1. Ignoring children's needs: A failed mother may ignore children's basic needs, including warmth, love, care and security. She may not pay enough attention to her children's emotions, health and education, and lack important care.
2. Violence or abuse: A failed mother may violence or abuse her children. She may cause physical or psychological harm to children, give them negative emotions and punishment, and cause physical and mental harm to children.
3. Lack of emotional connection: A failed mother may lack emotional connection and intimate relationship with her children. She may not express her love for her children and lack intimate interaction, which makes them feel isolated and insecure.
4. Negative role model behavior: A failed mother may show negative role model behavior, such as irresponsibility, disrespect for others, lack of self-discipline or unhealthy lifestyle. These behaviors will have a negative impact on children's growth and values.
5. Lack of education and guidance: A failed mother may lack education and guidance for her children. She may not pay attention to children's learning and growth, and neglect to cultivate children's skills and morality, resulting in children's lack of appropriate guidance and growth opportunities.
6. Lack of emotional support and comfort: A failed mother may not be able to provide emotional support and comfort that the child needs. She may be insensitive to the child's emotions and unable to give comfort or encouragement, resulting in the child feeling lonely and not understood.
7. Neglect of education and study: A failed mother may lack attention to her children's education. She may not care about her children's academic performance, and she lacks investment in cultivating their interest and ability in learning, which leads to their neglect in learning.
8. Pay attention to appearance rather than internal quality: A failed mother may pay too much attention to the child's appearance and social image and neglect the cultivation of the child's internal quality and values. She may emphasize external performance and evaluation, but ignore the cultivation of children's morality and moral concepts.
9. Manipulate and restrict children's autonomy: A failed mother may over-manipulate and restrict her children and give them no chance to develop and explore. She may interfere with children's decisions and actions too much, depriving them of their autonomy and independent thinking ability.
10, lack of attention and companionship: A failed mother may lack attention and companionship for her children. She may not be able to give her children enough companionship and support at important moments to make them feel neglected or abandoned.
Matters needing attention in getting along with mother:
1. Respect and understanding: respect the mother's feelings, opinions and decisions, and try to understand her position and background. Constantly strive to establish a relationship of mutual respect and understanding and avoid conflicts and quarrels.
2. Listening and communication: Listen to the mother's voice and keep good communication with her. Express your thoughts and feelings and respect her opinions. Active communication helps to deepen mutual understanding and trust.
3. Care and concern: express concern and concern for the mother, and care about the mother's health, mood and needs. Pay attention to her daily life and provide help and support.
4. Gratitude and gratitude: Thank your mother for her dedication and concern, and express your gratitude and love to her in time. Show your recognition of her value and importance.
5. Time and companionship: Give your mother enough time and attention, accompany her and participate in her life. Participate in family activities, chat, walk, etc. Work together to create an intimate family atmosphere.
6. Respect personal space: Give your mother some personal space and privacy, and respect her independence and personal needs. Without too much interference and surveillance, she felt free and respected.
7. Acceptance and tolerance: accept the mother's shortcomings and weaknesses, and tolerate her shortcomings and mistakes. Try to look at her with a more inclusive and understanding eye and establish an inclusive and warm relationship.
8. Take responsibility: try your best to take responsibility and take care of and care for your mother. Help her deal with daily affairs, share the burden, and make her feel supported and at ease.