When grandparents conflict with mom's educational ideas, dad needs to stand firmly on mom's side and stick to the position and responsibility of the first responsible person. Accept the opinions of grandparents, communicate with them in a way they can accept and ask them to understand, and slowly let grandparents see the benefits of mom and dad education with their children's positive and optimistic state. This is the responsibility that dad must bear. It may be because of his "incompetence" that grandpa crossed the line and participated in the children's education too much, which caused you trouble.
In addition, from the perspective of your family structure, it consists of three generations: husband and wife, parents and children. Dad should be the core of dealing with family problems and contradictions, because his wife, parents and children are all together because they love him, and he naturally has the closest relationship with every member. Generally speaking, in front of grandparents, what my father said is equivalent to what my mother said. Mom is more flexible in dealing with problems. Some things may get twice the result with half the effort if dad communicates with grandpa.
The way of raising children between the older generation and young people will be more or less different. So how much can we accept this difference? How much can we change? If we can't accept it and change it, then we might as well look at it in another way and from another angle! You know, my father-in-law loves children as much as we do. It's just that my father-in-law loves his children in a different way from us.
On the other hand. The purpose of cultivating children is to hope that children will go to society in the future and have a sound mind to face all kinds of people and things. When children go to society, they will inevitably meet people who think the same as their father-in-law. At this time, because the child has been in contact with such people since childhood, does he know how to deal with such people? There is no right or wrong way of education, and effective education is the best way to raise children.
Respect my father-in-law's education and stick to my own parenting style. When you tell your children that grandpa's method doesn't work, you have other options. You can try to solve the problem in the way your mother gave you. I believe that children will gradually have their own thinking. ?