Thomas and Armstrong, American children education scholars, pointed out that free play is more beneficial to the health of preschool children than planned activities. Parents should avoid filling their children's time with various activities. All children need some free and casual play time.
2. Teach him to care about others.
Happy children need to feel that they have some meaningful connections with others and understand what he means to others. To cultivate this feeling, you can help your child to get in touch with others more. You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with him to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school. Experts point out that even at a very young age, you can get happiness from helping others. And form the habit of helping others.
A good way to educate children.
3. Encourage him to do more exercise
Playing ball games, cycling, swimming with your child ... Doing more exercise can not only exercise your child's physical fitness, but also make him more cheerful. Maintaining a vibrant life can moderately relieve children's stress and emotions, make children like themselves, have a more positive body image, and find fun and a sense of accomplishment from sports.
4. laugh often
Telling jokes, making up some funny songs and laughing with children are good for you and your children. Just laughing is good exercise.
5. Creative compliments
When children behave well, don't just say yes. Be specific, tell the details, and point out the places that are impressive or better than last time. For example, it is really polite for you to say good morning to the doorman's uncle today. However, we should also pay attention to praise and not develop children's false expectations. Some parents will reward their children with gifts or money, so that their children can focus on what rewards they can get, rather than doing well. Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by completing a thing, instead of rewarding him with material rewards.
A good way to educate children.
6. Ensure that children eat healthily.
A healthy diet can not only make children healthy, but also make their emotions more stable. Whether it's dinner or snacks, we should try to follow healthy principles, such as low-fat, low-sugar, fresh and balanced diet.
7. Stimulate his inner artistic talent
Although scientists have confirmed that there is no so-called Mozart effect, exposing children to music, art, dance and other activities can still enrich their inner world. Experts have found that when children dance to music or hold a crow with a brush, it is actually a way for children to express their inner world and feelings. Children like painting, dancing or playing music, and they will feel more satisfied with themselves.
8. Hug often
A gentle hug conveys infinite care and is silent. I love you. Studies have found that gentle touching and hugging can make premature babies healthier, more active and more emotionally stable. For adults, hugs can also relieve stress and calm restless emotions.
A good way to educate children.
9. Listen attentively
Nothing can make children feel cared for more than listening attentively. Want to be a better listener? Don't listen with only one ear. When the child is talking to you, try to stop what you are doing and listen to him attentively. Listen to the child patiently. Don't interrupt, hurry to help him express himself or let him finish his words quickly, even if you have heard what he said many times. It is the best time to listen when you accompany your child to school or put him to bed.
10, give up perfectionism
We all expect our children to show their best, but sometimes we are too eager to correct or improve their performance. For example, we hate that they don't clean the table, but simply clean it. Or correct them. They must put things in a certain position. Demanding perfection in everything will weaken children's self-confidence and courage not to be afraid of making mistakes. The next time you can't help but want to get involved and try to help your child do things better, think about it first: Is this related to health or safety? Imagine, after 10 years, is this matter still so serious? If not, let the children do it.
1 1. Teach him to solve the problem.
Every step from learning to tie your shoelaces to crossing the street by yourself is a milestone for children to become more independent. When children find that they have the ability to solve the problems they face, they can bring happiness and a sense of accomplishment to them. When he meets obstacles, such as being laughed at by his playmates, or unable to solve a puzzle, you can take several steps to help him:
(1) Confirm his problem.
(2) Let him describe his solution.
(3) Find out the steps to solve the problem.
(4) Decide to let him solve the problem by himself or provide some help.
(5) Make sure that he can get the help he needs.
A good way to educate children.
12, his stage
Every child has a unique talent, why not give them a chance to show it? If they like telling stories, encourage them to tell you more stories. If he is good at numbers, take him shopping and ask him to help you choose a cheaper one. When you can appreciate your child's talent and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally be more confident. Children around us need not only a carefree living environment, but also adults to accompany them to experience its growth process.
13, lead by example
Example is an important way to influence and educate children with other people's good thoughts and behaviors. For example, classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroes and model figures, positive figures in literary and artistic works, and excellent qualities of revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. Whether parents' words and deeds are right or wrong, they have a far-reaching impact on children. Therefore, parents should always show themselves everywhere in their daily lives.
A good way to educate children.
14, environmental edification
Parents should consciously create a good living environment for their children to be infected and edified. Family is the main place where children live. Parents should organize their own lives, handle the relationship between members, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the criterion, form a United and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate children's beautiful sentiments.
15, criticism and punishment
Criticism and punishment are the negation of children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is an educational means for serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, we should first fully understand the situation, grasp the specific situation and severity of bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from the wrong reality. Criticism means pointing out the harm and ideological roots, denying their thoughts and behaviors, making them feel ashamed and miserable, and then generating the motivation to correct their mistakes. When criticizing, don't be sarcastic, sarcastic or abusive. Punishment is mainly deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, not insulting personality and destroying body and mind.
16, guiding the arrangement of life order
A good life order is an effective way to cultivate children's good habits. Guide children to arrange their daily lives, arrange their living environment, and teach them to study and use their time in an orderly way. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can give directions.
17, persuasion education
The specific methods of persuasion education: First, talk. Parents should put facts and reason according to their children's thoughts, so that children can understand certain truth. Speak with pertinence and flexibility, and have a pleasant attitude. Don't be condescending and cynical. The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together. When discussing, we should respect children, listen to their opinions patiently, have incorrect opinions, reason patiently, and let children distinguish right from wrong. Parents should have the courage to admit that their views are incorrect.
18, actual combat drill
The content of practical exercise is quite extensive, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, taking care of yourself, housework, working independently, being polite, socializing and so on. To carry out actual exercise, we should first let the children know the purpose (why), put forward specific requirements (how to do it), and encourage them to overcome difficulties and stick to it. The content of exercises should be suitable for children's age characteristics and personality characteristics, and the tasks and requirements given should be based on children's actual ability and appropriate. Children should be allowed to make mistakes in practice and not be too demanding. Parents can't stop exercising because they are afraid of their children suffering.
A good way to educate children.
19, likes and rewards
Praise and reward is to affirm and praise children's thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, strengthen children's enterprising spirit and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and reward should be realistic, timely and explain the reasons, and should be based on spiritual rewards, supplemented by material rewards.
20, guide extracurricular reading
Guide children to read books, newspapers and magazines, and learn useful spiritual nutrition from them. Parents should master the content of children's reading, discuss with children, and guide children to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons and get spiritual cultivation through reading.
2 1, using home TV
When TV enters the family, children can gain a lot of knowledge from watching TV, increase their knowledge and make full use of it. But be careful: you can't have no choice and don't spend too long. After watching TV, you'd better talk to your children and discuss the TV content.
A good way to educate children.
22. Lead children out to contact the society.
Take children to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories, and rural areas, or visit classmates, relatives, and friends for social interaction, so that they can broaden their horizons, get in touch with society, and get to know society.