In today's society, there is nothing wrong with many parents putting discipline together. But for adolescent children, he feels that he is an adult and knows what is right and wrong, so she is most afraid of adults telling him what to do, so sometimes this happens, and parents have done nothing right. What should they do in this case? 1. Parents use leading language, which is especially good. In fact, instruction contains hints. As parents, we must know the function of hints. The first person who knows how to hint is himself. In fact, the guide is like a positive hint. It is a kind of affirmation in disguise, if we trust children, if we allow them to make mistakes, or if we believe that one day children will become adults or be stronger than us. This is all a hint and guidance, because when we want to guide our children, we must first change ourselves. Because only by changing our own thinking can we guide children, and we will design guiding languages.

2. Positive instruction language contains positive aspects. Since it is to guide us to guide our children to positive people, then this guidance must be positive, or it must contain a lot of affirmation and praise. But for many parents, it is difficult to do this because it requires flexibility. Many parents will only affirm praise, and many parents will only criticize criticism. When it is affirmed, they will affirm their children and criticize their children when it is criticized. This is what parents should do, and children can appreciate their parents' good intentions. Otherwise, if the child makes a mistake, you will definitely praise it. Then children will not take your affirmation and praise seriously. He thinks that my parents praise for the sake of praise, and I'm really not that good. Or he may think that I made a mistake and my parents praised me. Such parents are irresponsible.

3. So parents can only be leaders. If parents overprotect and interfere with their children, then children will be rebellious, and adolescent children will not be like when they were young. At an early age, children only like the affirmation and praise of their parents, but adolescent children need the affirmation and praise of teachers and classmates, and this parent is powerless. This involves a question of self-discipline. We want children to do it, and parents do it first. Only in this way can words and deeds have educational significance. Many parents are very lenient with themselves and very strict with their children. This will form a double standard, which is what children hate most. On the one hand, parents say that watching TV is not good, and children are not allowed to watch TV. Parents themselves have been watching TV. On the one hand, parents say it is not good to play with mobile phones, but parents never leave their mobile phones, which will make children feel that their parents are hypocritical. A leader or guide must set an example, otherwise the leader will lose his role and become a preacher. No matter how beautiful the words are, they are also a kind of nagging and kidnapping in disguise.