In fact, Fu Lei in this letter from home is a father who often uses violence against his children and has a strong desire for control. It's not worth imitating for his parents. In fact, it is often the filial son under the stick.
First, violence is often used against children.
Fu Lei is serious and irritable. Reflected in the education of Fu Cong and Fu Min brothers, it is often called "stick tutor".
Fu Cong once talked about the origin of the scar on his nose:
"At the age of five, once, he (Fu Lei) was eating peanuts and I was writing. I don't know why, but he is angry. One of them was unhappy. He picked up the plate and fell down. He hit me at once, and immediately bled profusely and was taken to the hospital. "
When my son is practicing the piano, Fu Lei's supervision method is also terrible:
"I'm practicing the piano and watching the Water Margin! That's it. This is the score of the piano, so I practiced it automatically (playing the piano demonstration). Suddenly I took a sip from my back, just like the one described in Water Margin. My father walked silently and suddenly walked behind, beaten to death! "
Fu Min, the second son, has a similar memory of his father's stick:
"When I was a child, my father beat us, and my father had this characteristic. The more you cry, the more he hits us. I really hate it. "
Violence and irritability towards children can also be seen in friends' memories of Fu Lei. Jiang Yang visited the Fu family with Qian Zhongshu and others. Fu Cong and Fu Min overheard the adults chatting by the stairs. Fu Lei "yelled at them, and the two children fled upstairs in Deng Deng's messy footsteps." Fu Lei's wife Zhu Meifu quickly came to persuade them. After a while, Fu Lei found that they were still eavesdropping, so a bolt from the blue:
"Listen to Fu Lei harsh voice ah drink, mixed with MeiFu mediation and blame; One child thought he was crying, and the other wanted to defend himself. None of us dared to persuade, but pretended not to know and sat and talked. Fu Lei returned to the living room, turning blue with anger. "
For this kind of "bonzi tutor", Fu Lei later felt inappropriate. The first letter included in Fu Lei's letter is that Fu Lei expressed regret to Fu Cong:
"Son, I abused you, I will always be sorry for you, and I will never atone for this sin! These thoughts have never left my mind all day, but I dare not tell my mother. "