Having a good book is like standing on the top of the mountain watching the scenery, which is infinitely beautiful. When I finished reading the book Different Parents, I really benefited a lot! There are no flowery words in the book, the language is simple, the story is vivid, and the lines are full of true feelings and love. Putting down the book, the contents still keep pounding me like waves, which makes me think deeply and makes me feel that education (especially family education) has many wrong ideas and methods. These educational misunderstandings are also common around us. I really hope that parents in China will study and let our children live happily, grow up healthily, become adults and benefit the motherland!

The author of this book is Isabella Chow, a well-known pioneer of appreciation education in China. His concept of appreciation education has caused a sensation throughout the country. Teacher Isabella Chow trained his deaf-mute daughter to be a doctor in a unique way. He told us with 20 years of personal experience that even if the whole world looks down on your child, parents should admire him, hug him, praise him with tears and be proud of the life they created. This is Isabella Chow's appreciation education. "The secret of appreciation education is to awaken the' good boy' in every child's heart."

Nutrition that satisfies crops is the best nutrition, goods that satisfy customers are the best goods, and the method that students are most willing to accept is the best education method. As a teacher, I should not only be a parent in another way, but also be a teacher in another way!

I have finished reading this book, but a few words are deeply imprinted in my heart.

The first word-"communication"

Communication is human instinct, and no one likes to lock himself up. When I was young, my children trusted their parents and were willing to tell them everything. Gradually, children feel that their parents are no longer so reasonable, and they always use learning to put pressure on them, using the reason that they can't touch or hear cocoons. If a child predicts that telling his parents something will have such an ending, he will choose not to mention it, hide his happiness and unhappiness in his heart, or tell others. Children can't find the happiness of communication in front of their parents, so communication can't be smooth. The sadness of many parents is that they love their children in their hearts, but they don't know what their children are thinking and want.

Teachers need communication skills if they want to teach children. The premise of communication is equality. To make children accept your point of view, they must accept you and trust you, which requires equality. Only when they are equal will they have respect. Respect in communication means listening, and educators should let children feel that you respect him and care about him. Listening carefully to each other's confidence is the best embodiment of respecting others. Parents and teachers should put down their airs, make more friends with their children, chat with their children, listen to their thoughts and understand their inner world.

The second word-"tolerance"

Education should be geared to all, and "appreciation education" should take care of every student. Especially those students who have shortcomings in one way or another need more care and respect, and are more eager to be appreciated by all sides. Teachers must maintain "unconditional care" for students, because it is very important for children to be cared for in interpersonal relationships such as warmth, love, sympathy, care and respect to form their self-concept. This includes teachers' unconditional love for students and teachers' high tolerance for students.

The so-called "unconditional love" means that no matter what kind of students are and how well they learn, teachers should give them care and love, not dislike and indifference; The so-called "tolerance" means that when students have problems or mistakes of one kind or another, teachers should be tolerant, patiently expect and help them reflect and make progress.

Learn to tolerate students' mistakes. The process of children's growth is a process of making mistakes. Growing up in mistakes requires giving children a fault-tolerant space. Whatever the reason, tolerance is indispensable. Teacher Isabella Chow advocates treating his children with a "budding mentality". Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. "If every parent regards a child's weakness as a bud, corrects it, tolerates it, appreciates the blooming flowers with joyful eyes, and appreciates the late bud with expectant eyes, then your child will definitely have a wonderful life."

The third word-"motivation"

Napoleon's soldiers, even those who came last, believed that they were born to be generals, so his army could March forward and conquer the European continent. Incentives, like farmers fertilizing crops, will increase good harvests. Always say "great, you are great!" "You are so worth learning!" "You are amazing!" "I'm glad you have made such progress!" It will make students feel a sense of accomplishment and feel the teacher's personal care and recognition, which is what students need more than praise. Give children a "good" world and help them build self-confidence. With confidence, they will have the strength to challenge tomorrow. Every student has a lovely side. Parents and teachers should have a pair of eyes that are good at "discovering", tap students' bright spots, and fully develop students' personalities and specialties through verbal encouragement. Sometimes, a look of approval and a word of appreciation from parents and teachers are powerful motivation for students. Every student wants to show the good side to parents and teachers, and the "appreciation" of parents and teachers is the starting point for every student eager for progress to regain confidence and succeed. Teachers' praise and encouragement are appreciation of students, recognition of them, and confidence and courage to make them take the first step to success. Appreciation, praise and encouragement are the wings to help children fly to the other side of success.

The fourth word-"expectation"

When students make progress, what they need is recognition and appreciation; What students need to give when they are wronged is comfort; When students make mistakes, they need tolerance; Teachers' encouragement when students encounter setbacks. A sentence "You can do it" can help students rebuild their self-confidence. At this time, the teacher's expectant eyes may inspire students' courage to overcome difficulties.

Most students with poor grades are caused by poor self-control, that is, they also have normal right and wrong ideas in their hearts, but severe criticism will make them rebellious and bury the right and wrong ideas deeper. At this time, the change from criticism to expectation will make education get rid of this helplessness. Most students who make mistakes have a vague sense of guilt about their mistakes. At this time, after clearly pointing out the harmfulness of his mistakes, the teacher turns criticism into expectations, such as "I hope you will do well next time", "Don't mention the past, you will definitely change it later" and "I understand you". In fact, these words contain more understanding and more encouragement. This is a kind of tolerance, trust and care for students, and it is also an opportunity for students to correct. This attitude of the teacher will make students take the initiative to reflect on their mistakes, thus strengthening their determination to correct them. At the same time, preventing students from making mistakes in the past and turning criticism of the past into expectations for the future can also help students unload their ideological burdens, cherish the opportunities given by teachers and reflect teachers' humanistic care. Therefore, from a certain point of view, the effect of criticism is temporary, but the expected effect is long-term, because after criticism, students will feel relieved and no longer have goals, and the expectation of teachers will always give students a sense of responsibility: live up to the expectations and trust of teachers.

Properly turning praise into appreciation and criticism into expectation can better reflect teachers' educational art, make it easier for students to understand and accept it, and make our educational effect more obvious.

Appreciation education is the education that parents teach their children to talk and learn to walk. Appreciation education is an education that recognizes differences, allows failure and conforms to the law of life growth; Appreciation education is a kind of education that dissolves children's knots and makes them have a home in their hearts; Appreciation education is an education that awakens parents all over the world and allows parents to obtain certificates; Appreciation education is to let children learn to appreciate the world and form good thinking habits; Appreciation education is to let children learn to be happy and bring happiness to others; Appreciation education is to let children learn to live in harmony with others and learn to be a man.

The power of appreciation is like sunshine, shining everywhere. Looking at children with appreciation is the best gift for teachers to give children. They will always be children's appreciators, affirm their success, cultivate their interest and self-confidence, and appreciate their talents. I believe that children will be smarter, more confident and more successful.