First, parents are both teachers and friends of children.
At present, when parents educate their children, they should first understand the new characteristics of contemporary family interpersonal relationships. Due to the changes and progress of society, people's democratic consciousness is generally enhanced. The parent-child relationship in the family is no longer the absolute obedience of children to their parents under the feudal patriarchal system, but has become a new interpersonal relationship between parents and friends. Therefore, in family education, we should adhere to the basic positions, viewpoints and methods that parents are both teachers and friends of children. Only in this way can it conform to the new characteristics of contemporary family interpersonal ecosystem, and it is possible to fundamentally establish a new type of intimate and relaxed parent-child relationship, thus laying a fundamental foundation for doing a good job in family education.
Under the guidance of such a position, viewpoint and method, in family education, parents should treat their children with kindness and educate their children with love. The attitude towards children should be looser, more tolerant, more heart-to-heart activities, less authoritarian, more suggestions, less arbitrary, more smiling faces and less angry faces. Friends have more friendship and less dignity as parents and teachers. In this way, the relationship between parents and children will be intimate and relaxed; Conducive to the formation of children's independent personality. Only in this way can we do a good job in family education and establish a close new family interpersonal relationship.
In modern family education, parents should set an example and teach by example.
The so-called teaching by example means that the education of children depends on both language (including writing) and action. Words and deeds include face-to-face language education, persuasion, inspiration, encouragement and criticism. It also includes the use of words, letters, family rules and other forms. In family education, teaching by example is very important, which cannot be abolished or underestimated. Understanding children's various situations, exchanging feelings, communicating thoughts, giving guidance, imparting knowledge, exhorting, encouraging and criticizing are the main methods and channels. Use writing, letters and other pen teaching methods under special circumstances. If educators are not allowed to meet the educated, they will have to write letters and letters. In a word, writing teaching is one of the basic forms and methods of educating children.
The so-called role model is to educate and motivate children with parents' practical actions. Educators should first do what children are asked to do. Their duty is to ask children to respect the elderly and honor their parents. Then, educators should first respect the elderly and honor their parents, so as to set an example for children and let them follow suit. If you don't respect your old people, but ask your children to respect and honor yourself, it will be very difficult. For another example, if you ask your children to be frugal, you should do the same yourself, instead of wasting money or spending money like water. If you ask your children to love learning and work hard, you must first love learning and work hard, and so on. In short, no matter what children are asked to do, they should set an example for them with their own actions, otherwise the effect of education is not good.
The so-called teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, that is, when educating children, we should use our own good actions to influence, influence and move them, instead of blindly ordering children to say such and such things, saying one thing and doing another. In family education, as long as we can really teach by example, and teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, family education can be done well in general.
Second, adhere to the combination of strict requirements and patient persuasion.
Family education, the master's work is ideological education, ideological transformation of his own children, pointing out the direction, correcting mistakes, clearing the fog, shaping children's soul, morality and personality, and ideological work of being a man. The key is to change people's ideas and attitudes and arouse people's enthusiasm. Mandatory orders can only bind people's words and deeds for a while, but not for a lifetime. Therefore, family education should combine strict requirements with patient persuasion. Because of the parent-child relationship between educators and educatees in family education; During this period, there is love between parents and children, which is far more intimate than other interpersonal relationships. Therefore, as long as we adhere to the combination of strict requirements and patient persuasion, education can achieve better or better results. The so-called strict requirements are the requirements for children. The content should be correct and the requirements should be high. Children who violate the requirements or make mistakes cannot be let go, nor will they be investigated and asked. We must make them realize their mistakes and correct them, and we must not tolerate them and let them grow and develop.