We all know that children will always have difficulties in building a trust relationship, so do you know how to educate crying children? Here I will tell you about the education methods for crying children, hoping to help parents in need!
Educational methods for children crying 1 1. What should I do if the child cries? Understand the reason for crying.
We should fully understand children's requirements and treat them correctly. When the child is sad, angry, wronged or crying, parents should let the child see that you fully understand his mood, so that the child will feel much better when someone understands him and will not continue to cry. When children are willfully crying because they don't meet their own requirements, parents should carefully explore the reasons why children must insist, and don't deny their requirements with their own tolerance or value judgment. We must resolutely deny the unreasonable and excessive demands, and we must not spoil them. At the same time, we must explain to them the reasons why they cannot meet them.
2. What should I do if my child cries? Ignore them.
The child was unreasonable and tried to cry to satisfy his rude demands. Parents can take appropriate neglect methods to make children feel that crying can't attract the attention of adults, thus reducing the number of times.
But in this way, parents should first reason with their children. When the children turn a blind eye to the truth, parents will take the cold treatment method to deal with it. Parents should not be moved by "tears" and be soft-hearted for a while, but meet the unreasonable demands put forward by their children, otherwise it will cause their children to be lazy again and again in the future.
3. How does the child cry? Learn to control your emotions.
Children who cry are particularly sensitive, so they are easily influenced by adults' emotions such as anxiety, tension, anger and depression. Therefore, adults should relax themselves, control their emotions and not affect their children. If the emotion has been revealed, it is best to give the child a simple explanation immediately, so as to prevent the child from constantly guessing and aggravating sensitivity. But don't transfer emotions to children, because children don't have to bear the emotions of their parents.
4. What if the child loves to cry? Encourage more and criticize less.
There should be less criticism and more praise for children, such as "It's amazing that you took off your vest yourself" and "Look at the puppy on your clothes, it would be better if it was transferred to the front". Children don't do what adults want to do, but as long as he tries his best, don't criticize him. If a child proudly tells his parents, "I washed my hands myself", parents should not rush to accuse him of "splashing water everywhere", but should encourage him to wash his hands first and then help him wipe the water off.
The reason why children love to cry
Generally speaking, children's crying is mainly divided into two aspects. On the one hand, children are born to cry, on the other hand, they are acquired habits. Some children are naturally impatient and easily troubled by trivial matters. Some children think that crying can solve all problems because of their parents' doting. Therefore, to educate children who love crying, we must first understand the reasons why children love crying.
So, how to educate crying children? Because the reasons why children cry are divided into two categories, the correct way to educate children to cry varies from person to person. First of all, parents should understand their children, don't be disgusted because they cry, try to understand them, gradually cultivate their self-esteem, and let them learn to express their feelings in words instead of crying.
Try to control your emotions when educating crying children. Parents are always children's teachers. Parents should set a good example for their children, encourage them more and scold them less. Pay attention to the way of speaking while educating children. As parents, don't always condescend. Try to distract children when they cry. Over time, the problem of children crying will gradually disappear.
The most destructive educational method for children
1, the child always laughs at him when he says rude words. This will make his vocabulary more and more indecent, and his words will make his popularity half dead
2. When children have conflicts with neighbors, teachers or others, parents will stand by their children unswervingly, which will easily make children think that everything they do is right.
Never give children spiritual and moral education, let him mix into adulthood and let him decide everything by himself.
4, the child made a mistake and didn't point it out, so the child would feel guilty. In this way, when he goes out to steal or is caught for other crimes, he will feel that the whole world is against him, but he has become a victim.
5. Clean up everything the child throws casually, and don't let the child do it himself. In this way, children will form the habit of relaxing and hating work, and they will put the blame on others whenever something happens.
6. No matter whether the books and periodicals are good or bad, let them read them by themselves, regardless of them, and don't interfere, no matter how much rubbish there is in the children's minds.
7. Parents often quarrel and swear, and they don't care if their children are present.
8. How much pocket money the child needs is given right, and no attention is paid to cultivating the child's sense of thrift.
Educational methods for children crying 2 1, understanding children's sensitivity.
Children who cry are far more sensitive than those who don't cry. Sometimes their parents speak louder, which they misinterpret as parents' accusations. Parents telling their children not to cry will only make them cry more. More often, parents should understand their children's hearts and thoughts. After knowing that your child is sensitive, try not to expect too much from the child, treat the child gently, bend down as much as possible to communicate with the child, think from the child's point of view, encourage the child to have self-confidence, cultivate the child's independent ability, and let the child gradually transition from sensitivity to self-confidence, self-improvement and self-reliance.
2. Cultivate children's independence
For some children, they rely too much on their parents or family members and know nothing about themselves, thus forming a bad habit of crying. Of course, this has something to do with parents' usual education methods. Some parents spoil their children too much, which leads to many bad habits. Parents should cultivate their children to do it themselves from an early age and develop a good habit of independence and self-improvement. Instead of full of food and clothes, such children only know how to cry when they encounter a little problem. What's the use of crying? Crying won't solve the problem. More often, parents should let their children know that crying is the behavior of the weak, and only the strong will not be eliminated by society.
3. Let the children tell their feelings.
When children encounter sad things, they will cry to express their feelings. If parents could listen to their children's feelings and put themselves in their children's shoes, they wouldn't cry so hard or even stop crying at once. However, some parents criticize their children when they cry, and don't listen to their explanations at all, nor listen to their reasons and feelings. This is the wrong way to deal with it. The more children cry, the more sad they will be, because they feel that no one understands them.
4. Don't accuse children of beating and cursing at will.
Some parents educate their children in the way that they can't fight. Play a little every three days, and play a little every five days. The child is either crying or hurt all over. This kind of education is not desirable. Domestic violence not only harms children's health, but also their mental health. Therefore, parents must not start work on their children, but encourage them more, communicate with them more, tell them something well, and correctly guide them to get rid of the habit of crying, instead of beating and cursing at will.
5. Parents lead by example.
Parents always tell their children to be friendly children, speak politely and learn to help others. But children are actually more inclined to observe what is happening around them to learn from experience, especially when they are babies.
Therefore, to be a parent, we must first be a friendly and kind person in words and actions. Be patient in everything. Practice helping others, whether at home or in the community. At home, we should focus on increasing positive interaction rather than correcting wrong words and deeds.
6. Play with your children more.
Games are children's language, a way for them to establish relationships, understand the world and express their feelings. However, many children usually lack enough time to play casually.
It is important to give children enough time to play, and it is equally important to play with children. If your children invite you to play together, you should accept the invitation as much as possible, because that is a sign that your children value your relationship.
7. Building trust
In a trusting relationship, children are more likely to show kindness and help others. For many people, being a parent is like an endless to-do list. No matter how old a child is or at what stage of his life, parents always need to do more for their children.
If there is anything to emphasize on these matters, what I want to say is that sometimes parents should slow down and spend more time on building relationships. Children need to play with their parents, brothers and sisters to experience every wonderful moment of life.