The performance of doting education is that parents love their children unprincipled, obedient and responsive to their children, and try their best to meet their material needs. For children's wrong behavior, they should be appeased, even sheltered and protected, without paying attention to persuasion and education. In daily life, we don't pay attention to the cultivation of children's labor habits. Everything is arranged for our children so that they can enjoy their success. They can only make ends meet, and they are naked.
The performance of doting education is that parents love their children unprincipled, obedient and responsive to their children, and try their best to meet their material needs. For children's wrong behavior, they should be appeased, even sheltered and protected, without paying attention to persuasion and education. In daily life, we don't pay attention to the cultivation of children's labor habits. Everything is arranged for our children so that they can enjoy their success. They can only make ends meet, and they are naked.
The consequences of doting on education are very serious, which will only lead to the distortion of children's psychological development and form many unhealthy personality qualities and concepts, such as selfishness, bullying, willful greed, indifference and rudeness, and lack of ability to live independently and adapt to society.
Some healthy teenagers eventually degenerate into criminals, a considerable part of which is the result of parents' doting. According to a family education survey of 297 students in a work-study school, more than half of the students were spoiled by their families.
There are countless examples of overindulgence leading to juvenile delinquency.
Yang Tianzhen is really cute. He was regarded as a darling by his parents since he was a child, especially his father. Dad usually takes his baby son shopping as soon as he gets off work. As long as the son has something on his finger, the father will buy it without saying anything. He has never let his son down. Yang learned to spend money. When he asked for money, his father gave it without asking what to buy. In the fourth grade of primary school, Yang learned to smoke. In this regard, the father not only did not stop it, but also personally bought cigarettes for his son. When a father is afraid that his son will be bullied outside, he should educate his son like this: hit someone hard, or you will be bullied yourself. For a long time, children have been bullying in society and dominating the world. In order to satisfy the bad habit of profligacy formed since childhood, Yang learned to steal and finally became a bad teenager.
This case fully illustrates the seriousness of doting. I hereby appeal to parents: educate their children not to spoil!
So, how can we not spoil our children?
First, parents should fully understand the serious consequences of doting on their children and avoid doting. Yang's parents just didn't realize the serious consequences of doting in advance, so Yang committed a crime.
Second, everything you do for children should have principles. We should not tolerate children's violation of national laws, morality and school rules, but should adhere to principles to stop and educate them.
Even if it is a small matter that infringes on the interests of others, we must stop it and not accommodate it. If parents can stick to principles in everything, they can fundamentally put an end to doting.