Why is this happening? There is a great gender difference between men and women. The more fathers participate, the more they can make up for the deficiency of mothers and the bias of women's education.
Mothers influence their children with women's unique delicate feelings, careful work and gentle personality, and give them a lot of care and care by telling stories, teaching singing and playing with toys, which are indispensable. The lack of male education often makes children show the characteristics of sentimentality, cowardice, timidity, loneliness and inferiority. Male education just makes up for these shortcomings.
Men are often tough, bold, decisive, confident, bold and independent, which are slightly weak for women, showing the irreplaceable role of male education.
What are the benefits of dad taking care of the children?
First of all, dad is more knowledgeable than mom about how to educate children. Most mothers have high expectations for their children, but in actual education, mothers often appear unplanned. But fathers who prefer to take care of their children at home have a stronger purpose in educating their children. What qualities and talents the father wants to cultivate and develop are generally planned in his mind, while the mother is worse in this respect.
Secondly, in terms of educational content.
Father's knowledge is also relatively wider than mother's, and father is often better than mother in history, geography and philosophy. Therefore, fathers tell their children more historical stories, local customs and heroes. Mothers usually tell fairy tales to their children, which involve less history, geography and philosophy. This is a bit inferior in broadening children's horizons and enriching their knowledge.
Third, the way of education.
Fathers generally encourage children to do things by themselves, while mothers prefer to help children do what they can; Fathers' unreasonable demands on their children are generally tough, while mothers tend to be soft-hearted. The father took the children to the streets, seeing more things and eating less snacks; When the mother took her children to the streets, she didn't see much and ate a lot of snacks.
Fourth, physical quality.
●? Don't keep it clean: Therefore, children often support playing with dirt and digging sand. British scientists have found that children who are too clean are not good for their health. Their research conclusion is that "dirty" children are healthier. This is because if people are too clean, they rarely come into contact with bacteria and viruses, and they can't produce antibodies in their bodies. Once a large number of germs invade, they will be knocked down. Therefore, "spotless" is not good for children's growth. It seems that men's relaxed attitude towards children's health problems will help children's growth.
●? Exercise: I like to take my children to run, swim, rock climb and play ball, which not only develops children's exercise habits, but also is beneficial to their health and invisibly exercises their willpower.
Fifth, the cultivation of character.
Mothers always want to protect their children from any harm. They don't let children take part in activities that are a little dangerous. They are always worried that their children will accidentally touch, fall and get tired. They make children weaker and more timid, but their fathers are different.
● Self-reliance: Men like the feeling of self-reliance, so they will educate their children to be self-reliant. Fathers often encourage their children to deal with problems independently, instead of doing everything for them, so there are fewer ingredients to spoil their children. Sometimes when a child falls and doesn't cry, the mother quickly lifts the child up, patting the soil and rubbing it, just to rub the child's tears out. Fathers are often not like this. They will say: Why don't you pay attention when you walk? Stand up and walk forward. I believe I will be successful this time. The child didn't cry, but stood up and walked forward. Father clapped his hands behind him and said, How brave! How brave! Let the children be confident.
●? Dare to take risks: men like to take risks, so fathers will give appropriate encouragement to their children's adventurous behavior. If a child jumps off a high platform, the mother will often criticize him severely, while the father will not. He will give a thumbs-up and say to the children, Great!
●? Exploration spirit: Men like to explore, and when they are with children, they often carry out exploratory activities. The mother often scolds the child if he takes the toy apart. However, fathers often disagree, and even open toys with their children to satisfy their curiosity, and then teach him to put them away. In addition, fathers are more interested in new things, which will also stimulate children's interest in new things. Men generally prefer to play chess, and often play checkers, military chess, chess and Go with their children, which can cultivate children's logical thinking ability.
●? Hands-on ability: Compared with the mother asking the children to do housework, that is, sweep the floor and clean the table, the father prefers to handle equipment-repair things with tools such as hammers and knives, make toys, and cultivate children's hands-on ability in many aspects.
●? Endurance: such as difficulty, hunger and fatigue. I think these are all necessary experiences in life and children should be allowed to overcome these difficulties by themselves. Such bad stimulation is very beneficial to children's growth.
It is good for fathers to take care of children, but in many families, the role of fathers is missing. There is an interesting phenomenon that most of the visitors who do family education consultation are mothers, which shows that there may be a phenomenon of "Yin flourishes while Yang declines" in educating children. In family education in China, 50% are mothers, 20% are fathers, and 30% are equally divided. Many fathers put the responsibility of educating their babies on their mothers and hide themselves from leisure. Actually, this is not good. When asked about the reasons why some fathers quit family education, some replied: they are too busy at work to take care of their children; Some people say that they have a bad temper and can't be angry with children ... it seems that there are all reasons. In fact, they all forgot the old saying, "It's your father's fault not to teach". Without male education, children's personality, emotion, will and way of thinking will be affected to some extent. Our children have received enough maternal education now, and most of them were fed and cared for by their mothers when they were babies. Kindergartens are all educated by female teachers; Primary and secondary schools mainly focus on female teacher education; The lack of male education often makes children show the characteristics of sentimentality, cowardice, timidity, loneliness and inferiority. The absence of the father makes it difficult to make up for the child's personality defects in time. When the child needs the guidance of his father, he pushes the child to the helpless mother. In the long run, if the baby feels that his father is irresponsible to him and doesn't ask his father for advice, his prestige will be lower and lower, and the child's personality defects will become more and more difficult to make up. Father is lazy for a while, hiding for a while, but he is afraid of regretting for a lifetime.
At this point, the author thinks that in the first "Big House Gate", I gave birth to a son with my wife for seven nights and named it Bai. When the father is a little strict with his children, Huang Chun, the mother, always takes care of them too much, always saying that "the children are still young" and can't bear to punish them. I can't think of a way to discipline myself, just conniving, so I let the children escape. Bai grew up weak and disappointing, completely different from his father. Maybe that's why. Both parents should not spoil and be too autocratic, but be human and principled, which is appropriate. Moreover, both parents should come up with a unified set of principles and unswervingly implement them.
Father loves mountains, mother loves the sea, and father and mother have their own advantages in family education. It is necessary to complement and balance yin and yang in order to be conducive to the growth of children. Mothers should occasionally let go and let fathers take care of their children. Father's active participation can not only make children better, but also make family relations more harmonious.