What should children do if they love fantasy? Children always need the care of their families. In the face of difficult problems, children can seek help from their parents. Children begin to learn certain skills at an early age. What should children do if they love fantasy?
How do children love fantasy? 1 Does fantasy have a positive effect?
Fantasies, even absurd fantasies, generally occur in children's early childhood, that is, between the ages of 2 and 4. It is a natural expression in the process of children's growth and plays a positive and important role in children's personality growth.
After children grow up to four or five years old, simple fantasies rarely patronize children's spiritual world and are often replaced by more rational imagination. Therefore, parents should not only regard their children's fantasies as "a scourge", but should rationally encourage their children to spread their fantasy wings.
Fantasy has the following benefits for children's personality growth.
Help to cultivate imagination. Fantasy is the foundation of imagination. Children who are good at fantasy are often imaginative when they grow up. As we all know, imagination is very important for cultivating a person's thinking ability in images and artistic and scientific talent.
Emotional experience In the fantasy world, children can experience emotions that are difficult to experience in real life by playing various roles, such as emotions, sadness, regret, jealousy, panic and so on. So it is possible to have a more real and emotional understanding of people's emotional world. Enhance communication skills In the fantasy world, children can have the opportunity to play various roles and meet and get along with various roles, so that children can learn how to communicate or communicate with various roles in another virtual world outside the real world.
Does fantasy improve the ability to analyze and solve problems?
Don't think that children's fantasy world is absurd. In fact, this is a big classroom to help children improve their ability to analyze and solve problems. You know, just because children's fantasy world may be all-encompassing, they may encounter more colorful problems or problems than real life, and their ability to analyze and solve problems can also be improved by solving hypothetical problems or problems.
keep balance
Children aged 2-4 have begun to understand that there are many things in the world that they can never have, and there are many things that they can't do. Faced with these hopeless and helpless negative emotions, the fantasy world is an excellent harbor to help him escape, an outlet for him to vent his emotions, and gives him a new psychological balance.
Plus affection and friendship.
In children's fantasy world, parents, grandparents, girlfriends and, of course, children themselves are the most important. It is in the scene after scene of "passionate performance" that family affection and friendship are subconsciously increased.
Parents still need to give reasonable and scientific guidance to children's fantasies from content to way, including: once children's fantasies are found to be too absurd, they can help analyze their irrationality, thus inducing children to step into a healthier fantasy world; Helping children understand the fantasy world is very different from real life after all; Stop children from lying by fantasy; Teach children not to indulge in fantasy, even fantasy.
Parents can also provide their children with excellent fairy tales and storybooks for fantasy. It is best to encourage children to add characters and plots after reading them, thus creating a more fascinating fantasy world.
What should children do if they love fantasy? My daughter Yali loves fantasy very much. She often sits at the table alone, with her eyes closed and motionless. I asked her what she was doing, and she just smiled and said, "I'm playing my fantasy game." I didn't care at first, but gradually, I found that she seemed to have played too many fantasy games. One day, through the kitchen window, I saw Yali waiting at the bus stop in front of her house, but all the cars came and she was still standing still. I rushed over and asked her why she didn't get on the bus. By that time, the waiting bus had left. She said shyly, "I was distracted just now and didn't notice the bus coming." I asked her what she was thinking. She told me excitedly: "I was waiting for the bus here and saw a pebble on the ground." I closed my eyes and imagined that I picked it up, stood by the pond and threw it into the pond, and the pebbles jumped forward on the calm water. " Jumped on the water three times before sinking into the water. I missed the bus only because I was addicted to fantasy. "I scolded her, accompanied her to wait for the next bus, and watched her get on the bus before going home.
One night in the twelfth lunar month, the weather was particularly cold. Ali came back from school, her face flushed with cold and her hands and feet were cold. I immediately brought her a steaming cup of milk, put it on the table, and went to do something else. After a while, I suddenly heard the sound of the cup falling to the ground. I ran over and saw that Yali was scrambling to clean up. The milk spilled all over the floor and the cup was broken. I asked her what happened and whether she was hurt. She was embarrassed to tell me that she was distracted again just now. I scolded her angrily if she was dreaming again. She admitted that she only dreamed of going to the warm south, where it was sunny and warm as spring, so she knocked over the milk.
Just when I hesitated to correct Yali's fantasy game, one day, I received a phone call from Yali's teacher. On the phone, Miss Yali politely let me go to school. I don't know what mistakes the obedient Yali made would be serious enough to ask her parents to go to school, so she hurried to school. The teacher told me that Yali was often absent-minded in class, and inexplicable words often appeared in her homework. For example, the words "the black ant hit the brown ant and escaped" will be caught in the middle of the math problem. Besides, Yali is often late for class.
When I got home, I realized that I had to educate Ali to stop making mistakes. I sternly warned her not to think in the future. Unexpectedly, Yali righteously refuted me and said, "If there is no fantasy, how can there be Harry Potter?" I was shocked at once. After a while, I also felt too extreme and couldn't help laughing. I deliberately asked Yali, "What are you going to do?" Yali blushed and said nothing, obviously not knowing what to do.
I thought about it and then asked Yali, "Do you like sweets?" Yali looked at me doubtfully and replied, "Of course, but you always control me not to eat too much." I said, "That's because sweets are delicious, but it's not good to eat too much, so be temperate;" Take candy as a reward. I think fantasy is the same. Although you like fantasy, and fantasy can also stimulate your imagination and creativity, if you want to fantasize without the limitation of time and place, isn't that going to delay a lot of things? " Seeing that Yali nodded in agreement, I continued: "You can take fantasy as dessert. For example, when you finish your homework, you can play your fantasy game as a reward for completing your homework. What do you think of my proposal? "Yali was very happy and immediately decided to give it a try.
This method is really effective. Since then, Yali has never missed the bus, spilled milk or been late, and there are no more inexplicable words in her homework. Of course, the teacher didn't make any mistakes for Yali and asked me to go to school.