We want living books, not dead books; Real books, not fake books; Books that need to be moved are not static books; Use books, don't read them. Generally speaking, we should be guided by life-centered teaching, not text-centered textbooks. -Tao Xingzhi

Whenever I see children, I can always find my own shadow in them. "My daughter's mouth is like mine and my son's eyes are like mine. My daughter is as cute as me when she works carefully. " I feel flattered every time I think about these advantages.

But in addition to advantages, there are also disadvantages. Let me think about it.

First, the daughter loves to be angry and doesn't like to express emotions.

Once, my daughter and several children were playing together at home. At first, they played harmoniously and happily. Somehow, my daughter ran to one side and sulked. The little friend who was left hanging is simply scratching his head. What's going on here?

Daughters love to be angry and don't like to express their emotions. Really like me. I vaguely remember that when I was a child, I was sulking from time to time because of a little thing, and I could keep silent for hours. At that time, adults thought that children were cute and fun when they were angry, so they never helped me how to deal with emotional problems. Slowly, when I grow up, the problems left over by history become more and more serious. The problems brought by my family can never be passed on to my next generation. Therefore, as a mother, I should influence my daughter's change by adjusting her mood.

I went to my daughter and asked softly, "Sister, aren't you happy?" ? "Use inquiry sentences and try to get children to participate in the answer. Answering questions can also help children express and clarify their emotions. After getting a positive answer from my sister, I asked again, "What happened just now? "Encourage children to express things clearly in their own language. My sister slowly relaxed under the care and inquiry of adults. My sister said, "When we were playing just now, xxx didn't obey the rules. I never want to play with him. " "Yes, people who don't follow the rules of the game don't like anyone. If I were you, I wouldn't want to play any more. But is it appropriate for you to leave your friends alone? " My sister shook her head in silence. I went on to say, "How can I continue to play games happily without snubbing my friends?" She said, "I told him the rules of the game again, and I must abide by them. Otherwise, he will be eliminated. "Well, that's a good idea."

When you meet a child's emotional problems, adults must stand on the same front with him. First of all, adults affirm his emotions and empathize with them. And then help him find the cause of his emotions. Finally, try to deal with the chain reaction caused by negative emotions with your children. By practicing emotional problems again and again, children's ability to resist and deal with problems will become stronger and stronger.

Second, my son was afraid of being beaten, so he casually said he didn't know.

In the evening, my brother took a piece of dry cake to grandma's room to find the cat-Dudu to play with. As a result, he crushed the cake and spilled it all over the floor. Grandma saw it and said, "Why did you spill cake crumbs all over the floor?" I don't know. ""This is Jojo, do you know? " "I know." "Do you know how to sprinkle some?" "I don't know. "This conversation was heard by me washing my hands in the bathroom, so I called my brother to the bedroom. Ask him, "Did you just go to play with Dudu?" "yes." "Then how can I tease doodle? "I don't know." "Did you take the bread?" "Yes." "That's interesting. I crushed a piece for DuDu to eat. " "Did it eat?" "Didn't eat. So you crushed the cake and spilled it all over the floor? " "Yes. Next time you tease DuDu, don't give him a cake. Because it doesn't eat, and pieces are scattered all over the floor. Why didn't you say you didn't know from the beginning? Because I haven't decided what to say yet. Don't rush to answer next time, you can say' let me think about how to make it clear' first. " "Very good."

My brother is more naughty and energetic than my sister. So I usually have more opportunities to talk about it. My brother said to me more than once, "Why are you treating your sister better than me?" To tell the truth, I really want to be a fair mother because I am the one who is not valued in my family. In dealing with the contradiction between brother and sister, we have always adhered to the principle of "fairness, justice and seeking truth from facts". However, other members of the family are not in my charge. The child's grandmother always protects her sister because she likes girls. The attitude towards my brother is completely opposite. So these are also the reasons why my brother casually said "I don't know". Every time I close the bedroom door afterwards, I will tell my brother and sister the truth and explain the reasons.

Children are angels sent to us by heaven. They come to help us become more qualified parents and better ourselves. Therefore, in the face of children's mistakes, shortcomings and deficiencies, please ask parents to practice themselves with a heart of learning and gratitude. Remember, children are parents' shadows and copies. If parents want their children to be excellent, they must be excellent themselves first.

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