I think we must formally introduce this dying great man!
Growth consultant
Growth consultant is a unique educational role in Shanghai, and it is also a soul figure who is different from other institutions to participate in courses and camps.
Growth consultant, which is also the most demanding position, must require background experience in psychology or pedagogy, and do professional educational research and education support.
Growth consultants, what are they doing? Let's take a look at the growth consultant's records.
Xiaoling, a sophomore, is taking a reading class of Ivy League life books.
When she entered adolescence, she wanted to make her own decisions on many things, but the family didn't like the child's slow movements, so she replaced her or urged her.
Xiaoling often loses her temper when she is urged. The family didn't understand why she lost her temper, so she was particularly puzzled and asked me for help.
I have met Xiaoling's parents. They are very gentle and introverted people and love their daughters very much. With such gentle and considerate parents in my work intuition, children are generally not ashamed to express their needs.
It was not until an interview that I talked with grandma Xiaoling, who had lived together for a long time, that I found out the problem. Grandma is a straightforward person with strong housework and communication skills. She was particularly anxious when she saw her granddaughter moving slowly, and sometimes she simply replaced her granddaughter.
Grandma and Xiaoling's parents disagree on education. Xiaoling's parents want to let go properly and cultivate their children's ability to live independently, but grandma can't stand it. She can't stand the child's slowness.
My focus began to turn to my grandmother, and I was puzzled by her: "You expect your children to learn to take care of themselves and communicate independently like older children, but you treat your children as babies because taking care of everything is too slow." Where will she get the opportunity to grow? "
Grandma, who has always been strong, admitted that she was wrong for the first time. I was very moved by the old man's bravery. Grandma realized that replacing or urging children could not help them, but hurt them. Grandma gradually changed her attitude.
Xiaoling and I also confirmed eight "declarations of independence" through conversation, which respectively represent what she wants to be independent in life, study and communication, and her family only helps her when necessary.
After chatting with Xiaoling, I seem to see a bird finally break through the cage and fly to its own sky with its wings.
Xiao Li, a third-year student, is taking an Ivy League elementary general education course.
Xiaoli's father is an executive of a company. He is very busy at work and occasionally travels on business. Mother is a housewife, taking care of Xiao Li's daily life and studies.
When she came to Shanghai, what her mother wanted to solve most was the problem of Xiao Li's procrastination in homework.
In the first interview, I invited my parents to attend at the same time or make an appointment for a separate conversation. If there are grandparents with permanent residents at home, I will also talk to them casually.
Because the occurrence of a problem in the family is often related to every member of the family, and everyone has a share. Long-term work experience has also made me find that father and mother usually look at the same problem from different angles. I hope I can fully understand how they look at this problem.
My mother thinks that the child's homework is procrastinating because the child's attitude is not correct and there is something wrong with his attention. After writing for a while, I just looked around. Based on this knowledge, my mother is anxious and angry.
Dad thinks it's no big deal to do homework. Besides studying, children's life also includes health, entertainment, games and friends. This is not a problem.
In addition, based on the intimate relationship I established with my children in the early stage, I made an appointment with my children to chat alone. I hope to hear his views on this issue from the child's point of view. For example, what does he think of doing homework? Does he have any difficulty in doing his homework? Does he have a sense of accomplishment in doing his homework?
After understanding the comprehensive angle, I shared the comprehensive angle and pictures I saw with my parents.
Interestingly, when I help my parents see a more comprehensive reality, change will happen.
Through my conversation with my child, my parents learned that the child had encountered difficulties in his homework. The school has a new teacher recently. The new teacher is very strict and lectures quickly. Xiaoli didn't understand thoroughly in class, so she was very slow in doing her homework.
However, because his father came home late, he didn't dare to ask his mother for help. He was afraid that his mother would criticize him for not listening carefully in class, so Xiao Li had no choice but to meet with difficulties.
Dongdong, a sophomore, is taking an Ivy League general education course in his junior year.
Dongdong will go to the custody class to finish his homework every day after school. One day, Xiao Hu's father told Dongdong's mother that he wanted to change the custody class for Xiao Hu because Dongdong kept hitting him.
Dongdong's mother asked Dongdong the first time, and Dongdong said that Xiaohu likes to shout and sing loudly. Dongdong thinks tigers are too noisy. At first, he coaxed him, but the tiger wouldn't listen. Then Dongdong hit someone.
After listening, Dongdong's mother told Dongdong that you can't hit people under any circumstances, and you can find another way.
Dongdong explained again that he had told him many times, but he wouldn't listen. Others said he wouldn't listen and put up with it, but he didn't want to put up with it like others before hitting people.
When I heard this, Dongdong Ma didn't know what to say. She could only say that she would deduct your pocket money if she hit someone again!
Now Dongdong is even angrier, pushing his mother's bike down violently.
After listening to Dongdong's mother's description, my first reaction was that Dongdong did a great job and was particularly proud of him.
I said to Dongdong's mother, "Look, Dongdong wants a quiet learning environment. How just and reasonable this request is!
He told the tiger well at first, but the tiger didn't respond. Dongdong must feel cheated, and so does the tiger. At the same time, his efforts were not rewarded, and he felt that he was not respected. Coupled with the frustration of his unsuccessful efforts, he suddenly became particularly angry. Finally, he solved the problem with his fist.
In this process, Dongdong's psychological demand for a quiet learning environment and respect is reasonable. He tried to control his emotions and tried to find a solution to the problem. It's just that his own efforts didn't receive the expected effect, and he finally chose to express it with his fist. Of course, this behavior is wrong. "
Dongdong's mother suddenly realized: "Oh, I didn't see the good side of Dongdong, and I didn't try to understand his reasonable needs."
Dongdong explained it to his mother twice and reminded Xiao Hu several times, but she didn't get it. Instead, her mother said that if she hit someone again, she would be given pocket money as punishment.
Dongdong wants her mother to understand that her psychological needs of being treated fairly have not been met. He'll think I tried my best, but my mother didn't see it. Obviously, the tiger was wrong first. And he may be fined pocket money in the future, which is unfair!
The double anger of not being understood and not being treated fairly is finally expressed by pushing down the bicycle.
Finally, I set a small goal for Dongdong's mother-to help Dongdong understand his emotions, learn reasonable expressions, and let Dongdong's anger find an outlet without hurting others. After repeated practice with my mother, my mother finally mastered the way to really help her children grow up.
These are different pictures of the work of Shanghai Growth Consulting Company.
When a family enters Shanghai, there will be a professional "growth consultant" to serve the family and accompany the growth of children and parents.
The growth consultant will communicate and interact with parents through interviews, telephone calls, text messages and emails to help parents and children grow together.
Help students grow better.
Growth consultants can understand students comprehensively, help them confirm their growth direction, design targeted educational measures and finally urge them to achieve their growth goals by continuously observing their performance in class or camp activities.
Help parents become educational experts.
Therefore, we are also committed to adjusting the most important family environment in the process of students' growth through consulting services, helping parents understand students' growth needs and providing professional educational concepts and methods.
Growth counselors will grow up with their parents through communication (face-to-face and telephone), regular reports and targeted educational suggestions. Let parents become "education experts".
Therefore, if we sum up in one sentence what help the growth consultant has provided to these families, then it can be said that the growth consultant is like the "third eye" of the family.
As an outsider of the family, growth consultants help family members to see the blind spots neglected by them with the third eye, thus promoting mutual understanding among family members and solving problems better.
On the surface, children only come to Shanghai for classes every week. However, there is so much detailed work behind the class.
I believe you can now imagine why children like death courses so much, because every child is a unique individual and is so valued in death.
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