For children, taking other people's things is not stealing in the concept of adults. Most children still can't understand that their actions are actually wrong. The reason why they take other people's things is actually out of these psychology.
? Stealing? My children's psychology comes first, and I really like it.
For children, what is not correctly understood? Other people's property? . So in the face of what they like, they will want to keep it for themselves, which is actually normal for children.
Second, you can't get what you want.
The less you get, the more you will like it. Adults should understand this truth. In fact, this kind of thought has appeared in our hearts since we have self-awareness, and it also belongs to the inferiority of human beings and cannot be changed.
What you can't get will increase your desire to own. For children, it may be a pack of snacks that mom and dad don't allow, or toys that mom and dad don't buy, which will lead to children stealing.
Third, simply afraid of losing.
Sometimes we will find that if a child can't put it down after someone gives him something, then he will hide it in a place that only he knows. In fact, this is because children are afraid of losing this thing, so some children will hide what their friends lent them.
Why a child? Steal? ? The reason for this situation is also very simple, and the following are common reasons. Parents can play a role by educating their children in a targeted way.
1, the child has no sense of belonging.
As mentioned above, many children do not realize what this thing is. Other people's property? . When something is given to them, they will feel that it belongs to them.
2. Parents are either too satisfied or too dissatisfied with their children's daily material requirements.
In fact, these two ways of treating children may cause this problem. Being too satisfied will make children feel that everything they like and want is taken for granted. If you are too dissatisfied, it will make children think that you can't get it.
3. Children are too selfish
This should be an inevitable problem for many parents when educating their only child. Children don't know how to share, so selfish, they just want others to meet their own requirements, but they don't want to share their own things.
It is normal for children of this age to have these situations. As long as parents educate their children well, they can still change their ideas. In order to avoid these problems, parents need to do the following in their daily education.
1, educate children about their ownership.
The first and most important thing, of course, is to teach children what is the ownership of things, that is? Property rights awareness? . It is best to let children understand this problem by empathy. With a sense of substitution, children will be easier to understand.
2. Let children learn to share and avoid selfishness.
Many children will have such a situation, essentially because of selfishness, because the education children get does not have the importance of sharing. Nowadays, many children are only children and are used to their parents' love, so in their hearts, the whole world should revolve around themselves.
3. Grasp the child's satisfaction
Speaking of which, I believe parents can understand that what can't be said is the best. Many parents always like to reward their children with what they like and encourage them to learn. This method is actually possible, but it is not suitable for all situations.
Parents need to meet their children's needs moderately and try their best to do what they promised.
Once something similar to Ms. Yang's family happens, parents can't get angry with their children directly, and don't think about using violent education to solve all problems.
Only in this way can parents solve the problem of stealing? Take root and sprout? 1, first understand the reasons behind the children doing this.
Parents should not get angry with their children directly, but should patiently understand the cause and effect from their children. Most children don't know that their actions are wrong. At this time, if parents use violent means, the purpose of education may not be achieved, but it will definitely leave a deep shadow on children.
2. According to the cause and effect of the matter, tell the child that this behavior is wrong.
Knowing what happened is the best time to educate children. Because in this process, children have deepened their memory of their behavior, and parents will also educate their children at this time, and their acceptance will be higher.
3. Let the child put himself in the position of the person who lost something.
Needless to say, many parents will ask their children when educating them: If it were you, would you be unhappy? ? In fact, this is to teach children to put themselves in other's shoes.
What parents should do is to reflect. Many parents will scold their children when they hear that they are stealing. In fact, it is understandable that parents hate iron to produce steel, but parents also ignore the influence of parents on their children's behavior.
Then not only children need to reflect on such behavior, but parents also need to reflect on their own behavior and daily education methods.
Children should not be taught that these behaviors are wrong just because such things have happened, but should avoid such behaviors from the beginning. There are always many parents who want to excuse their children or clean themselves up after their children make mistakes.
Some people even said when outsiders asked? I don't know how he became like this. In this case, but why the child will become like this, parents really don't know? In fact, it is only because of the wrong educational methods of parents. It's just that many parents are afraid and unwilling to admit that there is something wrong with their education methods, and they would rather believe that their children have problems.