What our parents should do is to provide fertile land for their children, observe the types of flowers quietly, and then choose cultivation methods, moderately guide them, remove weeds and ensure prosperity.
An excellent child, who can play the piano, dance and draw pictures, has a good academic record. When I grow up, I can do everything in junior high school. I am in the top few in every exam, admitted to a key high school, the top one in the college entrance examination, and admitted to the best universities abroad or at home.
Many people come here in this way, and after a few years, they are studying for graduate students and doctors.
Then, before he was 55 years old, he went to prison. At this time, my parents also shed a line of old tears: "How can my child be like this? ! "
Is this kind of education and this result what we want? At that time, we were pursuing scores, playing chess, painting and calligraphy, and so many talents ... We must think about it. What's wrong with education?
The core issue of education is not students' ability, reform or technology. Our education lacks soul. China's educational technology has gone too fast, and the "soul" can't keep up.
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Guide children to love, be kind and be wise.
Then, when we look at education now, can we not look at it from the perspective of education, but from the perspective of philosophy, is there something wrong with the soul?
Plato said: "education is not his, but the turning of the mind", so where to turn and where to turn? Guide your child to steering score, steering ability, steering ability, steering ability? Neither. Indian philosopher Krishnamurti wrote a book "Education is Emancipating the Mind".
Emancipate the mind, according to Plato's context, where should the mind turn? You studied philosophy. In western philosophy, "love of wisdom" is philosophy. Then I add kindness. There are three things in a person's soul: love, kindness and wisdom.
You said that this person will be incompetent in technology and talent in the future. How bad can he be? It is this thing that is the universal value of our world, but now many people forget it.
From this example, I deeply realized that education is a "slow" art. What is education? Education is like planting flowers, watching them while waiting for them to bloom. I send this sentence to all parents, and their children should be raised like this, slowly, and don't worry. If God allows him to exist in this world, it will definitely give him the embodiment of the value of existence. You remember this sentence, "existence is value".
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Education is like planting flowers, you need to wait for them to bloom.
Life should be a "slow" art, so should education.
Once, a mother came to my house with her fifth-grade daughter. She said, "Teacher, what if the child doesn't like to eat and is thin and small?" I said, "Only 10 years old. What's your hurry? " "She has poor academic performance and can't eat. She is shorter than her peers. How come! " I said, "You have a good image. How bad will your children be? Don't worry. You care too much about the uselessness of this thing. You should take your time to raise people. If you worry, she won't grow up. Do you dare to pull out seedlings? "
20 14, the college entrance examination is over, all the volunteers are filled out, and the admission notice is coming. She came with a slim and beautiful girl and said, "This is the girl of that year." I said, "Are you in a hurry? In a few years, the child is taller and more beautiful than you and has been admitted to a good university. " She said: "I was really anxious at that time, and now I feel very proud."
Education is most afraid of two extremes:
One is to give up completely; The other is to encourage according to the flowers in your heart, not the original lack and demand of flowers. Only by working silently can you have a chance to wait for flowers to bloom.
What our parents should do is to provide fertile land for their children, quietly observe the types of flowers, then choose the cultivation methods, and then moderately guide them to eliminate weeds and ensure prosperity.
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Suitability is the best education
Every student has no clear direction for success. Now some schools say that "as long as you can't learn, you must learn from the dead" and "there are no students who can't teach, only teachers who can't teach". Is it all this boring and melodramatic language, so that education can be done well?
When you see the words "Warmly congratulate XXX on becoming the top scholar in liberal arts (science) and being admitted to Tsinghua and Peking University" written at the gate of our campus today, don't think that such children will succeed in the future. As I said just now, the future of children is infinite. Why are children valuable? Because he is possible, he has unlimited possibilities.
So my conclusion is: first, there is no one-size-fits-all method, but the best education is suitable; Second, every student has no clear direction for success.
Don't think that your child likes painting and playing the piano now. He must be an artist in the future. Maybe his future job has nothing to do with it. He has infinite possibilities. Seeing a child's poor grades, he began to draw a conclusion that the child would either shine shoes or have no future. How can there be such an education?
What are many famous schools doing now? Famous schools choose children to study. Because of the limited quality education resources, there are many people who choose famous schools, so famous schools are eligible for screening.
It is right from the law of things' development and wrong from the perspective of education. Choosing people's education is called "pseudo-education", not real education.
These prestigious schools have to take exams before they can enter the school. The number of languages in two subjects is lower than that in primary school 198. If they have no special skills, they will not be admitted. My school accepts children with a score of 120, and we should also teach them.
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Abandon impetuousness and utilitarianism and return to the law of education.
Why should we concentrate on educating people? Concentration is a state. How many people can dive to do things now? We often regard students as a means, not as our purpose.
You see, why as a means? Cultivate well, and I will have a high bonus after training. This is his way to win prizes and fame, so he is inevitably impetuous.
Now many parents regard children as a means. Learning like this, learning like that, getting the first place in the exam and going to a prestigious school are all issues of face, that is, as a means. Once a child's growth is used to satisfy a certain desire or need of an adult, there must be something wrong with our education.
I'll tell you a simple law of education and see how many of us don't know it now. Now junior high school teachers assign homework, and it is difficult for children to finish 1 1 2 at night, not to mention senior three. What is the growth law of children aged thirteen or fourteen or fifteen or sixteen?
The pituitary gland of these children secretes two very important hormones, one is called sex hormone and the other is called growth hormone, between 1 1 and 3: 00 in the morning, especially between 1 and 3: 00 in the morning. When there is light and pressure, it will not be secreted. Therefore, children will not grow up well if they don't sleep well and are under great pressure. This is the law.
If the teacher understands this rule, there are requirements when assigning homework, and children must fall asleep at 10: 30 at the latest. Because children can only enter a deep sleep state after sleeping for two hours. Do we abide by these rules now? No, it doesn't matter. Study hard, for grades, skills and talents.
So my belief in education is to return to the law of education, slowly, quietly, quietly. Don't show off rashly, there will be the result we want. At that time, our children had good grades, good talents, strong abilities and full souls. This is the new normal of education.
The second "possibility" means that we need to know that there are all possibilities in the child's future. What he studies now, even his talent and his grades, does not mean what he can do or will do in the future. But now he wants to make achievements, so he should study hard. Personally, I don't think we can throw all these away, so as to ensure the possibility of the future.
Therefore, there is an appropriateness. "Appropriateness" is actually the way of our education. It must conform to the law and be suitable for children. Don't look at your neighbor's children who learn everything about piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and send their own children to school. As a doctor, it is wrong to think that the doctor's son will learn more than others. It's no use learning what is not suitable for him. You must know what children like.
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Education must be based on three principles.
How to do education? This problem is also an educational philosophical speculation. Education without grades (exams) is not established, and education that only talks about grades is definitely flawed. This is philosophy. So what do philosophers think of education? The most classic is Aristotle's original words: "Education must be based on three principles, the golden mean, the possibility and the appropriateness".
The doctrine of the mean, in the words of Confucius, is to "go to both ends and use them." In short, it means not to be left, not to be right, not to be down, not to be up, and to keep the middle above. Personally, I think the doctrine of the mean is the best philosophy in life and even education, that is to say, don't go too far or do enough in education, it's as simple as that.
What do you mean by too much? Now we have gone too far and constantly made changes in technology, so that our teachers don't know how to attend classes and leaders don't know how to arrange their work.
School education has gone too far, forgetting the laws of education and the inherent things of education itself.