Children's early education is very good, and they have read many books since childhood. They are very clever. When they were in kindergarten, they could already watch the children's version of Romance of the Three Kingdoms by themselves. What impressed me most when he was a child was his very good memory. When he was about three or four years old, I read him a four-character poem, only twice. He can recite it word for word without any explanation. He has a good understanding ability. No matter what he learns, he can teach it as soon as he teaches it. His father watches the news broadcast every day, and occasionally he can accurately name more than a dozen countries and their majors by following it. When he entered the first grade of primary school, the school organized an IQ test. Among more than 200 students in the whole grade, he is the first. Any teacher wanted such a child, and was later "robbed" by the grade leader into her class.

The monitor is a very strict teacher and demands a lot of students. After the child entered the monitor's class, it was not as ideal as the teacher expected. According to the teacher, he doesn't pay attention to lectures in class, likes to chat with classmates around him, and secretly takes novels to school to read; Don't answer questions actively, but don't raise your hand when you know the answer; There are often mistakes in homework. In the exam, he finished it before the other half of the students finished it. He didn't check this paper carefully, but drew tanks and little people on the back of the paper ... In short, since he entered school, teachers have found children's problems almost every day, and often called their mothers to complain, even criticizing them at parent-teacher conferences, explaining that the better students should be strict. The mother of the child is very competitive and loves face. As soon as she received the teacher's complaint, she went home to criticize the child. The criticism was ineffective. She hit the child several times. I once told his mother that the child didn't pay attention to the class because the teacher's lecture was not attractive, or the content was too simple for him. He only needs 10% attention to learn those contents. Can he negotiate with the teacher, so as long as it doesn't affect the classroom discipline, he won't be allowed to read novels in class? As for his minor faults, such as not raising his hand to check papers in class, perhaps it is because he is too talented to do these things. It doesn't matter. As long as it does not harm his interests, these problems will naturally be solved slowly with the passage of time. Stop criticizing children. It is best to leave them alone. His mother hates me for saying this, and thinks that good study habits should be cultivated from an early age. Others often 100, but he didn't pass it once. At this rate, can he be admitted to a good university in the future?

In order to control the children's bad habits of speaking, the teacher took out the children's desks separately and put them on the podium. Once, the whole class was asked not to say a word to the children for a month.

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"Don't let Newton become a cow" (). His mother not only approved the teacher to do this, but also paid close attention to the "good habits" of the children after they came home. It is stipulated that he must read after finishing his homework, and his homework must be checked. Once he made a mistake and was fined for writing three times. The children soon got tired of studying. They are afraid to go to school in the morning, and they are lazy to go home and do their homework at night. They often stare blankly or play with things at hand, such as pens and erasers. They can finish their homework in half an hour, and have no time to play and read books, so there are more conflicts with their parents and teachers.

In primary school for several years, due to the criticism and disappointment of parents and teachers, children's good habits have not been developed. On the contrary, they are going downhill in all aspects. From top to bottom, their grades have become extremely inferior, they dare not look into others' eyes, avoid all collective activities, and have a bad temper. By the time he graduated from primary school, all teachers and classmates knew that the child was a "poor student" in his studies, and no one remembered his situation when he entered school. His head teacher, the grade head, actually looked for his parents before the junior high school exam, hoping that their children would change classes or repeat their studies, probably because they were worried about affecting her class's exam ranking. This request made the child's mother very angry, said nothing in front of the teacher, and went home to scold the child. She doesn't seem to realize how the child got here day by day.

In the years of middle school, children have been criticized and disappointed by their parents and teachers. I once heard a Chinese teacher who taught him say that he felt the child was quite strange and called him stupid. Sometimes in class, students can't answer questions, but he can answer them, saying that he is not stupid, and his grades are counting down in almost every exam. Teachers pay attention to grades and are busy improving students' grades. No one will devote their energy to studying the "strange phenomenon" of a poor student. That's what the teacher said.

I know that this child barely reached the undergraduate level in the college entrance examination. His mother can't stand the fact that her child only went to a poor two colleges and asked her to make up lessons. As a result, she did worse in the next year's exam, and her mother had to let her children make up lessons. Many of us were worried that our children would have a psychological collapse if they went to the remedial class for another year, so we persuaded them in many ways and finally made him change his mind and let him go to the vocational college. After the child graduated, his mother used her connections to find him a job, let him get a bachelor's degree through the self-study exam, and later took the postgraduate exam and signed him up. However, the child has been unable to pass all the courses and finally failed. Only then did his mother finally give in, saying that she would let him go, saying "let him go", and her tone was full of disappointment and condemnation.

I once met this child at a friend's house. At that time, he had been working for two or three years, and he still looked very unconfident. I talked a few words and mentioned that he had an excellent IQ when he was a child. I hope he knows he's not stupid at all. The child was surprised and a little unhappy, as if he had been framed, and immediately denied that he had won the first place in the IQ test because the problem at that time was particularly simple. I'm not surprised at his reaction. If a person has so little confidence in himself, then he really has no confidence.

This kind of genius has become mediocre, happening all the time, quietly, normally and calmly, so that many people simply don't realize how it started, how it existed and how it had an impact.