I have to get up and find him a textbook to send to school.
The teacher made a helpless expression: the child is careless.
Yes!
Children often lose things, either leaving their textbooks at home or not bringing their homework back.
The same is true at home, where the slippers go and where the toys are thrown, and finally I can't find them, so I have to help him find them together.
"Mom, where are my things? Please help me find it ... "
I can hear similar words every day.
Sometimes he is in a hurry, and when he can't find it, he starts to make trouble, which is very annoying.
I asked him to find it himself. I stopped looking for it for the time being, and then I continued to talk. I have to rest assured of what I am doing and help him look at it.
But every time I look for it, I don't know where it is and I can't find it.
In the end, I scolded him while forbearing irritability, and found him as soon as possible.
Always doing the aftermath for the children, I am so tired!
Isn't there a way once and for all?
Until chatting with friends:
"You worry too much. Children don't even have to think about it. You are enough. "
Wake up the dreamer in one sentence!
Children always lose things carelessly, probably because of my meticulous parents.
Say I'm a little confused, and I won't admit it.
It just never occurred to me that I was used to worrying about my children, but I accidentally raised a baby who didn't worry about anything.
I'm sure I'm not the only parent who "doesn't worry about anything" to raise her baby.
A friend said that his children are the same. They are still careless in the second day of junior high school, and they either lose this or that every day.
No matter what I do, I never want to solve it myself
Now that the second child has grown up, he made the child independent early, so he won't call his parents if he can solve it himself.
There are two children at home, and the pit stepped by the boss can stop the loss on the second child in time. What about the one with only one child at home?
Never realize what the problem is, because there are adults here.
A middle school in Hangzhou held such a competition:
Let freshmen tie their shoes and fold clothes in the competition.
Originally, I thought junior high school students should have it easily in the face of such competition. Unexpectedly, 30% of my classmates can't even tie their shoelaces.
A student couldn't tie the untied shoelaces again, so he had to ask the teacher for help.
Everyone else has finished playing, but his shoelaces are still in a mess, and many places are tied.
Other children can't fold quilts. After the game time, the quilt was still not folded, so they had to give up the game.
Is this life skill difficult? It's not difficult.
The study found that these students who can't tie shoelaces and fold clothes are not unable to learn, but have never done it themselves at home, and their parents have never let them learn.
Dale Carnegie said:
"In order to live in peace in the future, children must learn to remove obstacles and solve problems when they grow up.
These processes are all completed in family education. "
Parents take care of their children very closely, as if giving them 100% care. In fact, it is also a disguised form that makes them dependent.
Parents do everything for them and enjoy success with their children.
Remember a story:
You didn't teach him to tie his shoelaces when he was 8 years old, but he learned it when he was 18 years old.
You can live by yourself, but you can only tie your shoelaces.
Taking care of children, children will never learn to stand on their own feet.
When he can finally take care of himself, life will have new challenges.
There was once a doctor who returned to China for seven years and had no job. He stays up late playing games at night and sleeps during the day, all supported by his mother.
In desperation, the mother took her son to court, hoping that his son could support himself.
But what if you win? There is no law that can force a son to work.
The elderly mother is remorseful: I didn't educate my child well, I gave him ready-made food since I was a child, and I used him like this.
Every giant baby has arranged parents.
It seems that you are heartbroken for your child, but I didn't expect that everything you do for your child is what the child needs to learn in the future.
Maybe some parents want to ask:
I know everything you say, but the child can't do it himself. Do parents watch without help?
Never underestimate children!
There is a 2-year-old girl in Shanghai who was left in the car by her parents.
The police who came to the rescue saw the child holding a spare key in his hand and gestured to pass the lathe. The child successfully opened the door under the guidance of the police.
The comment area praised the girl as "calm and smart". After all, the child is only two years old.
Many parents are used to arranging everything for their children, except that they don't trust and don't believe.
Actually? Give the child a chance, and he will give us many surprises.
Remembering that the child couldn't find the last textbook, his reaction was to ask the teacher.
But I don't think it's good to ask the teacher. Let him look in the drawer when he goes to school tomorrow.
If not, ask your deskmate if he took the wrong book.
If not, ask the teacher for help again.
The child is timid. I'm afraid he can't find the book and he's too embarrassed to find a teacher.
As a result, I came home from school at night and found the book, which was in my deskmate's schoolbag. He asked on his own initiative, not the teacher.
The teacher came back and told me that the child specially told the teacher: The book has been found, so don't disturb the teacher.
It turns out that children have grown up quietly!
I underestimated the ability of children to solve problems by themselves.
We always feel that the child is still young, and we always feel that he can't solve it by himself and dare not let him do it by himself.
In fact, children have their own ways to solve problems.
The more useless you are, the more useful you are.
Give the child more opportunities to deal with problems, and he will naturally learn.
Even if it is not perfect at first, he can slowly find a way to get along with the world in practice.
Parents' beloved son has a far-reaching influence.
If you can take care of your child for a lifetime, I believe many parents will not refuse.
But in fact, we really have few opportunities to accompany our children.
Chinese-American education expert Dr. Hua Yun said:
"Love children and pets are different. Precious objects or pets should stay with you for you to enjoy.
But loving children means letting them leave us one day and always preparing for their departure. "
Our love for a child is not to take care of him all his life.
But let him live as an independent person and be independent as soon as possible.