In today's quality education reform, how to give full play to the main role of students and the leading role of teachers; How to arouse students' enthusiasm; How to better carry out creative education; New requirements are put forward for our teachers. Modern teaching theory points out that the teaching process is a process of communication, benign interaction and common development between teachers and students. Whether the communication between teachers and students is beneficial to students' development is the premise and guarantee for the teaching process to run according to the new curriculum standards. The essential attribute of communication is subjectivity. Communication theory holds that teachers and students are both subjects in the teaching process and people with independent personality values. They are completely equal in personality, that is, there is only equality in value between teachers and students, and there is no distinction between high and low, strong and weak. The relationship between teachers and students is an equal, understanding and two-way interpersonal relationship. The most basic form and way to establish and characterize this relationship is communication. Without communication, the relationship between teachers and students is only external, not the real source of educational strength, or even the resistance of education. In the traditional interpersonal relationship between teachers and students, students' subjectivity is denied, students' subjective initiative is ignored, and the role and influence of external environment and power on students are emphasized, and students are regarded as passive carriers to accept knowledge. Such a teacher-student relationship and outlook on students are not conducive to the development of students' creativity and personality, nor to the cultivation of students' good personality, and hinder the development of education and teaching. Therefore, it is an important task for educators to rebuild the humanistic, harmonious, democratic and equal relationship between teachers and students through communication. In this teacher-student relationship, students experience equality, freedom, democracy, respect, trust, friendliness, understanding, tolerance, affection and care, and are encouraged, urged, encouraged, influenced, summoned, guided and advised at the same time, forming a positive and rich attitude towards life and emotional experience. In the Chinese Curriculum Standard (experimental draft), the requirements of this new view of students can be seen everywhere. For example, the first point in the preface to the first part of Chinese Curriculum Standards clearly points out that Chinese curriculum should also pay attention to improving students' moral cultivation and aesthetic taste, so that they can gradually develop good personality and sound personality, and promote the harmonious development of morality, intelligence, physique and beauty. Second, students are the main body of learning and development. Chinese curriculum must be based on the characteristics of students' physical and mental development and Chinese learning, pay attention to students' individual differences and different learning needs, cherish students' curiosity and thirst for knowledge, fully stimulate students' initiative and enterprising spirit, and advocate independent, cooperative and inquiry learning methods. The determination of teaching content, the choice of teaching methods and the design of evaluation methods will all contribute to the formation of this learning method. If education and teaching activities are not based on the premise of building a humane, harmonious, democratic and equal relationship between teachers and students, how can students form a sound personality, achieve harmonious development and reflect their initiative? Therefore, building a humanistic, harmonious, democratic and equal teacher-student relationship is the basis for our frontline workers (teachers) to implement the new curriculum standards. Teachers don't trust students' ability, and dare not let students be the masters and do everything instead, which is very common in the past teaching reality. These are the main factors that hinder the implementation of students' dominant position. To truly implement students' dominant position and build a new relationship between teachers and students, teachers should first change their old ideas and autocratic work style ideologically. We should also affirm the transformation of teachers' role orientation, from bishop in teaching to chief in equality, from imparting traditional knowledge to promoter of modern students' development. All the above should be implemented everywhere in the actual education and teaching process. The most fundamental thing is to establish a correct view of students. Students are human beings and developing people. Students are not a blank piece of paper without thoughts, nor are they empty containers for water, nor are they photocopiers or microphones. He is a man, a man of development. Every student has his own unique inner world, spiritual life and inner feelings, and has different ways of observing, thinking and solving problems from adults.

As the most basic interpersonal relationship in school life, the relationship between teachers and students is not only the main psychological background of school work, but also directly affects the effect of education and teaching, and is the most direct way of communication between teachers and students. It has a great influence on the development of teaching activities and quality education. As an integral part of students' learning environment and growth atmosphere, the relationship between teachers and students has a comprehensive and profound impact on students.

(1) Happy and warm words warm people's hearts.

