The first article "Filial piety is filial piety" highlights this point. "Filial piety is the first virtue", and filial piety is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. Parents have paid selfless love for their children. It is human nature for children to be grateful to their parents. However, if this nature is not guided in time, the grateful heart will soon disappear, and I am used to my parents' love for me, but I forget my filial piety. When they grow up, they will not be filial and ungrateful to others. Therefore, we can cultivate children's gratitude from an early age and let them know how to honor their parents first, so that they can push this gratitude to all the people around them in the future.
Filial piety in the door expounds the code of conduct when children get along with their parents at home. This item has six meanings:
First, promise your parents' call in time and accept their teachings with an open mind. "Parents call and should not go slow; Parents, don't be lazy; Parents teach, you must listen; Parents have the responsibility to be obedient. " Our parents told us to promise immediately, not to delay, and to respect and obey our parents' demands. Filial piety must first cultivate respect, and all interpersonal relationships are based on respect. When children are always grateful to their parents, they will naturally treat their parents with a gentle and respectful attitude. Children who respect their parents at home can also respect others outside. It is worth mentioning that inheriting parents does not mean giving up children's subjectivity, so this kind of education is not contradictory to contemporary subjectivity education.
Second, take good care of your parents and always reassure them. "Warm in winter and cool in summer; In the morning, it is provincial, and when it is faint, it will be fixed; Sue when you go out, and return to your face; The place of residence and industry have not changed. " Children should be considerate and careful to their parents, always say hello to their parents, report peace, and don't let their parents worry. Although these behaviors are daily chores, they always ask children to be grateful and always think of their parents. When caring for parents becomes a habit, his gratitude will spread from one person to another, from himself to others, and to the process of interacting with every social object.
Third, don't be willful and don't hide things. "Although things are small, don't be fine. If you are fine, you will lose; Although things are small, don't hide them. Hiding them will hurt your heart. " Don't make your own decisions on the smallest things, but ask your parents for advice first; Even the smallest thing can't be hidden, so as not to make parents sad. Children's trust in their parents is also a sign of filial piety, and parents should be informed of everything. If you are willful and worry your parents, it is unfilial.
Fourth, understand your parents' likes and dislikes with your heart and meet your parents' wishes unconditionally. "What do you love, you can do; What you hate is what you want to go. If you get hurt, you will be worried; Moral harm brings shame to parents. God, why is filial piety so hard? Hate me, filial piety Fang Xian ". Parents should try to do what they like and try to avoid what they hate; Because the body is influenced by parents, children should be responsible for themselves and not let their parents worry or be ashamed; No matter how parents treat themselves, we should honor them wholeheartedly. This is precisely because children are grateful to their parents for their kindness, and this gratitude will not change because of the change of parents' attitude towards themselves.
Fifth, persuade parents to use euphemism. "Pro, remonstrance, kindness and softness. If you don't advance, you will be happy, and if you cry, you will complain. " Filial piety does not mean obedience. No one is perfect, and parents will inevitably make mistakes. When they make mistakes, be careful to persuade them to turn over a new leaf. When persuading them, be sincere and kind. If parents don't listen to advice, wait patiently until there is a suitable opportunity, such as when parents are in a good mood or happy, and then continue to advise. This meticulous care and dedication should also be based on gratitude.
Sixth, when parents are sick, children should take care of them carefully, and after their parents die, children should be sad and polite. With the development and progress of the times, it seems unrealistic to observe three-year filial piety, but the spiritual value contained in ancient books is not out of date. It emphasizes that children should be grateful to their parents, and the key point is not to stick to the form. Every dutiful son will naturally feel sad when his parents die unfortunately. Thinking of his parents' selfless love for him, he has taken pains to cultivate himself into an adult. "Children want to raise and not wait for their relatives", and their feelings of sadness are naturally revealed.
China has always attached importance to funerals. There is a saying in the study of the Analects of Confucius: "Be cautious and pursue the distance, and the people are virtuous." Its fundamental purpose is to educate the world, so as to cultivate people's moral character and the concept of giving back to others. It can be seen that the gratitude education contained in Disciples Rules has important reference significance and value for today's society: First, it is most practical to take parents as the emotional service object of gratitude education. Because improving children's moral quality step by step is more suitable for children's development mentality.
It can be seen that Disciples Rules is based on children's gratitude to their parents. Children's love for their parents is the most primitive and instinctive emotion of human beings, and it is also the easiest to be awakened and stimulated. If children's gratitude to their parents is transferred and amplified, "a sense of security for the elderly" will spread to all members of society. Therefore, taking parents as the emotional service object of gratitude education, let children learn to feel their parents' kindness and repay their parents' virtues, which is not limited to cultivating a family virtue, but more importantly, cultivating children's self-esteem, sense of responsibility and personality consciousness. Secondly, combining family life practice with gratitude education is the easiest way to achieve results. Because emotional education pays more attention to perceptual experience than rational research, it is necessary to organically combine gratitude education with life practice, educate and induce students in daily life, cultivate children's gratitude feelings, let the seeds of love take root in children's young hearts, and finally bloom beautiful flowers of gratitude.