cost 6,000 yuan for half a year. " Zhou Li told reporters that other children are now in bilingual kindergartens. If they can't add extra classes, they will lose at the starting line. ?
"Although some people say that such a young child will not have a deep memory of language, the subtle influence is very powerful. I only hope that he will be interested in English since he was a child and really learn it like a duck to water. " Zhou Li said. Besides English, Mei Kai never forgets piano, painting, roller skating and dancing. "Small bullet piano is very good, I always think so, cultivate elegant temperament. As for painting, he has this talent and always likes to doodle on white paper for a while. The painting class that is reported to him now is not expensive, 80 yuan a class. " In Zhou Li's view, as long as children can develop in an all-round way, no matter how expensive or busy they are, they should learn. ?
"MacKay is still taking dance lessons, going once a week and learning to dance with a group of little girls. I hope that he can appreciate art and beauty, not afraid of strangers or the opposite sex, and cultivate a more sunny and sound personality. " Zhou Li said, if you want your child to be braver, to exercise motor cells and body coordination, you will give him a roller skating lesson immediately. ?
Zhou Li was puzzled by some voices questioning "Tiger Mother". "I am not strict with my children, but I still love them sometimes. Of course, if he doesn't meet my hopes, I will let him know that my mother is unhappy. I haven't read any books about the education of "tiger mother", but I only know that "tiger mother" has no son. If my child is good enough, I might as well be a' tiger mother'. " Zhou Li said. ?
"Some people say that our family has high requirements for children, and I know that children are fun by nature, but aren't music and painting fun?" Zhou Li asked the reporter.