Respect students and don't say anything that insults their personality under any circumstances. When students make mistakes, especially serious mistakes, some teachers often make irresponsible remarks in a rage, accompanied by insulting actions, which leads some students (especially senior students) to have rebellious psychology and even refute and overreact. Therefore, teachers must be calm, calm, calm, rational, rational and rational when talking with students. Only when you appear in front of students with a calm attitude and the image of civilized speech will you convince them that you are sincerely educating him and helping him solve problems. Respect for students is also reflected in: don't assign a lot of mechanical repetitive homework, otherwise students will resent it and it is not conducive to cultivating students' interest in learning. Respect for students, sincerity is the most important thing, and respect for every student. 2.

Talk about things, don't turn over old scores. Some teachers have a very good memory, and they can remember the mistakes made by students clearly, and when students make mistakes, they can take them all out at one breath and calculate new and old accounts together. But the result is often that the more you calculate, the angrier you get, and the students feel humiliated. They are not only unconvinced, but also have broken cans and broken falls. Therefore, when dealing with problems, teachers must pay attention to the facts and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings. 3.

A pleasant face and a kind and natural tone. You should pay attention to this when you talk to all your classmates. I have heard many students complain that teachers are very kind and affectionate when talking to those students with good academic performance, and they always keep a straight face and don't get angry with us students with poor academic performance, as if they are all right and we are all wrong. I'm bored to death! Students are not deceiving, as the saying goes: fingers are long and short, not to mention people. Even if the curriculum reform is carried out, even if each student's personality and specialty have been developed and publicized, the difference of individual students' grades is still inevitable. For us educators, no matter what we can achieve in the future, we are all completely equal to you. People with independent personal dignity are not slaves, punching bags or doormats. As educators, we have no right to yell at him. We only have true feelings, care about him, treat him fairly, carefully guide him to find wisdom, and let students deeply realize that the teacher likes me and respects me! 4.

Be brave in apologizing and taking responsibility. No one is perfect, and no one in the world can do things right under any circumstances, and teachers are no exception. However, some teachers know that they are wrong, but they always refuse to apologize for fear of affecting their image in the eyes of students and try their best to cover it up. In fact, this will only make students more disgusted, even if they don't say it, they won't be convinced. Because in essence, you have become their negative teaching material, and you are teaching them how to cover up their mistakes and evade their responsibilities. On the contrary, a sincere apology and thanks remind me that daring to take responsibility can not only narrow the distance between teachers and students, but also help to cultivate a more responsible next generation.

(B) update the concept of teachers and students, re-adjust the role orientation.

Establishing a new view of teachers and students and readjusting the role orientation are the premise and foundation for establishing a new and good emotional relationship between teachers and students. Without this premise and foundation, the established emotional relationship between teachers and students will definitely be water without a source and a tree without a root. According to the requirements of the new curriculum, the role of teachers is not only to impart knowledge, but also to cultivate students' learning ability, guide students' lives, and be collaborators and organizers of students' learning. Students are no longer recipients of knowledge, but lively people, developed people and dignified people. Teachers' duty is to promote, cultivate and guide students' all-round and healthy development. In personality, teachers and students are completely equal and should respect each other. However, influenced by the dignity of traditional teachers, many educators still can't let go of this shelf. For example, please, thank you and sorry are the most common polite expressions we teach our students. As teachers, we should often use them, but many teachers think we should be so polite to our students. In fact, the teacher hasn't put his position right, and he doesn't regard the students as equals with himself.

(3) Be meticulous and see the truth in silence.

The meticulous care mentioned here is by no means a nanny arrangement, but a teacher's heartfelt care and love for his students. It is a gentle reminder to pay attention to changing clothes when the weather changes suddenly; It is an umbrella silently handed over in rainy days; It is to give them a cherished look when they are carefully dressed and scratched; It is their eyes full of encouragement and expectation when they encounter difficulties; It is when they pass by in class that they seem to bend down and gently pick up pens and paper for them. As long as they really pay, they have their own hearts to meet.

The establishment and cultivation of a good teacher-student relationship can't be achieved overnight. It requires the sincere efforts of both teachers and students, especially teachers. Without love, there is no education. Let's cultivate a new good teacher-student relationship with love and truth.