They use the present point of view to imagine and define the future competition between children, but forget the ever-changing times.

What matters is not how much knowledge you instill in your child's mind, but to provide him with a safe environment and rich resources so that he can learn how to learn.

After all, children are not only fighting for the college entrance examination, but also a lifelong learner. There is a lot of knowledge and new technology that he needs to master and apply in the future.

Too many chickens and babies make children lose their spirit of exploration and their desire for new knowledge prematurely, which is not worth the candle.

Alison Gopnik, a top psychologist who is considered to know children's learning best and an internationally recognized leader in children's learning and development research, is the first psychologist who deeply analyzes philosophical issues from the perspective of children's consciousness.

In the book Gardeners and Carpenters, she mentioned two different parenting models:

Excellent gardeners are committed to creating fertile soil to maintain the whole ecosystem. Different plants have different advantages and aesthetic feelings, but they also have different weaknesses and growth difficulties. Unlike chairs, a good garden will change constantly because it is adapting to the changing weather and seasonal environment.

In the education mode, parents are like carpenters, so you should pay attention to what kind of materials you use, which may have an impact on what you want to do. But basically, your job is to shape these materials into the final product to meet your original plan. You can evaluate how good your work is by looking at the finished product. It's just not a specific type of product, such as chairs, but a specific type of people.

Gardeners and carpenters are two different occupations, representing different parenting models.

The gardener made the garden what it should be. Carpenters beat the wood into the shape they want.

The gardener's parents support genetic determinism and the carpenter's parents support environmental determinism.

In real life, gardener-type parents are likely to support the anti-chicken baby, and carpenter-type parents are likely to make unremitting progress on the road of chicken baby.

Alison Gopnik advocated that parents should be gardeners rather than carpenters in Gardeners and Carpenters, because:

It is futile to carve children carefully. It is undoubtedly important to teach children explicitly or implicitly, but from the perspective of evolution, it is futile to try to consciously shape children into a certain shape, and it will also produce a strong sense of self-frustration.

Even if human beings can accurately shape children's behavior to adapt to their own goals and ideals, it will be counterproductive.

It is impossible for us to know in advance what unprecedented challenges the future children will face.

Shaping them in our own way or our ideal way now may make them unable to adapt to future changes.

Many of our adaptations to the past environment, such as our love for sugar and animal fat, are not helpful in our present environment.

Adapting to change itself is more important than ever.

The ability to learn flexibly, adapt to the new environment and change the social structure is more important than ever.

Looking at the future education trend, the "chicken baby" education that is eager for quick success and instant benefit is more like pulling out the seedlings to encourage them.

A good education should keep pace with the growth of children.

Raising children is the most basic, profound and precious part of human engineering.

This is not a carpenter's job. Carve a child according to a clear appearance, which is an oath.

On the contrary, being a parent is like planting flowers in a garden. The purpose is to provide a nutritious, safe and stable environment for all kinds of flowers to thrive. It aims to provide children with a healthy, powerful and diverse ecosystem, so that they can create their own future with unlimited possibilities.

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